How Can I Say This...
Beth Buelow
The “How Can I Say This...” podcast offers tips and advice for interpersonal communications challenges, such as difficult conversations, conflict, giving and receiving feedback, negotiating, and other situations where what you say and how you say it makes all the difference.
Your host is Beth Buelow, PCC, founder of ZOPA Consulting and author of “The Introvert Entrepreneur: Amplify Your Strengths and Create Success on Your Own Terms.” Beth’s credentialed professional coach and trained mediator. She loves finding the “Zone of Possible Agreement” (ZOPA!) in any situation that comes her way. She hosted The Introvert Entrepreneur Podcast from 2010-2018.
In every episode of "How Can I Say This...", you’ll find ideas about how to handle your communication conundrums; tips on feeling more confident and comfortable with conflict; opportunities to learn from real-life situations through questions shared by listeners; and ultimately, gain skills and techniques for dealing with sticky situations at work and home. Of course, we can’t be all talk and no action; each show will end with an invitation to try a particular technique or approach that came up in the episode.
Episodes will feature a mixture of commentary, listener questions, and expert guest interviews and contributions. The scope of conversation will evolve over time... we’re open to seeing where this goes. Thanks for joining us on the journey!
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Mori Taheripour Shares How to Bring Yourself to Negotiations
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04/14/20 • 30 min
When we think of negotiators, we often think of people who are trying to find a bargain, job seekers, or people on the front lines of a hostage situation. Those things might be true some of the time, but there’s so much more to it than that. Life is a negotiation; and right now, it’s showing up in the form of negotiating new structures, working arrangements, and relationships in light of the coronavirus pandemic. We’re all negotiators.
Our question this episode: what are the benefits of bringing yourself – your true self – to a negotiation?
My conversation with Mori Taheripour focuses on her new book, "Bring Yourself: How to Harness the Power of Connection to Negotiate Fearlessly." We talk about the different traits of effective negotiators (it's not what you would assume), the role of empathy in successful negotiations (and relationships), and what to keep in mind when you're negotiating ideas with someone you disagree with (she feels hopeful we can find common ground).
Hosted by Beth L. Buelow, PCC. More information at HowCanISayThis.com. Your reviews, ratings, shares and subscribes are encouraged and appreciated! Thanks for listening!
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Your Questions: Creating Closure from a Distance
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10/09/18 • 15 min
In an ideal world, relationships that end would do so clearly and with no loose ends. Each person would walk away feeling like they’d tied a nice neat bow on the matter. But we don’t live in an ideal world, and endings can be messy and feel incomplete. What do we do when we are left with lots of loose ends and no one to help us tie them up?
In this episode, we’re going to do a deep dive into a listener question about how to find relationship closure alone when it’s not possible to do it together. Hosted by Beth L. Buelow, PCC. Learn more, submit your questions, and subscribe at howcanisaythis.com
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Ep54: Anatomy of an Interaction
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10/26/19 • 19 min
How many times have you been in a conversation and the other person says or does something unexpected or hostile, and you think to yourself – where did THAT come from!? In fact, you might have thought that very thing about yourself! We might think that frustration, anger, confusion, or other emotions that block productive conversations “come out of nowhere,” but the truth is that they always come from somewhere. Our question this episode: what influences our capacity for connection with others besides what we say and how we say it?
Hosted by Beth L. Buelow, PCC. More information at www.howcanisaythis.com
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Ep34: Humility, Ego, and Civil Conversations
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05/04/19 • 13 min
If we’ve spent a lot of time thinking about our values and beliefs and how those apply to social and cultural issues, then we can become very attached to thinking that we’re right, they’re wrong, and that’s that. But remember: everyone feels that way, and the person you think is wrong thinks they’re right, and you’re wrong, and that’s that. We’re left with an impenetrable wall between us that only becomes taller as we dig in our heels. But there is another way. Our question this episode: what role does humility play in challenging conversations? Hosted by Beth L Buelow, PCC. More information at howcanisaythis.com
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Your Questions: How to Stop Rambling
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10/31/18 • 18 min
When I get nervous, I can talk... and talk and talk and talk. It’s really embarrassing sometimes, and I don’t know how to stop myself once I get going. I’m sure the other person is bored to tears or wishing I’d just shut up already. But I can’t help it. Or can I? Is it possible to gracefully stop our rambling and get the conversation back on track?
In this episode, I respond to a listener question about what to do when you find yourself talking too much, as well as start an exploration of what really gets in our way when we’re having difficulty being in conversation with someone we disagree with. I also share an insight from Alan Alda about the importance of empathy in conversation. Hosted by Beth Buelow, PCC. More information at www.howcanisaythis.com
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Your Questions: TMI, Unsolicited Help, Releasing a Client
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09/04/18 • 24 min
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Laurie Helgoe, How to Handle Bullies and Narcissists
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09/04/18 • 38 min
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Couples Communication in Quarantine with Marianne van Dijk
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05/22/20 • 37 min
As life in the pandemic continues, our capacity for empathy and connection can come and go. Sometimes it’s easy to be present for our loved ones, and other times, we need space and just to be left alone. Asking for what we need and having boundaries can be challenging enough during non-stressful times, but add a pandemic and all that comes with it into the mix? Things get more complicated.
Our question this episode: how can we take care of ourselves and our relationships during a time of uncertainty and stress?
My guest is relationship communication expert Marianne van Dijk. We talk about how to keep your love relationship healthy, especially in times when tensions are high. (PS: Her tips work for other types of relationships, too!)
Hosted by Beth L. Buelow, PCC. Your reviews, ratings, and shares are welcome and appreciated! More information at howcanisaythis.com. Thanks for listening!
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A Simple Mantra for a Complex Time
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04/02/20 • 17 min
When we’re in close quarters with someone for a long time, even the strongest of relationships can be tested. In this episode, I offer you a simple mantra that can help you stay calm and compassionate while we shelter-in-place. #spaceandgrace
Hosted by Beth L. Buelow, PCC. More information and downloadable mantra images at howcanisaythis.com. Your feedback, shares, reviews and ratings are welcome!
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How to Talk to Strangers (Listener Question)
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03/27/21 • 16 min
We spend a lot of time thinking about how to have conversations with people we care about. After all, these are the relationships that have the biggest influence in our lives. But what if we spent as much time thinking about the conversations we have with strangers? Could there be new experiences we’re missing out on that would enrich our lives?
Our question this episode: how do you start a conversation with a stranger that might serve as a lead-in to friendship?
If you enjoy this episode, please share with friends, family and colleagues! Your reviews, ratings and subscriptions are also appreciated. Learn more about the podcast, read a transcript of this episode, and access the archives at howcanisaythis.com. Thanks so much for listening! ~Beth B.
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FAQ
How many episodes does How Can I Say This... have?
How Can I Say This... currently has 81 episodes available.
What topics does How Can I Say This... cover?
The podcast is about Mediation, Negotiation, Conversations, Conflict, Language, Communication, Podcasts, Relationships, Self-Improvement, Society & Culture, Education and Coaching.
What is the most popular episode on How Can I Say This...?
The episode title 'Couples Communication in Quarantine with Marianne van Dijk' is the most popular.
What is the average episode length on How Can I Say This...?
The average episode length on How Can I Say This... is 27 minutes.
How often are episodes of How Can I Say This... released?
Episodes of How Can I Say This... are typically released every 7 days, 23 hours.
When was the first episode of How Can I Say This...?
The first episode of How Can I Say This... was released on Sep 4, 2018.
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