Pornography & Sexual Shame to Freedom with Joy Skarka
01/30/23 • 61 min
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“God takes our brokenness and turns it into our passion.” Joy Skarka
With vulnerability and authenticity, Joy shares her story which includes sexual trauma that led to a struggle with pornography. As a girl struggling with porn, she felt isolation and carried tremendous shame. Yet, there is help and healing. And, we are never alone in our struggle.
This episode is a rich discussion across many topics including sexuality, discipleship, singleness and pornography, with encouraging theology and an unpacking of our need to be known, loved, and to give and receive love. We all experience some sort of sexual brokeness and are far from the naked and unashamed innocence God created in the garden. Let’s walk in more freedom, through vulnerability, and know that God cares about your sexuality.
Mentioned in this episode:
The Soul of Shame, Curt Thompson
Related Episodes:
Body Talks with Kids. Clarity, Confidence and the Critical Need to Shift the Conversation, Episode 96
Body Talks with Kids. Connecting to the Meaning of YOUR Body, Episode 97 Body Talks with Kids. Big Picture Vision, Small Phrases to Create Impact, Episode 98 Body Talks with Kids. Celebrating the Body, Celebrating God, Episode 99More about Joy Skarka:
Joy Skarka is passionate about creating spaces to free women from sexual shame. She serves as Director of Discipleship for Authentic Intimacy, where she leads online small groups for women with unwanted sexual behavior. She coaches and teaches Christian leaders how to help women find freedom from sexual shame and pornography. I have a published chapter in Sanctified Sexuality: Valuing Sex in an Oversexed World. She is a graduate of Dallas Theological Seminary with a MA in Christian Education and jumped right into her doctorate. In 2021, she graduated with her Doctorate degree in Educational Ministry from DTS, focusing on helping women find freedom from sexual shame.
You’re Invited:
Keep learning with Francie! Join the Discipleship Circle group mentorship. This is a SWEET community of women, connected with the purpose of seeking God’s heart for their reclaiming a redeemed view of sex and sexuality. Inside the circle, we will explore and discover the good news about God’s heart for sex. Learn more here: Discipleship Circle
Francie is partnered with MyCounselor.Online as a resource for Biblically based counseling, including sex therapy. You’ll receive a 25% discount on your first session. Click here
Connect with Francie:
“God takes our brokenness and turns it into our passion.” Joy Skarka
With vulnerability and authenticity, Joy shares her story which includes sexual trauma that led to a struggle with pornography. As a girl struggling with porn, she felt isolation and carried tremendous shame. Yet, there is help and healing. And, we are never alone in our struggle.
This episode is a rich discussion across many topics including sexuality, discipleship, singleness and pornography, with encouraging theology and an unpacking of our need to be known, loved, and to give and receive love. We all experience some sort of sexual brokeness and are far from the naked and unashamed innocence God created in the garden. Let’s walk in more freedom, through vulnerability, and know that God cares about your sexuality.
Mentioned in this episode:
The Soul of Shame, Curt Thompson
Related Episodes:
Body Talks with Kids. Clarity, Confidence and the Critical Need to Shift the Conversation, Episode 96
Body Talks with Kids. Connecting to the Meaning of YOUR Body, Episode 97 Body Talks with Kids. Big Picture Vision, Small Phrases to Create Impact, Episode 98 Body Talks with Kids. Celebrating the Body, Celebrating God, Episode 99More about Joy Skarka:
Joy Skarka is passionate about creating spaces to free women from sexual shame. She serves as Director of Discipleship for Authentic Intimacy, where she leads online small groups for women with unwanted sexual behavior. She coaches and teaches Christian leaders how to help women find freedom from sexual shame and pornography. I have a published chapter in Sanctified Sexuality: Valuing Sex in an Oversexed World. She is a graduate of Dallas Theological Seminary with a MA in Christian Education and jumped right into her doctorate. In 2021, she graduated with her Doctorate degree in Educational Ministry from DTS, focusing on helping women find freedom from sexual shame.
You’re Invited:
Keep learning with Francie! Join the Discipleship Circle group mentorship. This is a SWEET community of women, connected with the purpose of seeking God’s heart for their reclaiming a redeemed view of sex and sexuality. Inside the circle, we will explore and discover the good news about God’s heart for sex. Learn more here: Discipleship Circle
Francie is partnered with MyCounselor.Online as a resource for Biblically based counseling, including sex therapy. You’ll receive a 25% discount on your first session. Click here
Connect with Francie:
Previous Episode
Sex Toys & Vibrators
What’s okay for Christian marriage in the bedroom?
Maybe that’s the wrong question. Married sex can be a playground, filled with creativity and adventure. In this episode, we’ll reframe the question and perhaps help you process and give yourself permission for a little bit of adventure and freedom in your marriage bed. God created you in a wonderful way and designed married intimacy as celebration.
The bodies of a husband and wife are designed to fit together perfectly and there isn’t a mandate saying you need to add anything. Sex toys are simply tools that you can introduce to your married intimacy “menu.” Consider these thoughts on sex toys as you process what is good for your marriage.
Related Episodes:
Re-framing Novelty- How Monogamy Doesn't Equal Monotony, Episode 85 Becoming Sexually Adventurous - Pt. 2 with Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill, Episode 132Invitation to Discover Your Wonderful Female Body, Episode 104
Your Wonderful Female Body - Clitoris, Episode 105
Your Wonderful Female Body - G-spot, Episode 106
Your Wonderful Female Body - Erogenous Zones, Episode 107
Your Wonderful Female Body - 4 Stages of Sexual Response, Episode 108
Your Wonderful Female Body - Sexual Desire, Episode 109
Your Wonderful Female Body - Sexual Arousal, Episode 110
Your Wonderful Female Body - Orgasm Pt. 1, Episode 111
Your Wonderful Female Body - Orgasm Pt. 2, Episode 113
Resources mentioned:
Married Dance - use code MerryMarriage for savings
Unlock Your Orgasm: Through a Christian Lens, Bonny Burns
You’re Invited:
Keep learning with Francie! Join the Discipleship Circle group mentorship. This is a SWEET community of women, connected with the purpose of seeking God’s heart for their reclaiming a redeemed view of sex and sexuality. Inside the circle, we will explore and discover the good news about God’s heart for sex. Learn more here: Discipleship Circle
Connect with Francie:
Next Episode
Before You Say “I Do” with Bethany Beal
All the things you wished you knew before you said I do.
Whether you’re engaged, newlywed or find yourself in a mentoring relationship, this conversation will give you a fresh perspective on preparing for sex before you say, “I do.”
Join this vulnerable chat as a welcome Bethany Beal, from the Girl Defined ministry and podcast.
How should you prepare for your wedding night?
What advice and resources are helpful (and how to know if it’s not)?
What kinds of expectations should you set for the wedding night?
And, most importantly, this is an invitation to take a breath of fresh air and view physical intimacy as a journey that happens over the course of your marriage, not something you arrive at on your wedding night.
Tune in and get real talk about fears, insecurities, hygiene and even lubricants. Friend, this is a true girlfriend chat that I pray will bless you.
Resources Mentioned:
Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl’s Heart: Discovering the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality, by Bethany Beal and Kristen Clark
More about Bethany Beal:
Bethany Baird is a Texas born and raised girl, wife, mother of two and is the cofounder of Girl Defined Ministries. You can learn more at girldefined.com or at the Girl Defined Show.
Related Episodes:
Inner Healing, Sri Lankan Honeymoon & Sex for a Year, Episode 1
Rethinking Sex: Recovering a Biblical Lens, Episode 3
Your Wonderful Female Body Series - Episode 104 to Episode 113
Great Sex Grows Series - Episode 119 to Episode 124
You’re Invited:
Keep learning with Francie! Join the Discipleship Circle group mentorship. This is a SWEET community of women, connected with the purpose of seeking God’s heart for their reclaiming a redeemed view of sex and sexuality. Inside the circle, we will explore and discover the good news about God’s heart for sex. Learn more here: Discipleship Circle
Francie is partnered with MyCounselor.Online as a resource for Biblically based counseling, including sex therapy. You’ll receive a 25% discount on your first session. Click here
Connect with Francie:
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