How To Deal With Grief and Trauma - 21 Sharna Southan | The Changes Needed in Pregnancy Loss Support

21 Sharna Southan | The Changes Needed in Pregnancy Loss Support

11/28/22 • 38 min

Today on the podcast I’m speaking with Sharna who I’ve come to appreciate as a force for change in regard to the support offered to women in dealing with their pregnancy loss, a passion we have in common.

Talking about her missed miscarriage Sharna shares:

‘...never experienced contractions before so I didn’t know that's what I was experiencing until I got to the hospital until they told me then what was going on. They also told me that one in four pregnancies ends in loss and I was like: “Well, then why do I feel like I'm the only one? Why is there not enough information? Why does no one talk about this?” I felt like I was living under a rock, like where have I been my whole life to not know about this?’

About this week’s guest

Sharna Southan is an ICF-certified coach, a mum to her rainbow baby, a business owner and a wife. She followed her heart and soul into business after her own pregnancy loss in 2017. Sharna firmly believes that our adversity gives us an opportunity to grow.

She founded The Institute of Healing through Pregnancy Loss supporting loss parents with her transformative Pregnancy Loss recovery method and teaching her signature Pregnancy Loss PractitionerTM️ Certification Program.

Topics discussed in this episode

Dealing with the loss of her father at the age of nineteen, led to depression, anxiety, panic attacks
Missed miscarriage and the trauma of miscarrying
Feeling isolated in not knowing that 1 in 4 pregnancies ends in loss
Lack of information and support on what miscarriage means emotionally, and physically and what it may require in care
Finding help through professional support

Resources mentioned in this episode

About this week’s guest

Topics discussed in this episode

Dealing with the loss of her father at the age of nineteen, led to depression, anxiety, panic attacks
Missed miscarriage and the trauma of miscarrying
Feeling isolated in not knowing that 1 in 4 pregnancies ends in loss
Lack of information and support on what miscarriage means emotionally, and physically and what it may require in care
Finding help through professional support

Resources mentioned in this episode

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20 Katja Faber | Continuing Living While Grieving After Homicide Loss Part 2

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Today on the podcast I have the pleasure to delve deeper with Katja Faber, who has been a guest on the Podcast in Season 1. If you haven’t already, go check out her episode which has been one of most downloaded and listener showed a clear interest to know more.
Among other things, today Katja and I speak about the important topic of victim blaming and defamation, the changes in personality due to dealing with such a traumatic loss and the loss of innocence.

Katja shares:

‘I cannot image that however much I have come to accept the reality, that I’m a loss mother I will ever accept that Alex is dead. These are just two things that I can know for myself that this is something I am now. That my son does not live anymore, I still struggle with. And I always will.’

About this week’s guest

Katja Faber is the mother of three children. Following her 23-year-old son's murder in Switzerland, she used her legal training to work closely with lawyers and the State Prosecutor to secure justice for her dead son. Through her writing at Still Standing Magazine and other grief-related publications she hopes to break the taboo of homicide loss and child loss. She runs her own fruit farm and is an advocate of ecotherapy as a means of finding healing following traumatic loss. Katja is a certified Compassionate Bereavement Care® counselor through the Center for Loss and Trauma in partnership with the MISS Foundation and the Elisabeth Kubler-Ross Family Trust.

Make sure to listen to the podcast to the very end as there are some gems to be found there. I am sure you will enjoy and learn from today’s episode.

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Topics discussed in this episode

The challenges of being in court, both as a grieving mother and as a plaintiff
The invaluable support of friends and family
Victim blaming and defamation
The changes in her personality
The loss of innocence

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22 Brooke Carlock | If This Wasn’t Enough Already

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Today on the podcast I’m speaking with Brooke whose story could be one that movies are made of. She has experienced loss after loss culminating in a series of devastating and traumatic losses within the past 12 months.

Listening to Brooke telling her life story is both devastating and shocking, at the same time as hope-inspiring in the way she’s living her life after loss with fierce resilience at the same time as grieving.

She speaks candidly about the dark places she went through while grieving and how she got help when she was suicidal.

The truth is that there are people like Brooke who have no choice but to live with multiple traumatic losses. The question is: how do we meet them? How do we enable ourselves to hold space for someone and their situation?

Regarding the people who helped Brooke the most, she says:

‘I want to be strong, and I want to keep going and find meaning in things. I'm just like a go-go-go person and the most helpful thing for me was people saying: ‘Slow down and breathe. You need to feel this and not rush through it, not ignore it, not medicate it.’

About this week’s guest

Brooke Carlock has experienced more grief and loss in her lifetime than most...
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Topics discussed in this episode

Loss of her favourite grandfather when Brooke was 10-year-old
Loss of her sister leaving behind young children, and multiple losses in the close family
Divorce
Most recently her father (heart attack), closely followed by her stepmom (overdose) and dealing with both funeral arrangement
News of the terminal illness of her mother
Loss of her daughter Libby through a car accident
Dealing with the dark places in early grief and suicidal thoughts