Gathering Gold
Sheryl Paul and Victoria Russell
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Social Anxiety
Gathering Gold
11/17/23 • 52 min
We all know the feeling: jitters before a birthday party. Melting into the wall during a wedding reception. Obsessing over that awkward hug you gave at the potluck.
Everyone has their moments of social anxiety, but some of us suffer with it more chronically, perhaps managing a mixture of avoidance and overcompensation. We might worry that we are too quiet or too loud, too boring or too obnoxious—somehow just not right. Our fear of others’ judgment interweaves with our own harsh inner critic.
While humans are apt to underestimate how much people like us, we also all have had experiences of rejection that left scars. Highly sensitive people, introverted people, and people with anxiety have our own particular fear of being shunned because of our difference.
In today’s episode, Sheryl shares stories of her own past social scars that have contributed to social anxiety across her life, from getting kicked out a clique in fifth grade to feeling invisible in her synagogue in recent years.
In this conversation, we dig into the soil of social anxiety to find the gems hidden under layers of sediment: our genuineness and our capacity to care and love.
References:
- Episode of Hidden Brain, “How Others See You”
- Matt Haig quote: “Never be cool. Never try to be cool. Never worry what the cool people think. Head for the warm people. Life is warmth. You’ll be cool when you’re dead.”
Gathering Gold
Gathering Gold
05/14/21 • 53 min
In Episode 2, we’ve got news: we changed the podcast name! In the spirit of this shift, we’re talking about course-correcting, finding opportunity within challenge, and the Jungian approach of turning lead into gold. We talk about uncovering buried treasure in our gardens--learning to see our own inherent gifts and goodness rather than projecting it externally. And, we discuss gathering gold from all seasons of life, finding compassion in our struggles, and bringing that compassion to others.
References
- The Robcast, Episode 77: T'shuvah!
- Mindset by Carol Dweck
- Mindsight by Daniel Siegel
- Braiding Sweetgrass and Gathering Moss by Robin Wall Kimmerer
- “Marjorie” by Taylor Swift
- Falling Upward by Richard Rohr
- Richard Rohr talk at Texas Lutheran University
- Pema Chödrön
- Everything Happens For a Reason: And Other Lives I’ve Loved by Kate Bowler
- Everything Happens podcast episode: Mari Andrew: Beautiful, Terrible, and Eveything In-Between
- Robert Johnson’s autobiography Balancing Heaven and Earth
- Sheryl’s blog post "Take Back Your Gold”
Burnout and Rest
Gathering Gold
10/08/21 • 58 min
After a short break, Gathering Gold is back with an episode about burnout and rest. We name just some of the many reasons why humans are tired right now, from navigating an ongoing global pandemic, to managing expectations around productivity and achievement. We land on a conversation about the unrelenting demands of technology that lead us to constant checking, producing, and multitasking, and exiting the present moment.
We discuss some of the fears underneath resistance to rest, and Sheryl shares her recent experience of taking a break from Instagram. We talk about learning to pay attention to our own rhythms, and saying no to some things so we can say yes to others.
Sheryl shares ideas for how we can replenish and recapture some energy as we move forward through ongoing uncertainty and transition.
References and Resources:
- Brené Brown's Dare to Lead podcast episode with Amy Cuddy about Pandemic Flux Syndrome
- Emily Dickinson's poem "If you were coming in the fall"
- Your Undivided Attention podcast
- The Social Dilemma documentary
- Center for Humane Technology
- Relationship coach Silvy Khoucasian
- Rabbi Lisa Rappaport
- Shemita year in Judaism
- Ted Lasso TV show
- The Nap Ministry
- Jewish Maariv prayer
- Eckhart Tolle
- "The Journey" poem by Mary Oliver
- When the Heart Waits by Sue Monk Kidd
References and Resources:
- Brené Brown's Dare to Lead podcast episode with Amy Cuddy about Pandemic Flux Syndrome
- Emily Dickinson's poem "If you were coming in the fall"
- Your Undivided Attention podcast
- The Social Dilemma documentary
- Center for Humane Technology
- Relationship coach Silvy Khoucasian
- Rabbi Lisa Rappaport
- Shemita year in Judaism
- Ted Lasso TV show
- The Nap Ministry
- Jewish Maariv prayer
- Eckhart Tolle
- "The Journey" poem by Mary Oliver
- When the Heart Waits by Sue Monk Kidd
The Passage of Time
Gathering Gold
02/25/22 • 59 min
The passage of time: we all feel it, but highly sensitive people seem to feel it that much more acutely, and often from a very young age. In today's episode, Sheryl shares how she has been feeling the passage of time more strongly as her youngest son nears the age of 18 and begins preparing for college, and how she meets "sweet grief" when it arises. Victoria shares how she often tried to stop or stall the process of growing up throughout her younger years because of this early and sharp awareness of time passing.
We discuss the speed of technological change and our current moment of cultural nostalgia, and our human tendency to romanticize the past and fear the future. Finally, we reflect on some of the gifts and the gold embedded in the passage of time.
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Spiritual Longing
Gathering Gold
12/10/21 • 62 min
In today’s episode, we’re talking about spiritual longing: longing for connection to God, to mystery, to something greater than our individual selves. We explore some of the obstacles and questions that arise around spirituality: Do I need belief to be spiritual? Is my partner wrong for me if I’m on a spiritual path and they’re not? How do I pray when I’m afraid of what God might ask me to do?
Victoria shares some of her history with spirituality and religion, including the legacy of her almost-monk grandfather, and a journey that includes Veggie Tales and CCD, desire and despair, writing poetry and e-mailing her ex-boyfriend from a silent retreat at an abbey.
Sheryl shares a poem that expresses her conception of the divine: not an external being that judges and punishes, but a warm and intimate relationship based in reciprocity, realness, and presence.
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Aging Backwards (Sheryl Turns 50)
Gathering Gold
11/05/21 • 60 min
In today’s very special episode, Sheryl reflects on aging as she crosses the threshold into the next decade of life: her fifties.
We talk about what it means to “age backwards,” and we consider the question: how can we become more curious, more open, softer and lighter as the years go, rather than more rigid and calcified? Is it possible that aging is, in some ways, not as linear as we think?
We unpack some of the stories and perceptions about aging that can make it difficult for us to accept and embrace the changes that come with the passage of time. Sheryl shares her thoughts on common messages about aging bodies and appearances, and how to let go of the “shoulds” we encounter in different stages of life.
Sheryl also shares how she has been spending her time lately, moving from a Shmita year into a Jubilee year: slowing down, singing, learning Hebrew, and listening closely to her body. She shares some of her intentions and hopes for the future, including a special note about reclaiming her voice and her name.
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Creativity
Gathering Gold
06/09/23 • 64 min
There are all sorts of blocks that get in the way of us connecting to our creativity, our life force.
There’s the inner critic, and then there are the outer critics. There’s perfectionism, and the fear that “it’s all been done before.” There’s the despair of "not enough," and the ache of lacking inspiration.
Even after we’ve bushwhacked our way through the thickets of inner resistance to actually create something, we often prick ourselves on thorny choices around sharing what we’ve made. How do we know when it’s time to share, or if it ever needs to be shared? Is wanting to share our creativity inherently narcissistic? What if we get attention for it? What if no one pays attention? What’s the point of all of it, anyway?
All of this, and more, in today's episode.
References:
- Jeremy Taylor's dreamwork
- Mary Oliver's poetry and On Being interview
- Elizabeth Gilbert’s TED talk, Oprah talk, and book Big Magic
- Magic Lessons Podcast episode with Brené Brown
- Marion Woodman's Sitting by the Well
- Perennials Podcast Episode 16: Lucky You with Erika Carter
Effort and Ease
Gathering Gold
08/04/23 • 59 min
Everything we do requires some effort. We wake up in the morning, and from that point forward, we exert effort, starting with getting out of bed and brushing our teeth.
In our society, it is easy to think of effort as synonymous with drudgery, exhaustion, and an attitude of "never enough." Because of this, we also have a complicated relationship with ease: we struggle to rest, and to trust ease. We often stumble from overexertion into numbing out.
Humans seem to be happiest when we find a flow between effort and ease, a satisfactory relationship with trying and allowing, practicing and surrendering. How do we come to cultivate that symbiotic relationship in our lives? How do we find that flow?
This is what we explore in today’s episode.
References:
Taylor Swift commencement speech at NYU
The Cloak of Shame
Gathering Gold
09/01/23 • 49 min
Everyone feels shame at one time or another.
For some of us, shame is an occasional or even rare experience. It’s an awful feeling, but manageable.
For others, shame is a state that we are particularly prone to; our shame gets activated quickly and intensely. We might even walk around in a haze of free-floating shame, inhaling it with the air we breathe.
In today’s episode, Sheryl and Victoria explore shame and some of its shifting forms: shame as a creature of the dark that hides out in our innermost places, that flees when we attempt to bring it into the light. Shame as a voice we hear deep inside, convincing us that we don’t deserve love and belonging. Shame as a cloak, shielding us from the vulnerability of exposure and visibility.
Join us in this episode to tug at the cloak and take a peek at what's underneath.
References:
- Break Free from Anxiety 9-month course
- "The Good Girl and the Inner Teenager" episode
- Sheryl’s most recent blog post: "Healing Shame is One of the Keys to Healing Anxiety"
- Sheryl's "You Are Loved" MP3
- Shame Spiral podcast
- Harriet Lerner
- Feeding Your Demons: Ancient Wisdom for Resolving Inner Conflict, by Tsultrim Allione
- Andrea Gibson on double suffering
- Jen Campbell talking about queer coding and disability coding in Disney
- Sheryl’s Sacred Sexuality course
- Untamed by Glennon Doyle
The Power of Laughter
Gathering Gold
10/22/21 • 59 min
Laughter is powerful. It can be a sign of deep comfort and intimacy, or a weapon used to reject and humiliate. Some of us grew up in homes where jokes were plentiful but tears weren’t allowed; others may have felt that silliness or goofiness was frowned upon. For some, relationship anxiety attaches itself to questions like What if my partner isn’t funny enough? Or, Is my partner too silly?
In today's episode, we’re talking about the importance of keeping a sense of humor when doing inner work, while also meeting our pain around unkind joking, teasing or sarcasm. Sheryl shares her own insecurities around humor, and addresses how family history and projection can play into humor-related relationship anxiety.
Stay tuned to the *very* end of the episode to hear a blooper and some belly laughs from your hosts!
References:
- Sheryl’s blog post: "How to Decode the Intrusive Thought: 'You’re Too Silly'”
- Pema Chodron
- Tara Brach
- James Martin and his book, Between Heaven and Mirth: Why Joy, Humor, and Laughter Are at the Heart of the Spiritual Life
- Article about the Dalai Lama: "Playful humor: the Dalai Lama's secret weapon"
- Glennon Doyle
- Brene Brown
- Norman Cousins
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FAQ
How many episodes does Gathering Gold have?
Gathering Gold currently has 92 episodes available.
What topics does Gathering Gold cover?
The podcast is about Podcasts, Self-Improvement and Education.
What is the most popular episode on Gathering Gold?
The episode title 'When We Mess Up' is the most popular.
What is the average episode length on Gathering Gold?
The average episode length on Gathering Gold is 53 minutes.
How often are episodes of Gathering Gold released?
Episodes of Gathering Gold are typically released every 14 days, 1 hour.
When was the first episode of Gathering Gold?
The first episode of Gathering Gold was released on Apr 23, 2021.
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