S1, Ep 4 Best Friend Therapy: Imposter Syndrome - What is it? How does it show up? Are we the only ones who feel it?

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04/17/22 • 45 min

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Welcome to this episode of Best Friend Therapy, where we chat about what's on our minds, to get deeper in our minds.
This week we're talking about Imposter Syndrome and why, if you've ever felt like the odd one out, you're in good company.
Join us on an Inception-like head-scratcher as we experience Imposter Syndrome whilst talking about Imposter Syndrome in an attempt to make the episode "good enough", learn why tennis remains Elizabeth's Achilles heel and why Emma will never have a job as a pizza chef.
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Malcolm Gladwell talks about 10,000 hours of practice is his fantastic book, 'Outliers'.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Outliers-Story-Success-Malcolm-Gladwell/dp/0141036257
Emma and Elizabeth talk about the original study into Imposter Phenomenon, for which the reference is: Clance, P. R., & Imes, S. A. (1978). The imposter phenomenon in high achieving women: Dynamics and therapeutic intervention. Psychotherapy: Theory, Research & Practice, 15(3), 241–247.
Brene Brown speaks about belonging versus fitting in within her book 'The Gifts of Imperfection'.
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The School of Life has produced a great video on Imposter Syndrome: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eqhUHyVpAwE
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Best Friend Therapy is hosted by Elizabeth Day and Emma Reed Turrell, produced by Chris Sharp. To contact us, email [email protected]
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Social Media:
Elizabeth Day @elizabday
Emma Reed Turrell @emmareedturrell
Best Friend Therapy @best.friend.therapy

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S1, Ep 3 Best Friend Therapy: Shoulds & Oughts - Why are we so tough on ourselves? Are we addicted to control? What if we let go?

Welcome to this episode of Best Friend Therapy, where we chat about what's on our minds, to get deeper in our minds.
TW: miscarriage
This week we're talking about shoulds and oughts and why we feel compelled to live our lives by some pretty tough rules at times. Elizabeth shares times in her life when structure has helped her to feel in control and Emma explains why criticism can sometimes be tough to take.
Correction: Emma did not know that Tetrapak cartons were now widely recyclable. She *should* know better.
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Emma refers to personality adaptations in this episode (as distinct from disorders) and you can read more about obsessive-compulsive and passive-aggressive processes in the book 'Personality Adaptations', by Vann Joines and Iain Stewart, available from all good booksellers or at https://www.amazon.co.uk/Personality-Adaptations-Understanding-Psychotherapy-Counselling/dp/187024401X
Claude Steiner's book, 'Scripts People Live', offers great insights into the behavioural templates we lay down in early life. https://www.amazon.co.uk/Scripts-People-Live-Transactional-Analysis/dp/0802132103/ref=sr_1_1?adgrpid=51732384845&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIlZWvoZXz9gIVycLtCh08vgU7EAAYAiAAEgKtePD_BwE&hvadid=259059343144&hvdev=c&hvlocphy=9045896&hvnetw=g&hvqmt=e&hvrand=17815643095787796303&hvtargid=kwd-299710077529&hydadcr=24405_1748889&keywords=scripts+people+live&qid=1648826478&sr=8-1
Emma quotes Eric Berne's work on ego states and the Parent-Adult-Child model. You can find out more at https://ericberne.com.
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Best Friend Therapy is hosted by Elizabeth Day and Emma Reed Turrell, produced by Chris Sharp. To contact us, email [email protected]
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Social Media:
Elizabeth Day @elizabday
Emma Reed Turrell @emmareedturrell
Best Friend Therapy @best.friend.therapy

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S1, Ep 5 Best Friend Therapy: Special Occasions - How do we feel about them? Who are they for? What's so special about them anyway?

Welcome to this episode of Best Friend Therapy, where we chat about what's on our minds, to get deeper in our minds.
This week we're talking about special occasions - from the happiest day of your life to the most wonderful time of the year - and why they're not always what they're cracked up to be. Ironic, given that today is actually Emma's birthday (but don't mention it, will you?)
Whether it's a wedding, Christmas Day, a birthday dinner, or simply a Sunday lunch, we talk about why special occasions can bring more pressure than pleasure, and how to design an occasion that's special for *you*.
Find out why Emma is allergic to birthdays and take a chilling trip down Memory Lane with Elizabeth, as she relives her magic candle nightmares.
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Gary Chapman's book "The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts" is widely available. You can take the Love Language quiz here: https://www.5lovelanguages.com/
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Best Friend Therapy is hosted by Elizabeth Day and Emma Reed Turrell, produced by Chris Sharp. To contact us, email [email protected]
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Social Media:
Elizabeth Day @elizabday
Emma Reed Turrell @emmareedturrell
Best Friend Therapy @best.friend.therapy