Good Inside with Dr. Becky - Does Praise Have Unintended Consequences?

Does Praise Have Unintended Consequences?

06/29/21 • 29 min

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When our kids show us a new drawing, score their first soccer goal, or ace a test, we want to celebrate their wins. And when our kids are struggling, our first instinct is to build them back up. But here's the tricky thing about showering kids with praise in high or low moments: It wires them to look to others for validation, instead of learning to feel at home with themselves. In this episode, Dr. Becky talks to three parents about rethinking praise. She offers strategies for how to build stable, long-lasting confidence that your child will be able to access no matter what comes their way in life. Join Good Inside Membership: https://bit.ly/3cqgG2A Follow Dr. Becky on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinside Sign up for our weekly email, Good Insider: https://www.goodinside.com/newsletter Order Dr. Becky's book, Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be, at goodinside.com/book or wherever you order your books. For a full transcript of the episode, go to goodinside.com/podcast

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Raising a strong-willed child can feel like you're constantly locked in a power struggle. The same goes for parenting when your partner differs in approach. But here's something to consider in any relationship: When we prioritize connection over being right, we can begin to work together against a problem... instead of seeing each other as the problem. In this Deep Dive episode, mothers Jessica and Joanna come to Dr. Becky for advice on raising their opinionated daughter Jada differently from how they were raised, while navigating their own clashing parenting styles. As the three explore what's behind their tough moments with Jada, they discuss breaking intergenerational cycles, infusing difficult moments with playfulness, and switching up their rigid roles as parents. As always, Dr. Becky provides actionable takeaways for tricky situations—modeling scripts and strategies along the way. Join Good Inside Membership: https://bit.ly/3cqgG2A Follow Dr. Becky on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinside Sign up for our weekly email, Good Insider: https://www.goodinside.com/newsletter Pre-order Dr. Becky's upcoming book, Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be: www.goodinside.com/book or wherever you order your books.

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How Do I Handle Being Rejected by My Child?

When your child says things like "I only love mommy" or "Go away, I want daddy to give me a bath!", it's easy to feel like you're doing something wrong. Remember this: Your child's rejection is not a barometer of your parenting. In these moments, there's nothing wrong with the in-favor parent, the out-of-favor parent, or the child. In fact, your child's rejection is a sign that they feel safe enough in your presence to even express their displeasure. In this week's episode, Dr. Becky hears from three parents who are struggling with phases of parental preference. She gently reminds each parent of their goodness and provides actionable strategies to manage these tricky and often triggering moments. Join Good Inside Membership: https://bit.ly/3cqgG2A Follow Dr. Becky on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinside Sign up for our weekly email, Good Insider: https://www.goodinside.com/newsletter Order Dr. Becky's book, Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be, at goodinside.com/book or wherever you order your books. For a full transcript of the episode, go to goodinside.com/podcast