Dating in Denmark, Part 2: Dating Danish men, a guide for the foreign woman

02/16/14 • 5 min

If you are a romance novelist, the Danish man is not your dream man. He will not write poetry and pursue his beloved to the ends of the Earth. He won't send flowers, he won't buy chocolates. He won't even help carry packages.

That said, if you’re a feminist, a Danish man IS your dream man. He will cook and help with the housework, and spend time with the kids. He'll respect your opinion, and he won't force himself on you. In fact, you may have to force yourself on him. But if you do, he’ll usually be really grateful.

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Dating in Denmark, Part 1: Meeting Danish women, a guide for the foreign man

A lot of the mail I get at howtoliveindenmark.com get is from men, wanting to know how they can meet women in Denmark.

I can understand this. Danish women are very beautiful. And I can tell you now, most of them will not immediately exclude you because you have a different skin color. I know of several babies of mixed heritage here in Denmark.

That said, dating in Denmark is hard, even for the Danes, and it will probably be hard for you too.

That’s because the process that works in much of the rest of the Western world doesn’t work in Denmark. In most parts of the world, a man will see a woman he likes, and he’ll approach her. He’ll try to start a conversation. Maybe he’ll ask if he can buy her a coffee, or some other type of drink. If they’re in a nightclub, he might ask her if she’d like to dance, or maybe go outside and get some fresh air.

These tactics will get you nowhere in Denmark.

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How to find a job in Denmark: Not easy, but it can be done

Finding a job anywhere is a headache, and Denmark is no different. And let's be frank, if the employer has a choice between a foreigner and a Dane, they're probably going to hire the Danish person. The Danish person knows the language, the Danish person knows the culture, the Danish person knows what type of cheese to bring for the Friday morning shared breakfast. Nevertheless, it is possible for a foreigner to find work in Denmark. Here are my tips for a successful job search in Denmark.