16 Lisa Boehm | The Loss of Her Teenage Daughter

10/24/22 • 41 min

Lisa Boehm heard a knock at the door just as she had gone to bed, and it was the police coming to let her know that her teenage daughter had died in a head-on collision.
Lisa tells us how she picked up the pieces of her shattered life and how she found ways to thrive and not just survive. From getting support from other moms in her community she now offers support to grieving moms.

Lisa says:

‘I think I learned a lot from other grieving moms who were further down the path. Sometimes it was just little snippets that they would say or different things... They gave me hope and I think learning that everybody copes with grief differently, that little nugget right there was enough to carry us through.’

About this week’s guest

Lisa K. Boehm’s life changed forever when her daughter died suddenly in a car accident. She quickly discovered that our society struggles with death, loss, and grieving and has made it her mission to change that. In her book Journey to HEALING: A Mother’s Guide to Navigating Child Loss, she shares her experience with grief and how it intensified her love for her daughter. Now she focuses on gratitude and living intentionally as a way to honor her daughter’s memory. Lisa is an author, speaker, and certified grief educator who helps bereaved moms move beyond the pain to find peace and purpose.

Website: www.griefsupportformoms.com

IG @griefsupportformoms

Topics discussed in this episode

The loss of her teenage daughter Katie
Suicidal thoughts and anger
Surrounding herself with other women in the community
Journaling as a resource to deal with grief
Differences in grieving styles among family members
Teenager’s grief/sibling’s grief

Resources mentioned in this episode

Instrumental and intuitive grieving styles described in the book Grieving Parents: Surviving Loss as a Couple
Grief groups by the Compassionate Friends

About this week’s guest

Website: www.griefsupportformoms.com

IG @griefsupportformoms

Topics discussed in this episode

The loss of her teenage daughter Katie
Suicidal thoughts and anger
Surrounding herself with other women in the community
Journaling as a resource to deal with grief
Differences in grieving styles among family members
Teenager’s grief/sibling’s grief

Resources mentioned in this episode

Instrumental and intuitive grieving styles described in the book Grieving Parents: Surviving Loss as a Couple
Grief groups by the Compassionate Friends

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15 Amie Lands | Child Loss, Cancer and Life’s Trauma

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Today I speak with Amie where she shares how her life started with the loss of connection to her father due to mental illness and the challenging relationship with her alcoholic mother.

Amie then became pregnant for the first time, but her daughter Ruthie died after 33 days.
At 36 years, Amie was diagnosed with neck cancer which was successfully treated. She then shares how they moved across the States and their truck caught fire with many of their belongings including Ruthie’s memories gone.

Dealing with all those extreme situations, Amie learned and practiced one thing:

‘I live in this moment. I try not to think too much ahead of what's to come next or what so many call future tripping. I don't put myself in what could happen and so I really truly live today. I have a calendar and plan ahead, but I really just try and be in this moment.’

About this week’s guest

Amie Lands is the author of Navigating the Unknown, Our Only Time, Perfectly Imperfect Family, and the Tending to Your Heart series. She is a cancer survivor, founder of The Ruthie Lou Foundation, and a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist®. Since her daughter’s brief life, Amie’s passion is offering hope and providing support to bereaved families. Amie lives in South Carolina, United States with her husband and their two sons.

Amie’s website: www.amielandsauthor.com

Instagram: @amielandsauthor

Topics discussed in this episode

Early loss of her father through mental illness
Early child loss and pregnancy after loss
A neck cancer diagnosis at the age of 36
Moving across the States and a fire that destroyed many personal belongings
How to love somebody that isn’t part of your life
Learning to ask for help

Resources mentioned in this episode

The Me You Can’t See (show on mental illness, Apple TV)

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17 Michael Gershe | The Loss of His Mother Through a Drunk Driver

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Michael started with loss very early in his life when his mother got killed in a car accident leaving behind two boys and their father. Michael was 8 weeks old at the time and magically recovered after having almost all the bones in his tiny body broken.
It took Michael a big part of his life to figure out how to deal with grief, depression, and suicidal thoughts at the same time while creating a legacy by offering programs to create awareness in young people about drinking and driving.
Michael shares how working with a therapist helped him look at the ways in which he had modeled avoiding his feelings of grief and what tools supported him in overcoming his suicidal thoughts.

Michael says:

‘She hit me pretty hard the very first day when I was going in there thinking I’m going to talk about my aunt and my father's death. Her first question was: hey let’s talk about your mother's death and how that impacted all your relationships. I was like... I was stunned. I was like there's a knockout punch. I didn't want to talk about that even at age 47 I still didn't want to really talk about that in-depth, but she was right, I had to.’

About this week’s guest

Michael Gershe is a survivor of a drunk driving crash that killed his mother and nearly himself when he was 8 weeks old. Despite breaking almost all his bones in the crash, he went on to become a collegiate swimmer, comedian, speaker, author, college educator, and photographer. With over 25 years of experience on stage, Michael has presented his programs at schools, colleges, military bases, courts, and even a TEDx talk. He uses humor, audience participation, and his story for an educational and inspirational message. In 2015 he founded The Magic of Life Foundation, a non-profit organization, that helps his mission of eliminating impaired driving making communities safer, and empowering people to make better choices in life. In 2019, he published his memoir, The Magic of Life: A Son’s Story After Tragedy, Grief and a Speedo.

His website: The Magic of Life Foundation

Topics discussed in this episode

Loss of mom, father, and aunt led to the understanding of what had been modeled about dealing or not dealing with grief
Suicidal thoughts, depression
Learning about healthy ways of grief, and anger, instead of hiding the pain
Drunk driving – wanting to make a difference through his programs