How Can I Say This...
Beth Buelow
The “How Can I Say This...” podcast offers tips and advice for interpersonal communications challenges, such as difficult conversations, conflict, giving and receiving feedback, negotiating, and other situations where what you say and how you say it makes all the difference.
Your host is Beth Buelow, PCC, founder of ZOPA Consulting and author of “The Introvert Entrepreneur: Amplify Your Strengths and Create Success on Your Own Terms.” Beth’s credentialed professional coach and trained mediator. She loves finding the “Zone of Possible Agreement” (ZOPA!) in any situation that comes her way. She hosted The Introvert Entrepreneur Podcast from 2010-2018.
In every episode of "How Can I Say This...", you’ll find ideas about how to handle your communication conundrums; tips on feeling more confident and comfortable with conflict; opportunities to learn from real-life situations through questions shared by listeners; and ultimately, gain skills and techniques for dealing with sticky situations at work and home. Of course, we can’t be all talk and no action; each show will end with an invitation to try a particular technique or approach that came up in the episode.
Episodes will feature a mixture of commentary, listener questions, and expert guest interviews and contributions. The scope of conversation will evolve over time... we’re open to seeing where this goes. Thanks for joining us on the journey!
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Goodpods has curated a list of the 10 best How Can I Say This... episodes, ranked by the number of listens and likes each episode have garnered from our listeners. If you are listening to How Can I Say This... for the first time, there's no better place to start than with one of these standout episodes. If you are a fan of the show, vote for your favorite How Can I Say This... episode by adding your comments to the episode page.
A Simple Mantra for a Complex Time
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04/02/20 • 17 min
When we’re in close quarters with someone for a long time, even the strongest of relationships can be tested. In this episode, I offer you a simple mantra that can help you stay calm and compassionate while we shelter-in-place. #spaceandgrace
Hosted by Beth L. Buelow, PCC. More information and downloadable mantra images at howcanisaythis.com. Your feedback, shares, reviews and ratings are welcome!
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Talking about Race at Work with Kwame Christian
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08/28/20 • 32 min
Awkward, emotional, uncomfortable. This is how many of us feel when we try to talk about race. But we need to know how to have these conversations if we’re going to make progress toward a more equitable and high-functioning society. Negotiation expert Kwame Christian joins me to give us some starting points on how to talk about race, particularly in a work environment.
This episode is also available on YouTube! Listen AND watch the conversation here: https://youtu.be/1ewGfsSCpVA
Kwame Christian: http://americannegotiationinstitute.com
Podcast: http://howcanisaythis.com
Beth Buelow: http://bethbuelow.com
Thanks for listening and watching the first HCIST video! You can learn more about the podcast, access past episodes, submit a listener question, and learn how to leave a rating or review, all at howcanisaythis.com.
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Pausing and People Pleasing with Alan Heymann
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04/30/21 • 31 min
There are lots of things that get in the way of our ability to successfully handle conflict. They often have to do with a limiting mindset, a leaning towards people pleasing, misidentifying the root cause of the conflict, or not creating a safe environment for feedback or different opinions. The good news is that there’s a lot we can personally do to remove those barriers.
Our question this episode: What are some simple but powerful ways we can set ourselves up for better success when we get into conflict?
My guest is Alan Heymann. Alan is a leadership and executive coach in the Washington DC area. He’s a communications and marketing veteran from the media, government, and nonprofit sectors, with degrees in journalism and law. He’s worn many hats, including being a reporter, anchor, editor and producer, spokesperson, business owner, activist and team leader. His entire career has focused on doing good in the world, by helping others grow.
Hosted by Beth Buelow, PCC. More information and episode archives at www.howcanisaythis.com. Your reviews, ratings, and shares are appreciated! Thanks for listening and caring about courageous conversations.
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Ep36: Introverts and Extroverts in Conversation
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05/31/19 • 21 min
There are lots of reasons why we get our wires crossed when communicating with others. Some of it might have to do with our mood, our assumptions, our past experiences, the nature of the relationship between us and the person we’re talking to, and even bigger picture reasons such as race, gender, religion and other identities that inform how we relate to one another. One trait that falls on the spectrum of communication obstacles is whether someone is coming from an introvert or extrovert perspective. Our question this episode: how do we honor our own introvert or extrovert style while being accommodating to others?
In this episode, we’re going to look at how a particular energetic trait- whether you’re an introvert or extrovert – influences how we communicate. This is fresh on my mind, since I gave a keynote presentation in Chicago a week and a half ago on the topic. It was also the focus of my work from 2010-2018, so much so that I wrote a book related to the subject called The Introvert Entrepreneur, a little of which I’ll share in this episode. While I’ve expanded my business focus, I still care about spreading the word about how introverts can live more fully in alignment with their strengths and their natural energy. Since that’s not a topic that’s come up specifically in this podcast, it felt like a great time to give it its own episode. Hosted by Beth L. Buelow, PCC. More information at howcanisaythis.com and theintrovertentrepreneur.com
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Your Questions: Negative People, Protecting Colleagues
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10/17/18 • 21 min
There are times in most relationships when we’re faced with one of two situations: we feel a need to protect ourselves, or we feel a need to protect someone else. Every once in a while, especially when it comes to giving feedback, those two things can happen at the same time! How can we act in a way that establishes boundaries while still being kind? In this episode, we take a look at two listener questions: dealing with negative people and sharing difficult feedback with a colleague who’s having personal issues. Hosted by Beth L. Buelow, PCC. More information and resources at howcanisaythis.com.
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These 7 Words are Undermining Your Effectiveness
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02/22/20 • 14 min
When we think of forming new habits, our minds go to the obvious – changing what we eat, how much we exercise, what time we go to bed or get up in the morning, deciding to meditate. Those are all good habits to pay attention to, and there’s one more to add that can change your life just as much. Our question this episode: which small word choices make a huge difference in the effectiveness of our communication?
You can find past episodes, find out how to leave a review, and learn more about the show at howcanisaythis.com. Thanks for listening!
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Ep52: Disagreeing Without Being Disagreeable
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10/12/19 • 16 min
When we hear someone make a statement that’s not true, or express a personal opinion that cuts us to the core, it’s easy to react by lashing out and attacking that person. It’s not so easy to offer a thoughtful reply that is both respectful and direct. Our question this episode: how can we take the high road while still calling someone out on their harmful actions? I highlight two recent videos - one from James Corden, the other from Annabel (aka @montanaranchwife) - that provide excellent examples of how to express disagreement without being disagreeable. Hosted by Beth L. Buelow, PCC. More information at howcanisaythis.com
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Ep50: Drama Queens (Listener Question)
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09/21/19 • 32 min
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Ep47: Cultivating Conversational Intelligence with Michael O'Brien
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08/23/19 • 32 min
Sometimes our journey towards greater self-awareness seems slow and ponderous. And other times, life decides to hit the fast-forward button and give us a can’t-miss catalyst for profound change. No matter which happens to you, both involve conversations. Conversations we have with ourselves, and those we have with others. And the quality of those conversations shapes our life satisfaction.
Our question this episode: how can we boost our conversational intelligence, from the inside out?
Today we’re going to hear from Michael O'Brien, who experienced that can’t-miss catalyst for change in a way that I hope none of you listening ever have to live through. In the first part of our conversation, we focus on the destructive self-talk that he learned how to move through. Then we shift a bit to discuss the basics of Conversational Intelligence, which increases our capacity to build trust and connection with others. Hosted by Beth L. Buelow, PCC. More info at howcanisaythis.com
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Ep34: Humility, Ego, and Civil Conversations
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05/04/19 • 13 min
If we’ve spent a lot of time thinking about our values and beliefs and how those apply to social and cultural issues, then we can become very attached to thinking that we’re right, they’re wrong, and that’s that. But remember: everyone feels that way, and the person you think is wrong thinks they’re right, and you’re wrong, and that’s that. We’re left with an impenetrable wall between us that only becomes taller as we dig in our heels. But there is another way. Our question this episode: what role does humility play in challenging conversations? Hosted by Beth L Buelow, PCC. More information at howcanisaythis.com
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How many episodes does How Can I Say This... have?
How Can I Say This... currently has 81 episodes available.
What topics does How Can I Say This... cover?
The podcast is about Language, Society & Culture, Conversations, Conflict, Podcasts, Self-Improvement, Education, Mediation, Negotiation, Relationships, Coaching and Communication.
What is the most popular episode on How Can I Say This...?
The episode title 'Couples Communication in Quarantine with Marianne van Dijk' is the most popular.
What is the average episode length on How Can I Say This...?
The average episode length on How Can I Say This... is 27 minutes.
How often are episodes of How Can I Say This... released?
Episodes of How Can I Say This... are typically released every 7 days, 23 hours.
When was the first episode of How Can I Say This...?
The first episode of How Can I Say This... was released on Sep 4, 2018.
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