Ep. 132 Unveiling The Curtain, Unmasking Doug, & Talking ALL About Our Juicy Past Relationships!

08/07/21 • 53 min

In today’s episode, we pull back the curtain on Jamie and Doug's past, and some of the experiences in her and Doug's life which have shaped how they both view and interact with the world. Jamie shares the guidance that her therapist has given her regarding managing her workload in order to protect her mental health. Also, we take a look at Jamie’s previous relationships and the influence that these have had on her. On a lighter note, prompted by a listener’s comment, we also pull back the curtain on Doug and Jamie’s experiences in the world of reality TV!

We also chat about Jamie's recent break from social media and why it was important.

We are so appreciative of all the support that you have shown us during this time. We truly have the BEST listeners!

Key Points From This Episode:

The mask that Doug usually wears.
An explanation of what batch-work is.
What we are hoping to achieve through the question-and-answer sessions with our listeners.
Jamie shares a story about the brand that duped her, and what it taught her about collaborations.
Advice that Jamie was given from her therapist about how to work in a way that protects her mental health.
Where the phrase “unveiling the curtain” comes from.
The various reality shows that Doug tried out for.
How Jamie ended up on the Bachelor.
Why Jamie’s ex-boyfriend was so instrumental in determining how she deals with issues in relationships.
Jamie runs us through some of the unhealthy relationships she had in the past.
Doug delves into what his relationship with his ex-girlfriend was like.
Jamie's recent break from social media including an audio clip of her story from Instagram

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Jamie - https://www.instagram.com/jamienotis/

Doug - https://www.instagram.com/doughehner/

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We also chat about Jamie's recent break from social media and why it was important.

We are so appreciative of all the support that you have shown us during this time. We truly have the BEST listeners!

Key Points From This Episode:

The mask that Doug usually wears.
An explanation of what batch-work is.
What we are hoping to achieve through the question-and-answer sessions with our listeners.
Jamie shares a story about the brand that duped her, and what it taught her about collaborations.
Advice that Jamie was given from her therapist about how to work in a way that protects her mental health.
Where the phrase “unveiling the curtain” comes from.
The various reality shows that Doug tried out for.
How Jamie ended up on the Bachelor.
Why Jamie’s ex-boyfriend was so instrumental in determining how she deals with issues in relationships.
Jamie runs us through some of the unhealthy relationships she had in the past.
Doug delves into what his relationship with his ex-girlfriend was like.
Jamie's recent break from social media including an audio clip of her story from Instagram

For all things HMCP check out our Instagram handles:

Hot Marriage. Cool Parents. - https://www.instagram.com/hotmarriagecoolparents/

Jamie - https://www.instagram.com/jamienotis/

Doug - https://www.instagram.com/doughehner/

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Native Deodorant — Visit https://www.nativedeo.com/HMCP or use promo code HMCP at checkout to get 20% off your first order.

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Previous Episode

Ep. 131 Doug & Jamie Share Recent Vulnerable Moments & Thoughts on the Stereotype of “Celebrity”

Welcome back to Hot Marriage. Cool Parents! In this week’s episode, we catch up with both Doug and Jamie. We are currently still in Cortland, New York visiting Jamie’s family, and have had to recover from an unfortunate bout of illness that’s been doing the rounds! Life is still crazy and we are both very much looking forward to being in one place for more than a few days!

After a quick rundown of how our family has been doing, we spend some time on feedback from our listeners. Doug gives a shout-out to an awesome review and shares why he’s so grateful when fans connect with him. We also hear a voice note from one of our listeners, who shares a painful story of ectopic pregnancy, and Jamie takes the time to unpack the issue and empathize with how difficult it can be to deal with. Next, we delve into the question of the benefits and challenges of being open and vulnerable about your struggles, especially when they’re painful and intimate. We discuss how Jamie’s therapist has helped with insights that have contributed to a healthier dynamic between us and what our hopes are going forward. Join us today as we reflect on life, relationships, and much more!

Key Points From This Episode:

We hear from Jamie about her time in Los Angeles doing Unfiltered.
Doug shares his shout-out for the week.
Why Doug and Jamie are grateful when fans connect with them.
We hear from listeners about their struggles and how the podcast has impacted them.
Jamie breaks down what it means to have an ectopic pregnancy.
Doug and Jamie discuss what it’s like for their lives to be so public.
Jamie empathizes with a listener who went through an ectopic pregnancy.
Why it’s important to be vulnerable and open in your life.
Doug shares his struggles with being open and vulnerable and how communication has helped him.
How Jamie’s therapist helped them find a healthier dynamic as a couple.
How the isolation of COVID 19 has impacted Doug’s opportunities for being open and communicative with friends.
Jamie’s hopes that Doug will become less closed off and be willing to share his inner life with her more.
Why Doug believes his and Jamie’s personalities complement one another.
Some of the details of their visit to Cortland, New York, Jamie’s hometown.
Jamie and Doug give a sneak peek into next week’s episode and encourage listeners to send voice notes.

For all things HMCP check out our Instagram handles:

Hot Marriage. Cool Parents. - https://www.instagram.com/hotmarriagecoolparents/

Jamie - https://www.instagram.com/jamienotis/

Doug - https://www.instagram.com/doughehner/

Become Body Positive - https://www.instagram.com/becomebodypositive

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Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Couples' Cam — https://www.mylifetime.com/shows/married-at-first-sight-couples-cam

Big Little Feelings — https://biglittlefeelings.com/

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Next Episode

Ep. 133 How To Become More Confident, Find Your Passions, And Let Your Goals Dictate Your Life With Lisa Bilyeu

Lisa Bilyeu, who is literally SUCH a boss babe and honestly someone I really look up to in the business world is our guest today! She’s the cofounder and president of the company Impact Theory AND she’s the co-founder of the billion-dollar brand Quest nutrition. She also gets in front of the camera to chat all things female empowerment. Doug and I are super excited to chat all the things with her because she is literally SO inspiring! Tuning in you’ll hear Lisa share some of the valuable lessons she’s learned about shame and confidence, like why combating shame and establishing confidence is not something you arrive at but is more like a muscle that needs to be trained and maintained. We delve into the importance of identifying future goals, how to do it if you don’t know where to start, and why that internal knowledge is crucial to set boundaries. Later, Lisa opens up about the intense physical debilitation she experienced after years of not listening to her body and building her business, and what recovery meant for her. She shares how she had to reassess her values after her health crisis and why going forward she is keenly aware of whether her work aligns with her purpose. We loved having Lisa on the show and were blown away by her honesty and wisdom. Tune in today for a wealth of insight, compassion, and meaningful advice!

Before we bring Lisa on, we chat about how we literally just got back from a crazy heated therapy sesh with our couples therapist where we talked about support systems and how Doug and I have big issues on communication. We came to realize that I don't really have a support system - I don't have parents to go to, and I can't go to Doug's family if I am having issues with my marriage. I've come to realize that my girlfrans feel like my support system! This podcast is like THERAPY for me.

Show Notes:

17:25 - Welcome to HMCP, Lisa!

22:25 - Overcoming shame is a muscle. Facing inadequacies and not letting ego get in the way is something we have to keep training!

24:30 - We talk about our goals of what we are trying to get to in 2 sentences

26:48 - Was there a turning point in your life or what was that thing that kind of got you over the edge to start you on that routine of working on yourself and empowering women?

37:13 - What helped make the transition into sharing your story and empowering women?

45:20 - What would you say to the person who says I don't know what my goals should be - where do I even start?

54:08 - What were your goals at the age of 14?

58:00 - Tell us about your book!

"People think confidence is the end goal...but confidence isn't your end goal. Confidence is your TOOL to get to the end goal! .... Focus on the end goal of impacting others!!!!" - Lisa Bilyeu

Lisa's Insta: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/

Impact Theory Website: https://impacttheory.com/

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