004 - Compressed Time, The Laboratoy of Life, gentle Catpsychology and asking questions that make you wanna talk
02/12/22 • 98 min
Come in and get a front row seat in Sharon’s and Alex’s head! It is a RICH space in here! :-)
Sorry about the crackling noises sometimes. That was Sharon’s Scarf on the Mic and Alex didn’t realized tzhat while recording - they were so deep in the Conversation.
00:00:00 Intro and why we haven’t got a proper Intro (yet) :)
00:02:14 - Parking Downhill: How can we be more inclusive with Neurodiversities or: How can we as neurodivergent include more neuronormative people?
00:09:00 - What if “the others” don’t know about neurodiversity and: A (possible) solution and Sharon’s Tools of the Trade
00:12:00 - What if you don’t have Time, Conversation and Listening - so: No kind of Trust
00:16:00 - There are patterns and stuff is gonna surface... WHEN you create an environment and keep asking quesions with an open mind
00:22:00 What gave us energy when we were kids (and why Sharon phrases the question this way)
00:23:00 - Why do we like mysteries so much?
00:25:00 - Hic sunt Dracones - Here be Dragons - in ourselfs - Maturity and settling down
and:
the 3 Curiosiuties
00:36:00 - Emotional immaturity and growing up with Sharon as a sister
00:38:45 - Getting people aware of the is something like Neurodiversity
00:39:30 - Are you controlling your emotions as well?
00:41:00 - Emotional differences between being a man and a woman in controlling emotions
00:44:00 - Couple challenges between emotional and rational partners
00:46:00 - Hypersensitivity and being logical
00:49:45 - Catpsychology: How Sharon learned as a kid to reflect on her own
00:51:30 - That is SO Montessori!
00:55:00 - The Laboratory of Life ... and the right, curious questions that make you wanna talk: What do you think about today?
00:58:00 - Give people TIME to explore quesitons and: The Montessori Beads
00:59:45 - Compressed Time
01:01:00 - Derekt Sivers and his mocent recent book How to Live
01:03:00 - Inviting people into your world
01:06:00 - Share on! Sharon :-) and the explanation of Kalauers - we get Lost in Translation for a short moment :)
01:07:30 - Sharing inspite of imposter Syndrome and: Having it in my Head is ENOUGH
01:15:00 - Building a structure and storytelling for FLOW-states
01:21:00 - Behaviroual Econmoics how do we make the decisions that we make and HumanOS
01:26:00 - Renovate your Life: Midlife Crisis
01:30:00 - What are good open questions? and giving permission to challenging, negative emotions
01:35:00 - Parking Downhill: How did Sharon’s mother know all that?
and
are we going to make Shirts with: “Sharon’s Mom said ”
Come in and get a front row seat in Sharon’s and Alex’s head! It is a RICH space in here! :-)
Sorry about the crackling noises sometimes. That was Sharon’s Scarf on the Mic and Alex didn’t realized tzhat while recording - they were so deep in the Conversation.
00:00:00 Intro and why we haven’t got a proper Intro (yet) :)
00:02:14 - Parking Downhill: How can we be more inclusive with Neurodiversities or: How can we as neurodivergent include more neuronormative people?
00:09:00 - What if “the others” don’t know about neurodiversity and: A (possible) solution and Sharon’s Tools of the Trade
00:12:00 - What if you don’t have Time, Conversation and Listening - so: No kind of Trust
00:16:00 - There are patterns and stuff is gonna surface... WHEN you create an environment and keep asking quesions with an open mind
00:22:00 What gave us energy when we were kids (and why Sharon phrases the question this way)
00:23:00 - Why do we like mysteries so much?
00:25:00 - Hic sunt Dracones - Here be Dragons - in ourselfs - Maturity and settling down
and:
the 3 Curiosiuties
00:36:00 - Emotional immaturity and growing up with Sharon as a sister
00:38:45 - Getting people aware of the is something like Neurodiversity
00:39:30 - Are you controlling your emotions as well?
00:41:00 - Emotional differences between being a man and a woman in controlling emotions
00:44:00 - Couple challenges between emotional and rational partners
00:46:00 - Hypersensitivity and being logical
00:49:45 - Catpsychology: How Sharon learned as a kid to reflect on her own
00:51:30 - That is SO Montessori!
00:55:00 - The Laboratory of Life ... and the right, curious questions that make you wanna talk: What do you think about today?
00:58:00 - Give people TIME to explore quesitons and: The Montessori Beads
00:59:45 - Compressed Time
01:01:00 - Derekt Sivers and his mocent recent book How to Live
01:03:00 - Inviting people into your world
01:06:00 - Share on! Sharon :-) and the explanation of Kalauers - we get Lost in Translation for a short moment :)
01:07:30 - Sharing inspite of imposter Syndrome and: Having it in my Head is ENOUGH
01:15:00 - Building a structure and storytelling for FLOW-states
01:21:00 - Behaviroual Econmoics how do we make the decisions that we make and HumanOS
01:26:00 - Renovate your Life: Midlife Crisis
01:30:00 - What are good open questions? and giving permission to challenging, negative emotions
01:35:00 - Parking Downhill: How did Sharon’s mother know all that?
and
are we going to make Shirts with: “Sharon’s Mom said ”
Previous Episode
003 - How can we be more inclusive for Neurodivergents - from School to digital Tool
00:00:00 - Intro - The Parking Downhill Note
00:01:30 - Alex is haunted by a Washingmachineghost - live on the record!
00:03:30 - Note taking Systems, Stress and Anxiety coming from keeping a structural organization
00:09:30 - What does “work on your system” mean?
00:13:30 - How to use different times of the day for your individual energy-levels
00:16:45 - Give yourself jobs to your selfconcious
00:21:40 - Reading for calming down the mind
00:27:15 - How do you capture ideas when you are scared to forget them with ADD?
00:31:00 - Having our Tools of today as a Kid (and being ALLOWED to use them)
00:37:00 - Possibilities we now have with digital tools - without any romantic :)
00:46:00 - Fortunately the education system is adapting to ne new possibilites to learn for kids
00:51:10 - Learning from the naturally best teachers. And what it means to be a really good teacher
00:58:00 - Just imagine whar artists are capable of doing dotay
01:10:00 - How can we make digital tools more inclusive to everybody on every device but to Neuroodiverse people especially
01:20:00 - The idea for a solution: AI Translator that translate in realtime to any neurodiverse brain
01:26:00 - The fear of the unknown
01:29:00 - The reason why in Germany the police could get your kids to school and the problems with the digitalisation in modern educational systems
Next Episode
005 - Let's have a deep conversation and find out what we can learn.
The Episode where we talk about growing up as a neurodivergent person in the 60ies aka "Sharon's Mom said..." :)
In this episode we set out onto our conversational journey from a very special starting point: Sharon's mom and how she raised her kids very intuitively in the 1960ies and 70ies.
When does a mentor become a mentor?
05:45 How was Sharon's' mom educated to be a Mentor
now: collection of people
How can you be critical thinking in a NICE way
Sharon's Mom was also diagnosed with ADD
11:00 Her origin Story
Growing up on a dirt farm in Texas
In our society women are taught to sacrifice themselves
Civil Rights Movement but never an angry protestor
22:10 She could make something out of nothing
She was a great connector in DEEP connections
Typing faster than you can think
Reston (Washington DC) - Council for Exceptional Children
Bringing stuff home and test them on Sharon and her sister
Materials about feelings and emotions
- Asking really good questions
- Active listening
- Decision making
You think EVERYBODY does that
No TV: Read and discuss
The Power to make other people do something
Sister extroverted
Sharon doesnt know what was natural and what was learned
Dyslexia in your 30ies - Resilient - Hack Life
Superpowers
38:15 - Having a Neurodiversity Catalogue
We can hack Life What motivates us What triggers us
Shame and Guilt as a Motivator
Sharon was taught to watch and listen
It was life lottery
Picture galleries in facial expressions
Exposed to a very rich environment of neuro disablements
53:30 Knowing about where to find out more e.g. Sceptic Society
How to teach children how to make decisions
Ask: Really? Tell me about it "MAKE me believe!"
Illustrating books
The once no mommy
00:58:00 - Alex: Teach your kid Sign-Language before it can speak
It does avoid sooo many conflicts
Telling your kids why
Teach the kids how to self calm
1:10:00 How to be a polymath
administration writing dancing artist - painting photography Editing photography Improv Group Acting Survival Skills
Her message: Centered on being - not doing
Anything is possible - No Limits
Every year: Family Retrospective - about family Values
Kids aren't born judgemental YES-AND-Expert Learning: THE ART OF PEOPLE
01:22:00 Sharon got her bases through her Mom's Master's degree
Being an artist Getting into the Training and Coaching field Program: First and experimental Program
01:26:30 Let's have a deep conversation and find out what we can learn
Curiosity Tap into our core selves you can train the muscle of knowing what you want
01:40:00 General Assholery and thoughtlessness
the 20ies are incredible narcicisstic and selfcentered times
no punishing voices in her head
01:45:00 - Hyperphantasia lived in a self-punishing way
Questions
complete openess and understanding we are all equal
Critical thinking and no judegement or bestrafung Trust your own judgement
- What do YOU want?
- What do you think is important?
- what do you want in the family culture?
- how might this be for other people and families?
- what was hard about it?
- what did that mean? (disability for example - Wheelchair, Blindfolded a weekend)
Parking Downhill: A catalogue of Neurodiversities
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