62: The Emotional Deprivation Schema

09/05/22 • 51 min

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!
Up to 50% of people have this schema, it's incredibly common and underpins a great many relationship, personality and mental health issues.
We discuss the Emotional Deprivation Schema. It's one of the core schemas, it develops early life usually in the first 10 years. It can be a tricky one for us to identify as it tends to be pervasive but elusive at the same time.

What is it:

The Emotional Deprivation schema is the expectation that one’s desire for emotional connection will not be adequately fulfilled. You don' expect people to be there for you in different ways. Young identified three forms: (1) deprivation of nurturance (the absence of affection or caring); (2) deprivation of empathy (the absence of listening or understanding); and (3) deprivation of protection (the absence of strength or guidance from others).
In this episode Justine and Gemma discuss this schema in depth and how it shows up in our lives, how it plays out in the clients they see as well as discussing where it comes from and how it tends to develop.

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61: How Can I Change My Unrelenting Standards Schema?

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Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!

Justine tends to overcommit to things. After agreeing to do something, she often regrets it and lands up with a schema hangover because there are big consequences to changing her mind and saying no, and getting out of what she has committed to do can sometimes create a big drama.

Since the last episode, she has been reflecting on how much an unrelenting standards schema contributes to people’s stress and sense of being rushed. She was wondering if unrelenting standards might be playing a role in her recent feelings of stress and sense of being rushed because it’s a sneaky schema that could pop up anywhere.

In this episode, Gemma and Justine dive into what it takes to change or modify an unrelenting standards schema. They discuss various criteria that might indicate that your schema is playing out and offer advice on what you can do to overcome perfectionism, retrain your brain, and start doing things differently. Stay tuned for more!

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63: The Mailbox: My Inner Critic Is Called Dick

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Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!

Join us as we discuss a listener's email about her inner critic to whom she has given the name 'Dick'. A listener, whom we refer to as 'Mia' has sent us a detailed email about her inner critic. 'Dick' the critic, says all sorts of nasty and punitive things to Mia, but sometimes Mia feels that he actually protects her. How can this be? Does her critic actually protect her from something? Could it have a protective role and if so does that make it something else?
In this episode, Gemma and Justine take a very deep dive into the concept of the inner critic and related modes in schema therapy.

How can we define the inner critic
Where does the inner critic come from
What are modes in schema therapy
Could 'Dick' actually be a coping mode instead of a critic?
Why is it useful to pull apart the messages a critic says to us
What had Ronald Fairbairn's "Moral Defense" have to do with it all?
What is the Flagellating Over-Controller Mode in schema therapy & what is its function?
We mention that this defence mechanism is also relevant for schema chemistry and why some people tend to blame themselves for bad treatment.
We hope we have given Mia a few potential hypotheses to think about with her own therapist.

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