Loose Him And Let Him Go

02/06/24 • 48 min

"Life hands us very difficult things. How we deal with those things and how we work through those things is what this program is all about. We do it in the arena of being a caregiver."

"Life hands us very difficult things. How we deal with those things and how we work through those things is what this program is all about. We do it in the arena of being a caregiver."

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When Caregivers Rob Themselves

One of the greatest thefts to family caregivers comes from our own hearts. We often steal from the moment to regret the past—or fear the future. Although yesterday’s events may have arrived with tears and trauma, today remains an opportunity to calm our hearts and deal with current circumstances. As caregivers, we all know our tomorrows most likely show up with challenges—but unexpected joys may also arrive.

Surprising beauty awaits us along the way, yet we are sure to miss it when our focus extends behind or in front of us. None of this eliminates the grief we carry. However, healthily living in the present allows us to mourn while simultaneously resisting the fear, rage, and despair that often erupt during caregiving.

Although our independence, relationships, career paths, and even dreams inevitably suffer in our caregiving journey, peace of mind remains solidly in our hands. No one has the power to rob us of that composure—except ourselves.

We know what we are but know not what we may be.

—William Shakespeare

From: A Minute For Caregivers - When Every Day Feels Like Monday

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Caregivers and Contentment

“Everything I do is to help talk my fellow caregivers off a ledge because people have done this for me.

People get so disoriented in the journey of caregiving.

Caregivers often think,

"Okay, if I could get them to stop acting like this, if I could just get through this next procedure; if we could just see if we could stop this particular thing from happening, then we can have the contentment and the peace and the satisfaction or the stability that we're craving."

How's that working for you?

How's that working for any of us?

It's like we have this stick out in front of us, dangling this carrot of things going how we want them to be, but we can never get to it.

And we're constantly striving for that because we see it.

And if it would just be this way, we'd be okay.

But see, that's the kind of thing promulgated in our society.

That is the conventional wisdom of this world.

"Get What You Want, Get What You Think You Need, and You Can Be Settled in Your Spirit, and You Can Be Happy, You Can Be Content."

That is in direct opposition to what Scripture teaches.