Grow Yourself Grow Your Marriage

In this episode, Chris and Johnna breakdown the common reasons why couples feel they are incompatible, and ways to combat and function through that incompatibility to have a healthy marriage.

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Episode Summary:

On this solo episode, Chris covers the reasons we feel guilty when overindulging around the holidays, and how to get rid of that guilt and reset your mind regarding food and the holidays.

Topics Covered:

• Avoiding holiday food guilt
• Binge eating around the holidays
• Combatting the guilt that accompanies overeating
• Combatting the feelings that come from overeating – bloating, irritability etc.
• Expectations around the holidays and the stress that comes with trying to perfect everything, whether you are hosting or traveling
• Adjusting your attitude when you know that the day can be stressful
• Setting boundaries for yourself and your family around the holidays
• Allowing yourself treats, but in moderation, and not beating yourself up over it
• Making a plan BEFORE you go
• Talking to relatives who may comment on or be cynical about your goals and fitness journey
• Negative mind chatter
• Social pressures
• Creating balance around the holidays
• The harm in finding comfort in food
• Enjoying the holidays without the binge and without the guilt
• The compound effect
• Physiological vs. mental response from over-indulging

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Episode Summary:

In this episode Chris & Johnna interview journalist, CEO and head writer of Gerencer Creative - Tom Gerencer on the ways in which his life changed when his motto became "I can't do it without you God". This happened so many times that he decided to write a book and we had the privilege of getting the inside story before it's published!

Notes:

0-10 minutes

• Coddled to faithful
• Faithful to arrogant
• Business
• Money problems and job loss with baby on the way
• Trying things on his own and nothing was working
• Feeling stuck in life
• Descriptive vs prescriptive rules

10-20 minutes

• Religion vs. relationship
• Charity
• Downfall of marriage counseling when your motivation isn’t in the right place
• How do I get a strong faith?
• Filling your anger tank
• Realizing you cannot make a good marriage without the help of God

20-30 minutes

• Is this marriage more than just today?
• Realizing we can only control what we can control

30-40 minutes

• Benefits of giving
• Who is God asking you to help using the skills He has given you?
• Chronic lyme disease
• Fasting
• Random ways God shows up and uses people behind the scenes
• The bible project

Where can you find Tom?

http://www.tomgerencer.com/

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(BC stands for Book Club)

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For this month we chose the book Triggers: Exchanging Parents' Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses written by authors Amber Lia & Wendy Speake.

We chose this book because we felt like we were growing in many areas by reading, listening and learning, but collectively we weren't growing in our parenting together. So after doing some research, Johnna found Triggers and felt the instant connection to the book.

The authors are both moms who are easy to resonate with in their real life stories of examining the external and internal triggers that set them off into anger in their parenting journey.

In this episode Chris and Johnna cover chapter one of the book on the topic of disobedience and give you all the things they took away.

• Disobedience
• expectations of obedience (Ephesians 6:1)
• righteous anger
• the sinful behaviors that anger causes in us (pg 23 of Triggers)
• entitled children
• God wants us to obey because obedience gives birth to blessing (pg 21 of Triggers)
• God is the God of 70x7 chances, he doesn't whack us upside the head or deal harshly
• "Iron fists chisel stony hearts, but graceful hands shape responsive hearts." (pg 22/23 of Triggers)

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Since the shows inception in 2019 this is THE MOST DOWNLOADED EPISODE IN GYGYM HISTORY.

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Episode Summary:

Chris and Johnna interview couple Ben and Megan Ballein on their journey through infertility, infidelity, separation, and restoration.

Listen as real life couple takes us through how they stumbled through the toughest of times to get to where they are now.

Topics Covered:

• Lack of communication in marriage
• Justifying situations
• Infertility
• Setting boundaries or building fences in your marriage with the opposite sex
• Taking it too far – infidelity
• Do happy people cheat?
• When caught in the act of cheating
• How your job can shape your identity and significance
• Lost identity as the man and husband in marriage, and finding it in work
• New confidence and time spent with other people can be a distraction from pain at home
• The importance of support and community in your marriage and in challenging situations
• Repressed resentment
• The danger in letting important things roll off of your back
• The effects of struggling through infertility
• The decision to become licensed foster parents
• The decision to adopt
• Adopting before the healing
• The cycle of guilt
• Request for divorce
• Separation
• Family isn’t just blood
• The power of prayer
• Laid off
• Single mom
• Drunk dial confessions
• God’s love through the hurt
• Feeling forced to choose adoption or marriage
• Confiding in another woman
• Seeking help
• Stumbling up to the altar
• A restored marriage
• Keeping families together
• Youth Pastors
• A God-centered marriage
• A manly man vs. a Godly man

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