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James Sexton: Marriage Advice from a Divorce Lawyer

02/12/20 • 54 min

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“Relationships are chapters in a long story,” says James Sexton, author of How to Stay in Love. Today, Sexton teaches us what he’s learned from twenty years as a divorce lawyer and from his own divorce. To make a marriage last: “Never stop trying to close your spouse,” says Sexton. Take preventative measures. Have a plan for how you’re going to argue and be in conflict—before you’re in conflict. Mind your plate. Pay attention. It’s not about being right. It’s about being happy. And if you’re not happy, have the courage to close one chapter and open another with compassion—for your partner and yourself.

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