Habits 2 Goals: The Habit Factor® Podcast with Martin Grunburg

“The two most powerful warriors are patience and time.” ~Leo Tolstoy.”

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What if patience was the key to mastering your universe?

If courage is the mother of all virtues (according to Aristotle), arguably the father, along with prudence, could be patience.

Let’s run through some of the advantages of developing the virtue of being patient.

“Patience is the key to paradise.” ~ Persian Proverb

Patience helps you achieve your goals.

Patience helps you make better decisions.

Patience helps you to build stronger relationships.

Patience helps you manage stress better.

Patience helps you stay calm in difficult situations.

Patience helps you learn from your mistakes.

Patience can help you be more creative.

Patience can help you become more resilient.

Patience can help you be more compassionate.

Patience helps you to cultivate discipline.

Patience will enhance mindfulness.

Patience will help you control your emotions.

Patience will help you to be more tolerant of others.

Patience helps you be more grateful.

Patience can foster optimism.

Patience will enhance resilience.

Patience can save your life

Patience leads to prudence.

Patience will help you make a positive impact on the world.

Patience leads to tranquility and harmony.

Patience helps you see things for what they are

In Siddhartha, the fantastic novel by Hermann Hess, Siddhartha resorts to a mantra – a schema – that guides him through his challenge-filled journey.

“I can think. I can wait. I can fast.”

“I can think. I can wait. I can fast.”

“I can think. I can wait. I can fast.”

Now, we migrate in a semi-parallel fashion from Siddhartha to Yoda, Master Jedi. It was Yoda who cautioned a young Luke Skywalker, “Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering.”

Yoda could have easily offered: “Impatience is the path to the dark side.”

Impatience leads to frustration. Frustration leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering.

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"So many Goo-Roos preach the idea that you should just focus on your strengths. The reason it's called 'Personal Development' is it involves both—improving your weaknesses and capitalizing on strengths."

“It’s not how you start that matters, it’s how you finish.” ~Michael Jordan

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Let’s talk about finishing strong. Does anyone remember who led at halftime, anyway?

Whether it’s the final reps of a workout, the last chapter of a book, the home stretch of a goal, or the end of the year, finishing with purpose and intensity changes everything.

The act of finishing strong isn't just motivational fluff; it's a game-changer for habit-building, self-confidence, and—bonus—a sweet dopamine rush.

Benefits of Finishing Strong

Supercharges Confidence: Ending on a high note convinces your brain you’re the kind of person who executes on a plan and finishes what they start. When your last mile is faster than your first mile—you’re finishing strong! Finishing what you plan—even small tasks (behaviors you’re looking to cultivate into habits)—produces self-efficacy. Self-efficacy is the cornerstone of The Habit Factor’s P.A.R.R., habit-building methodology.

Reinforces Habit Strength: Imagine your habit as a snowball rolling downhill. Finishing strong reinforces your commitment; it grows larger and faster and gains momentum with each successful completion.

Brain Candy: When you complete a task—almost any task you set out to accomplish—your brain rewards you with dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin, and endorphins. Bonus: all these feel-good chemicals help to reinforce your motivation to get back after it!

Tomorrow Meets a Stronger You: Today’s strong finish equates to you rejoining that next practice effort even stronger. You’re essentially handing future-you a gift—you’re paying it forward with each strong finish!

Laser Focus: Aiming to finish strong forces you to up the ante—increase the energy, intensity, and focus.

“A good start’s a joyful run, but finishing strong is second to none.”

P.A.R.R. and Finishing Strong

The Habit Factor’s P.A.R.R. methodology (Plan, Act, Record, Reassess) sets you up for a strong finish by helping you to establish a “low bar”—making finishing strong easier.

How it all connects:

Plan: Start with your habit’s “Target Days” are they (M, W, F) or (Tu, Th)? Notice they do NOT need to be every day. You select the days that work with you and your schedule. Then, identify the “Minimum Success Criteria” (MSC)—the “low-bar” part of your habit-building plan. For instance, 5 pushups or 25 pushups? Writing for 10 minutes or 10 pages?

Act: Each action (according to your plan) becomes a mini-finish line. Crush it on your target days, and you’re already finishing strong at a micro-level, which keeps the momentum building.

Record: Track your progress against your “Targets” and build accountability. The more you see wins stack up, the easier it is to keep finishing strong.

Reassess: Reflecting on what worked (and what didn’t) ties a neat bow on your efforts and preps you for the next challenge.

When you approach habits with P.A.R.R., you’re not just grinding—you’re creating a cycle of intentional starts and triumphant finishes.

How to Finish Strong

Set Your Sights on Small Wins: Small helps to get started—convincing yourself it’ll be easy to start. Establishing low “Minimum Success Criteria” on your “Target Days” is the secret weapon of P.A.R.R., which works to help get started AND to finish strong.

Consistency Beats Intensity: Skip the “all or nothing” mindset. Show up consistently and let habit strength compound over time.

Plan to Win: Strong finishes rarely happen by accident. Decide in advance if you’ll be exceeding your “Minimum Success Criteria.” Not so you can get two checks—but so you’ll finish strong and show up next time even stronger.

Reflect and Celebrate: Celebration is almost instantaneous as your natural reward systems—endorphins and neurotransmitters like serotonin and dopamine—will kick in every time you complete your “Minimum Success Criteria” on your “Target Days.” It won’t just be a mental high-five... it’ll be an emotional one that will keep you pumped and motivated as you prove self-efficacy.

“Habit development cares little about bursts of energy. Habits are developed via consistency over time. The notion that you have to keep daily streaks alive or you can’t miss two days is completely a myth. Consistency over time is the key to habit development, period.”

“Good habits happen when planned; bad habits happen on their own.” ~M. Grunburg

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Refining Thought & Character Habits

Frequently Asked Friday: PARR (PLAN, ACT, RECORD & REASSESS) is great for developing ‘planned’ habits. How can I develop thought and character habits such as being more assertive? Especially since I don’t know when those opportunities will arise.

P.A.R.R. Lite: One Savored Moment at a Time

While PARR excels at shaping physical habits, its latest sibling, PARR Lite (soon to be released in the app), empowers you to refine your inner diamond – your character– via thought and behavior habits.

Take assertiveness, a potential virtue often hidden beneath layers of self-doubt. One app user asked the very question above.

PARR Lite, soon to be released, will help strengthen these with each mindful moment.

Imagine setting a daily threshold of “3 assertive actions.”

Upon waking, PARR Lite whispers, “Be mindful of opportunities to speak up.”

At work, you hesitate to say something in a meeting, but the “instance” counter on your Applewatch (iPhone or Android phone), urges you to act.

You raise your hand, voice your opinion, and record an instance of “1”.

Each assertive act, from voicing your needs to setting boundaries, leaves a mark, a tiny victory as self-confidence is gained and the practice of assertiveness is reinforced.

PARR Lite’s magic lies beyond mere counting. It's about mindfulness.

The beauty of PARR Lite is its flexibility. It doesn’t require pre-planned scenarios. It simply nudges you to be more present, to recognize opportunities for the “instances” - thought or character trait habit you are tracking.

A practice that, in many ways, mirrors how Benjamin Franklin meticulously recorded and tracked his 13 virtues.

PARR Lite offers a modern twist on this time-tested approach, making character-building as accessible as tracking your steps.

The science is clear: intentional habit formation works.

By nurturing the thought and/or character trait habits you intend to cultivate, you'll find that sculpting these character and thought habits isn’t much different than sculpting your body.

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