Compare and Despair
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09/19/24 • 42 min
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Today we’re tackling the universal struggle of comparing ourselves to others. Whether it’s about body image, social status, or relationships, comparison can have a negative impact on our mental health, leading to a cycle of insecurity and self-doubt.
In this episode, we’re looking at how to break the cycle and actually re-frame it for your personal development. Join us as we dive into how to compare consciously and mindfully, transforming it into a tool that actually serves you instead of tearing you down. Some of the topics covered today are:
- Knowing who we compare ourselves to and why
- Instagram, TikTok, and social media - and its impact on your self-esteem
- Self-worth and self-confidence
- Mindfulness and deliberate thought work
- Stories we tell ourselves about other people’s success
- How to break the cycle of compare and despair
- Tearing others down as an attempt to find comfort
Join us for an informative episode where we’ll break down practical strategies for breaking free from the compare-and-despair cycle so you can find more peace and self-assuredness.
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Today we’re tackling the universal struggle of comparing ourselves to others. Whether it’s about body image, social status, or relationships, comparison can have a negative impact on our mental health, leading to a cycle of insecurity and self-doubt.
In this episode, we’re looking at how to break the cycle and actually re-frame it for your personal development. Join us as we dive into how to compare consciously and mindfully, transforming it into a tool that actually serves you instead of tearing you down. Some of the topics covered today are:
- Knowing who we compare ourselves to and why
- Instagram, TikTok, and social media - and its impact on your self-esteem
- Self-worth and self-confidence
- Mindfulness and deliberate thought work
- Stories we tell ourselves about other people’s success
- How to break the cycle of compare and despair
- Tearing others down as an attempt to find comfort
Join us for an informative episode where we’ll break down practical strategies for breaking free from the compare-and-despair cycle so you can find more peace and self-assuredness.
Today's Hosts:
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- Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com
- LEARN WITH US -
- Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others.
- Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame.
- Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series.
- Take the Attach
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- Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls
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- Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com
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- Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others.
- Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame.
- Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series.
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