How To Deal With Grief and Trauma - 20 Katja Faber | Continuing Living While Grieving After Homicide Loss Part 2

20 Katja Faber | Continuing Living While Grieving After Homicide Loss Part 2

11/21/22 • 35 min

Today on the podcast I have the pleasure to delve deeper with Katja Faber, who has been a guest on the Podcast in Season 1. If you haven’t already, go check out her episode which has been one of most downloaded and listener showed a clear interest to know more.
Among other things, today Katja and I speak about the important topic of victim blaming and defamation, the changes in personality due to dealing with such a traumatic loss and the loss of innocence.

Katja shares:

‘I cannot image that however much I have come to accept the reality, that I’m a loss mother I will ever accept that Alex is dead. These are just two things that I can know for myself that this is something I am now. That my son does not live anymore, I still struggle with. And I always will.’

About this week’s guest

Katja Faber is the mother of three children. Following her 23-year-old son's murder in Switzerland, she used her legal training to work closely with lawyers and the State Prosecutor to secure justice for her dead son. Through her writing at Still Standing Magazine and other grief-related publications she hopes to break the taboo of homicide loss and child loss. She runs her own fruit farm and is an advocate of ecotherapy as a means of finding healing following traumatic loss. Katja is a certified Compassionate Bereavement Care® counselor through the Center for Loss and Trauma in partnership with the MISS Foundation and the Elisabeth Kubler-Ross Family Trust.

Make sure to listen to the podcast to the very end as there are some gems to be found there. I am sure you will enjoy and learn from today’s episode.

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Topics discussed in this episode

The challenges of being in court, both as a grieving mother and as a plaintiff
The invaluable support of friends and family
Victim blaming and defamation
The changes in her personality
The loss of innocence

About this week’s guest

Make sure to listen to the podcast to the very end as there are some gems to be found there. I am sure you will enjoy and learn from today’s episode.

Katja’s Links:

Topics discussed in this episode

The challenges of being in court, both as a grieving mother and as a plaintiff
The invaluable support of friends and family
Victim blaming and defamation
The changes in her personality
The loss of innocence

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19 Joy Bornstein | Using Art to Cope with Loss and Trauma

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Today on the podcast I’m speaking with Joy, who I've known since 2015 as part of the May We All Heal community. This community was born out of a group of women from the Grieving Parents Support Network. They came together year after year during the month of May to focus on dealing with their grief using creativity.

Joy has used a unique approach with her artwork, which can be seen on her Instagram channel.

Joy describes how she moved from feeling ashamed for disassociating from her pain, which was her coping mechanism to understanding and appreciating it as her survival strategy at the time.

Joy says:

‘You deal with it when you can. That is how you are surviving. That is how your brain is keeping you safe in a situation that is not safe so now it's like ‘oh yeah just disassociating, it's okay, I’ll deal with it later.’ I mean it doesn't mean it's easy to deal with but just knowing that yeah that's an ok thing to do for my brain to survive.’

About this week’s guest

Joy Bornstein uses art as a way to process everyday emotions and the long-term scars left by trauma. She is the mother of 3 living children, the mother of a stillborn son, Bennet, and a former victim of domestic abuse. Joy uses colour, line, and shape to explore emotions in a way that can't be expressed in words in an attempt to turn pain into beauty.

Joy’s Instagram: @fire_fly_joy

Topics discussed in this episode

Stillbirth and physical trauma
Shame around the coping strategy of disassociating
Dissolving a marriage, domestic abuse, divorce, custody battles, and dealing with the children’s trauma
May We All Heal – using art to cope with loss and trauma

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21 Sharna Southan | The Changes Needed in Pregnancy Loss Support

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Today on the podcast I’m speaking with Sharna who I’ve come to appreciate as a force for change in regard to the support offered to women in dealing with their pregnancy loss, a passion we have in common.

Talking about her missed miscarriage Sharna shares:

‘...never experienced contractions before so I didn’t know that's what I was experiencing until I got to the hospital until they told me then what was going on. They also told me that one in four pregnancies ends in loss and I was like: “Well, then why do I feel like I'm the only one? Why is there not enough information? Why does no one talk about this?” I felt like I was living under a rock, like where have I been my whole life to not know about this?’

About this week’s guest

Sharna Southan is an ICF-certified coach, a mum to her rainbow baby, a business owner and a wife. She followed her heart and soul into business after her own pregnancy loss in 2017. Sharna firmly believes that our adversity gives us an opportunity to grow.

She founded The Institute of Healing through Pregnancy Loss supporting loss parents with her transformative Pregnancy Loss recovery method and teaching her signature Pregnancy Loss PractitionerTM️ Certification Program.

Topics discussed in this episode

Dealing with the loss of her father at the age of nineteen, led to depression, anxiety, panic attacks
Missed miscarriage and the trauma of miscarrying
Feeling isolated in not knowing that 1 in 4 pregnancies ends in loss
Lack of information and support on what miscarriage means emotionally, and physically and what it may require in care
Finding help through professional support

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