I'm not gay, you are

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Ever found yourself questioning the roots of your identity? In our latest episode, we dive deep into the thought-provoking intersection of genetics and sexual orientation with Tom, a molecular genetics expert. From childhood crushes to the science of ‘gay genes’, Tom shares his personal narrative, offering a unique lens through which to examine the nature vs. nurture debate. We unravel how individual experiences shape our identities against the backdrop of evolving scientific understanding. Throughout our conversation, we tackle profound questions about the genetics of queerness, touching on studies involving twins and the implications of designer babies. Tom provides critical insights into the ethics surrounding genetic modifications and what it means for future generations, especially within the LGBTQ+ community. We'll explore not just the science, but also the societal attitudes that have historically framed our understanding of queer identities. Our discussion aims to illuminate the complexities surrounding sexual orientation while fostering open dialogue about acceptance and diversity in today’s world. As we share personal stories along with scientific insights, we encourage you to reflect on your thoughts and engage with us in the conversation. Join us on this enlightening journey, and don’t forget to subscribe for more enriching discussions!

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Imagine navigating the choppy waters of self-identity, where understanding your own sexuality feels like a puzzle with missing pieces. Kaitlyn, a treasured friend of mine and my partner's best friend, joins us to share her poignant journey of self-discovery as a bisexual woman. At just 18, she faced the daunting task of figuring out her attraction to both sexes and the societal norms that clouded her understanding of the future. Through Kaitlyn's heartfelt narrative, we unpack the challenges and triumphs of embracing one's true self, illustrating how curiosity and courage can transform confusion into clarity.

From Instagram stalking *insert winky face* to lifelong love, their modern-day romance story unfolds next. Kaitlyn's fiancée, Celeste (or Cel, as she's lovingly called), and her found each other in the vast world of social media, and their connection quickly blossomed into something deeper. Their path to engagement was filled with moments of serendipity, from jet-lagged naps on first dates to the swift comfort of a shared home. They also touch on the stereotypes of modern dating and how breaking those molds brought them even closer together, revealing the beauty of finding love in unexpected places.
But the journey of love doesn't come without its hurdles, particularly when it involves coming out to loved ones. Kaitlyn recounts the spontaneous decision to share my bisexual identity with her mom during a phone call, an anxiety-laden yet liberating experience. Kaitlyn also sheds light on the broader challenges bisexual individuals face, such as stereotypes and societal expectations. Together, we discuss the importance of authenticity and the support found in trusted friendships. This episode aims to support and inspire, encouraging listeners to embrace their unique journeys and to live truthfully, regardless of societal norms or preconceived labels.

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What if the internal battles we fight daily are as insidious as external judgments? Join me, Joey, as I share my own unvarnished journey of coming out and the complex emotions that accompanied it on "I'm Not Gay, You Are." With Krisztina, the Chill Therapist, guiding our conversation, we address the fragmented path to self-acceptance, the spectrum of internalized homophobia, and the role humour plays as Joey's defense mechanism against fear and self-loathing. By giving a persona to his shame—"Helga"—we explore how labeling impacts identity and expression.
Our conversation takes a deeper look into how shame influences public expressions of affection and the barriers this creates for many in the LGBTQ+ community. We explore the fear of both internalized self-criticism and external bias, leading to self-imposed limitations on genuine connection. Christina and I touch upon experiences from my past, including a painful incident where I was publicly humiliated with a homophobic slur, and how this moment fostered a long-lasting struggle with my self-esteem. These stories underline the ongoing battle with societal norms and the courage it takes to live authentically despite these pressures.
We wrap up with a reflection on the therapeutic journey of understanding and embracing one's true identity beyond past traumas and societal expectations. Through candid storytelling, our conversation aims to be both reflective and healing, encouraging listeners to embark on their own paths of self-discovery. With humour, introspection, and support, the episode seeks to foster inclusivity and hope, inviting listeners to recognize and accept all parts of themselves as they navigate the complexities of identity.
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Callum, affectionately known as "Tiny Daddy," joins us for an eye-opening conversation about identity, love, and the journey to personal authenticity. His unique nickname, birthed from a creative project during art school, intertwines his passions for writing and drag, becoming an integral part of his identity. Callum shares his early awareness of his sexuality and the supportive environment that nurtured his understanding of being gay, despite the challenges of relocating to a conservative town. His story is one of resilience, creativity, and the power of self-expression.
Our conversation takes an engaging turn as we explore the complexities of relationships, balancing between monogamy and open partnerships. Callum candidly discusses his choice to embrace an open relationship, emphasizing the crucial role of communication and breaking free from societal norms. We tackle common misconceptions about non-monogamous relationships, highlighting how setting boundaries and fostering honesty can lead to more authentic and fulfilling connections. The discussion provides valuable insights into the evolving dynamics of love and the importance of personal fulfillment in relationships.
The episode concludes with a look at modern dating and how platforms like Sniffies are reshaping the way people connect. Callum shares humorous anecdotes and lessons learned from these experiences, challenging traditional perspectives on marriage and connection. From redefining what marriage means to embracing the spontaneity of love, Callum encourages us to celebrate love in all its forms. It's a heartfelt reminder of the importance of adaptability, mutual respect, and personal growth in our relationships.

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What if a chance encounter at a bar could change your life forever? We welcome Paul Sansom, our delightful guest from the Shetland Islands, who shares their extraordinary love story with his partner, Eloi, spanning from Edinburgh to Vancouver. From unforgettable meetings at iconic bars to heartwarming tales of connection, Paul recounts the serendipitous moments that defined their relationship. As they adjusts to a new life in Canada, Paul provides us with a glimpse into his personal adventures and the charm of navigating love across continents.
Paul’s journey of coming out and self-discovery offers profound insights into embracing one's identity amidst a backdrop of religious upbringing. Join us as Paul opens up about the challenges and victories of accepting their true self, highlighting the support and understanding needed in coming out to family and friends. His narrative is a testament to the strength found in diversity and the importance of celebrating queer experiences. Through humorous and heartfelt stories, Paul inspires us to understand the power of individuality and the significance of representation in discussions on gender and sexual identity.
As we explore broader themes of identity, Paul shares personal reflections on navigating pronouns and challenging societal norms, particularly in the workplace. We discuss the importance of sensitivity and respect in supporting diverse identities while questioning the need for rigid labels. With insightful anecdotes and engaging discussions, this episode encourages listeners to envision a more inclusive world, where gender and sexual orientation are embraced without constraints. Tune in to gain a fresh perspective on authenticity, understanding, and the courage to live truthfully.

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