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In today’s episode, I’m going to talk about [ A DOMINANT'S PERSPECTIVE ] Perspective in life in general and perspective in your Married Dominance and submission relationship (D/s M).

This morning, I was chatting with Fade, Fade is a member in the Fox’s Den. I really enjoy the camaraderie of the other Dominants and the conversations that take place there. It really helps me personally in my growth as a person and a leader in all aspects of my life.
In an effort to begin a conversation with Fade, I began to make small talk by asking him how he was doing today and his response was a small reflection into his character as a person, and as a man.

Join me today as I talk about how a positive perspective, or a positive attitude is one of the most important attributes for any great leader or Dominant to possess.
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Relationships are challenging. How to have a close and meaningful relationship with your partner is not something that most or probably any of us were ever taught in school, and some of us have few, if any, good role models to emulate.

It has been said that how we behave in our intimate relationships today is often a reflection of our parents and how they behaved towards one another in their relationship. This statement will vary from individual to individual but for myself, in some instances at least, it is alarmingly accurate. Through the years I have demonstrated many of the same marital blunders as my father.

My father is not to blame, however, and neither is his father or his father’s father. And if you are in a similar situation your father isn't at fault either. Remember, most of us have never been specifically taught how to have a successful and fulfilling marriage including your father.

Powerful relationships don't just happen by chance. And the couples living them don't take them for granted. They are fully present, all of the time, and they have learned the skills that are required to succeed in a relationship. When you see a married couple that has a healthy meaningful relationship, the odds are if their happiness is authentic, that they will have many other powerful relationships in their lives as well. It is almost as if they have cracked the code on relationship skills.

If you are listening to this podcast you are most likely here learning or honing those very skills, never taught to us anywhere else. Those skills are required to have a successful, meaningful, and purposeful relationship.

Understanding the most common behaviors that damage relationships can be a good first step to having a powerful lasting marriage.

See how many of these behaviors seem familiar, either in yourself or your partner. Which ones of these do you excel at and which ones should you focus more attention on?

Leading with integrated masculine energy!

This podcast episode topic was generated from a conversation that I had while chatting with another husDOM in the Fox's Den. I could remember how I felt during the beginning of my Dominance and submission journey and how difficult it was to develop the true confidence. Not the light hearted, sure I am a Dom attitude, but rather the knowing it, feeling it. Being confident that I would do the right thing in the right moment.

In this episode I recommend three attributes to focus on to help us build and enhance our confidence in the new role of being Dominant husband.

After listening to the episode I invite you to continue the conversation by leaving a comment on the bottom of the podcast episode's webpage.

Leading with integrated masculine energy!

If you have read any of my articles on husDOM.com You may have noticed a common thread. I usually archive my personal experiences, my personal struggles. I believe that it not only helps you listeners or the people reading the articles on husDOM.com. I also believe that when I write it down, it helps me look at that situation from a different perspective. And that comes from actually trying to describe it to others put it into words put that situation into words. Well, today's not much of a departure from what I've done in the past. Today, I'm going to talk about a struggle, and not just a struggle, right? It's much more personal for me. It's about my struggle. I don't want anyone to focus too much today on me and my struggle. Right?
The real lesson is that we all have ebbs and flows. Nobody is immune to that. Hopefully over time, though, we develop the skills to avoid most of these ebbs. And also the skills to help recognize when we're in these choppy waters, right? When things need to be addressed. And for us men, us strong men, this may be one of the most difficult things to do. To actually recognize and admit when we're not getting the results that we want. If we admit that we should pivot that maybe just maybe we're not doing something right. Some guys get hung up right here. Right? They feel like failures. Gentlemen, we cannot allow ourselves to get hung up on silly shit like this. We will all need to pivot along our journeys always. It's not if but when. And it's certainly not a failure. The only failure would be not recognizing the need to pivot or not taking action. Growth actually happens from learning to evaluate situations and take positive action, not just action, but action with intention, right? A specific action with the intention to get a specific result.

Leading with integrated masculine energy!

In today’s episode, I am going to talk about PLEASURE, more specifically as the Leader, as the Dominant, whose pleasure are you striving to fulfill in the relationship?

A couple of days ago, lk and I sat down and discussed several topics that came to mind. At one point, she fired off several great but difficult questions. As we began to discuss some of these questions in more detail, I thought that it may be beneficial to share one of them with you.

When is your pleasure more important than hers?

When leading with masculinity, what is the correct answer?

Is her pleasure more important than yours?

Or should your pleasure take precedence over hers?

Leading with integrated masculine energy!