“Instance” Habits
12/15/23 • 13 min
“Good habits happen when planned; bad habits happen on their own.” ~M. Grunburg
This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.
Refining Thought & Character Habits
Frequently Asked Friday: PARR (PLAN, ACT, RECORD & REASSESS) is great for developing ‘planned’ habits. How can I develop thought and character habits such as being more assertive? Especially since I don’t know when those opportunities will arise.
P.A.R.R. Lite: One Savored Moment at a Time
While PARR excels at shaping physical habits, its latest sibling, PARR Lite (soon to be released in the app), empowers you to refine your inner diamond – your character– via thought and behavior habits.
Take assertiveness, a potential virtue often hidden beneath layers of self-doubt. One app user asked the very question above.
PARR Lite, soon to be released, will help strengthen these with each mindful moment.
Imagine setting a daily threshold of “3 assertive actions.”
Upon waking, PARR Lite whispers, “Be mindful of opportunities to speak up.”
At work, you hesitate to say something in a meeting, but the “instance” counter on your Applewatch (iPhone or Android phone), urges you to act.
You raise your hand, voice your opinion, and record an instance of “1”.
Each assertive act, from voicing your needs to setting boundaries, leaves a mark, a tiny victory as self-confidence is gained and the practice of assertiveness is reinforced.
PARR Lite’s magic lies beyond mere counting. It's about mindfulness.
The beauty of PARR Lite is its flexibility. It doesn’t require pre-planned scenarios. It simply nudges you to be more present, to recognize opportunities for the “instances” - thought or character trait habit you are tracking.
A practice that, in many ways, mirrors how Benjamin Franklin meticulously recorded and tracked his 13 virtues.
PARR Lite offers a modern twist on this time-tested approach, making character-building as accessible as tracking your steps.
The science is clear: intentional habit formation works.
By nurturing the thought and/or character trait habits you intend to cultivate, you'll find that sculpting these character and thought habits isn’t much different than sculpting your body.
Enjoy the show!
~mg
***Get the inspiring, free and world’s first HABITS to GOALS trackingtemplate here : → https://thehabitfactor.com/templates
BACKGROUND:
The Grunburg Behavior Model introduced a groundbreaking perspective on behavior change with its concept of the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System.” Unlike traditional models that portray human behavior as a linear chain of cause and effect (see CBT or TTM), this holistic and dynamic model unveils the intricate interplay of forces shaping our actions, thoughts, feelings, and the environment and how each perpetually reverberates to influence the other.
By illustrating human behavior within a personal 'echo-system,' the model highlights the continuous vibrational influence of thoughts (stories), emotions/feelings, and behaviors/habits/skills and our environment, creating a ripple effect that influences every aspect of our lives. The innovative and simple behavior model reveals a precise road map for anyone seeking lasting personal transformation and goal achievement. The model adds a layer of realism to our understanding of how we interact with the world around us while at the same time, challenging conventional models and wisdom.
The Grunburg Behavior Model simplistically articulates the essence of behavior, capturing its fluid and interconnected nature while paving the way for a more comprehensive and impactful understanding of human dynamics.Background here.
If you’d like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System,” it is featured in my latest book, “EVERYTHING!”
Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!
I teach and coach organizations and individuals worldwide how to best utilize and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” (below) and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scien...
“Good habits happen when planned; bad habits happen on their own.” ~M. Grunburg
This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.
Refining Thought & Character Habits
Frequently Asked Friday: PARR (PLAN, ACT, RECORD & REASSESS) is great for developing ‘planned’ habits. How can I develop thought and character habits such as being more assertive? Especially since I don’t know when those opportunities will arise.
P.A.R.R. Lite: One Savored Moment at a Time
While PARR excels at shaping physical habits, its latest sibling, PARR Lite (soon to be released in the app), empowers you to refine your inner diamond – your character– via thought and behavior habits.
Take assertiveness, a potential virtue often hidden beneath layers of self-doubt. One app user asked the very question above.
PARR Lite, soon to be released, will help strengthen these with each mindful moment.
Imagine setting a daily threshold of “3 assertive actions.”
Upon waking, PARR Lite whispers, “Be mindful of opportunities to speak up.”
At work, you hesitate to say something in a meeting, but the “instance” counter on your Applewatch (iPhone or Android phone), urges you to act.
You raise your hand, voice your opinion, and record an instance of “1”.
Each assertive act, from voicing your needs to setting boundaries, leaves a mark, a tiny victory as self-confidence is gained and the practice of assertiveness is reinforced.
PARR Lite’s magic lies beyond mere counting. It's about mindfulness.
The beauty of PARR Lite is its flexibility. It doesn’t require pre-planned scenarios. It simply nudges you to be more present, to recognize opportunities for the “instances” - thought or character trait habit you are tracking.
A practice that, in many ways, mirrors how Benjamin Franklin meticulously recorded and tracked his 13 virtues.
PARR Lite offers a modern twist on this time-tested approach, making character-building as accessible as tracking your steps.
The science is clear: intentional habit formation works.
By nurturing the thought and/or character trait habits you intend to cultivate, you'll find that sculpting these character and thought habits isn’t much different than sculpting your body.
Enjoy the show!
~mg
***Get the inspiring, free and world’s first HABITS to GOALS trackingtemplate here : → https://thehabitfactor.com/templates
BACKGROUND:
The Grunburg Behavior Model introduced a groundbreaking perspective on behavior change with its concept of the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System.” Unlike traditional models that portray human behavior as a linear chain of cause and effect (see CBT or TTM), this holistic and dynamic model unveils the intricate interplay of forces shaping our actions, thoughts, feelings, and the environment and how each perpetually reverberates to influence the other.
By illustrating human behavior within a personal 'echo-system,' the model highlights the continuous vibrational influence of thoughts (stories), emotions/feelings, and behaviors/habits/skills and our environment, creating a ripple effect that influences every aspect of our lives. The innovative and simple behavior model reveals a precise road map for anyone seeking lasting personal transformation and goal achievement. The model adds a layer of realism to our understanding of how we interact with the world around us while at the same time, challenging conventional models and wisdom.
The Grunburg Behavior Model simplistically articulates the essence of behavior, capturing its fluid and interconnected nature while paving the way for a more comprehensive and impactful understanding of human dynamics.Background here.
If you’d like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System,” it is featured in my latest book, “EVERYTHING!”
Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!
I teach and coach organizations and individuals worldwide how to best utilize and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” (below) and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scien...
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Habits and Skills: Fraternal Twins
“Good habits happen when planned; bad habits happen on their own.” ~M. Grunburg
This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.
Habits and Skills: The Fraternal Twins of Personal Development
We’re bringing back Frequently Asked Friday (w/ Season 12) – on a Monday!
Frequently Asked Friday: Why do Habits and skills share the same space in the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / Grunburg Behavior Model?
Upon further review, habits and skills share remarkable similarities, making them more like fraternal twins than distant cousins.
Where Habits & Skills Reside:
Both habits and skills, once fully formed, reside deep within the limbic system, specifically in the basal ganglia.
Once a habit or skill is ingrained in the basal ganglia, it becomes seemingly “automatic.”
The Four Stages of Learning or Competence:
When it comes to developing good habits intentionally, it helps to reflect upon the four stages of learning and to think about how you would practice any skill you’re trying to cultivate.
Unconsciously Incompetent: This stage is characterized by a lack of awareness of both the skill or habit and its potential benefits.
Consciously Incompetent: In this stage, we become aware of the skill or habit, but lack the knowledge or ability to perform it effectively.
Consciously Competent: Through intentional and repeated practice, we gain the ability to perform the skill or habit, but it still requires considerable conscious effort and attention.
Unconsciously Competent: With months and often years of practice, the skill and/or habit becomes automatic and is performed with little conscious thought.
The Formation of Bad Habits
Bad habits rarely require planning or tracking to be formed: Eating or drinking too much, sleeping late, and watching too much TV or, consuming too much social media – these unhealthy habits tend to form all by themselves.
It’s the good, positive habits that tend to require a plan, along with tracking, that facilitates their cultivation.
Enter: The P.A.R.R. Method for Good Habit Development
The PARR method is an acronym for Plan, Act, Record , and Reassess. It offers a powerful framework for cultivating positive habits.
By planning your desired behavior, taking action, recording your progress, and reassessing your approach (after 28 Days – 4 weeks), you can conscientiously shape habits that are aligned with your goals.
More info here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templates
Good habits happen when planned; bad habits happen on their own
Good habits and skills are both essential, related aspects of personal development and, not coincidentally, share a similar path to development.
Enjoy the show!
~mg
***Get the inspiring, free and world’s first HABITS to GOALS trackingtemplate here : → https://thehabitfactor.com/templates
“The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It’s the first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other. Hence, the “Echo-System.” Background here.
If you’d like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!”
I teach and coach organizations and individuals worldwide how to best utilize and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” (below) and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design.
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Be, Do, Have.
“Personal transformation and goal achievement can begin at any level: Story/Thinking, Emotions/Feelings, Behaviors/Habits/Skills, Environment. However, for them to endure, each component must remain in coherhence.”
This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.
Be, Do, Have: Cliché or Cornerstone?
The personal development mantra '“Be, Do, Have” often gets dismissed as a tired cliché.
Enter the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System,”/Grunburg Behavior Model. The model reveals a striking parallel, it underscores “Be, Do, Have” and, reinforces the dynamic interplay of the essential components; thoughts (stories), feelings/emotions, behaviors/habits/skills, and one’s environment required for goal achievement and personal transformation.
The Grunburg Model showcases three concentric circles: At the epicenter: Thoughts/Stories, the Middle concentric circle: Behaviors/Habits/Skills, and the Outermost concentric circle: Environment.
Everyone resides/exists within their own “Behavior Echo-System.” It’s important to recognize that one’s emotions and feelings are the fundamental conduits between each of the ‘major’ components.
The innermost circle, Thoughts/Stories, comprises the vast array of one’s narratives. These are the stories about oneself, entailing who we are, who we can become, and what we’re capable of achieving.
Our identities form as a construct of these elements, shaping our self-image and reverberating back to influence our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors.
For example, a confident and optimistic story (“Be” a world-changer) can fuel the motivation to develop empowering habits and pursue ambitious goals.
Conversely, a limiting or negative story can hold us back and prevent us from reaching our full potential.
[Key point: Run any real-life scenario through this behavior model and notice how each element reverberates to influence the others.]
The power of one’s “BE” ing (identity) lies in one's ability to reassess one’s personal narratives to understand the conscious and unconscious stories that may influence the very foundation of their behavior echo system.
The middle circle, Behaviors/Habits/Skills, represents the “Do” ing.
Hence, we put our stories about ourselves and our capability (beliefs) into practice, and these practices (habits) begin to shape our external world (Environment) through our choices and actions.
The “Environment” as represented in this model is both one’s sensory inputs – the ‘things’ that happen to us, and the things we can influence and change – our results.
Finally, the Environment includes everything that is not identified in the model itself, including physical surroundings, social connections, life situations, etc.
It’s a bit of a mind-bender, but since we can influence and change our body, and our body influences and changes our feelings/emotions, behaviors and thinking/stories – one’s body is part of their environment in this model.
Consider how one’s body alters one's emotions/feelings, behaviors/habits/skills and the stories and vice-versa. (See Nature vs. Nurture)
The “Thee Circles behavior model” underscores precisely how “Be, Do, Have” works. And, importantly, it’s not in a linear-type progression as all other previous behavior models depict (see TTM, CBT).
It’s the dynamic interplay (reverberation) of elemental behavioral forces that represents the essence of the Grunburg Behavior model.
It’s clear that “Be, Do, Have” is far more than clichéd personal development advice.
Enjoy the show!
~mg
P.S.: From the world of statistics: All models are flawed, but some are useful.
With this in mind, we asked Google’s AI experiment Bard to “break” the “Three Circles of Behav...
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