Frost or Face: Managing Your Tough Emotions | EP 007
08/08/24 • 11 min
Episode Summary:
In this episode, Kim Korte tackles the concept of toxic positivity, using the metaphor of frosting on a turd to illustrate the pitfalls of covering negative emotions with superficial positivity. Kim shares personal anecdotes and practical advice on how to process and transform these stinky emotions into something more beneficial for emotional growth. Listeners will learn how to refine their emotional palate and approach their feelings with a more mindful and realistic perspective.
Key Points:
1. Introduction to Toxic Positivity: Kim introduces the concept of toxic positivity, explaining it as the act of covering up negative emotions with superficial sweet feelings.
2. Personal Insight: Kim shares a personal story about trying to avoid processing negative emotions after a painful experience with her ex-husband, highlighting the importance of acknowledging and working through these feelings.
3. Metaphor of Frosting on a Turd: Kim uses the metaphor of frosting on a turd to explain how covering up negative emotions doesn’t solve the underlying issues and can lead to emotional constipation.
4. Transforming Emotions: Kim discusses the importance of introspection and taking responsibility for one’s role in negative situations, turning emotional turds into more palatable experiences.
5. Recognizing True Emotions: Emphasizing the need to closely examine our emotions and situations, Kim encourages listeners to distinguish between genuine negative emotions and misinterpreted feelings.
6. Changing Expectations: Kim explains how our expectations, shaped by past experiences and beliefs, influence our emotional responses and how we can adjust these expectations for better emotional outcomes.
7. Healthy Positivity: Kim acknowledges that while it’s sometimes okay to add a bit of frosting to a situation, it’s crucial to do so after fully processing the emotions involved.
8. Conclusion and Call to Action: Kim invites listeners to share their thoughts, leave messages on her website, and suggest topics for future episodes. She also encourages sharing the podcast with others.
Quotes:
• “Should we be frosting these stinky, nasty emotions with some sweet feeling? To frost or not to frost, that is the question.”
• “Turning the turd into frosting means doing the introspection and work needed to understand your role in a situation and learning from it.”
• “We think our emotions are always right, but they’re just predictions by the brain based on past experiences and beliefs.”
Timeline:
00:00 Introduction to Gratitude and Emotions
01:22 Understanding Toxic Positivity
02:07 Personal Experience and Emotional Processing
02:52 Turning Negative Emotions into Positive Outcomes
04:51 Examining and Reinterpreting Emotions
06:27 Changing Expectations and Emotional Recipes
09:50 Final Thoughts and Viewer Interaction
Follow Kim for weekly insights, emotional recipes, and a whole lot of curiosity served with a side of sass.
Connect with me: https://linktr.ee/thekimkorte
Thank you so much for listening to my show!
Episode Summary:
In this episode, Kim Korte tackles the concept of toxic positivity, using the metaphor of frosting on a turd to illustrate the pitfalls of covering negative emotions with superficial positivity. Kim shares personal anecdotes and practical advice on how to process and transform these stinky emotions into something more beneficial for emotional growth. Listeners will learn how to refine their emotional palate and approach their feelings with a more mindful and realistic perspective.
Key Points:
1. Introduction to Toxic Positivity: Kim introduces the concept of toxic positivity, explaining it as the act of covering up negative emotions with superficial sweet feelings.
2. Personal Insight: Kim shares a personal story about trying to avoid processing negative emotions after a painful experience with her ex-husband, highlighting the importance of acknowledging and working through these feelings.
3. Metaphor of Frosting on a Turd: Kim uses the metaphor of frosting on a turd to explain how covering up negative emotions doesn’t solve the underlying issues and can lead to emotional constipation.
4. Transforming Emotions: Kim discusses the importance of introspection and taking responsibility for one’s role in negative situations, turning emotional turds into more palatable experiences.
5. Recognizing True Emotions: Emphasizing the need to closely examine our emotions and situations, Kim encourages listeners to distinguish between genuine negative emotions and misinterpreted feelings.
6. Changing Expectations: Kim explains how our expectations, shaped by past experiences and beliefs, influence our emotional responses and how we can adjust these expectations for better emotional outcomes.
7. Healthy Positivity: Kim acknowledges that while it’s sometimes okay to add a bit of frosting to a situation, it’s crucial to do so after fully processing the emotions involved.
8. Conclusion and Call to Action: Kim invites listeners to share their thoughts, leave messages on her website, and suggest topics for future episodes. She also encourages sharing the podcast with others.
Quotes:
• “Should we be frosting these stinky, nasty emotions with some sweet feeling? To frost or not to frost, that is the question.”
• “Turning the turd into frosting means doing the introspection and work needed to understand your role in a situation and learning from it.”
• “We think our emotions are always right, but they’re just predictions by the brain based on past experiences and beliefs.”
Timeline:
00:00 Introduction to Gratitude and Emotions
01:22 Understanding Toxic Positivity
02:07 Personal Experience and Emotional Processing
02:52 Turning Negative Emotions into Positive Outcomes
04:51 Examining and Reinterpreting Emotions
06:27 Changing Expectations and Emotional Recipes
09:50 Final Thoughts and Viewer Interaction
Follow Kim for weekly insights, emotional recipes, and a whole lot of curiosity served with a side of sass.
Connect with me: https://linktr.ee/thekimkorte
Thank you so much for listening to my show!
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In this engaging episode of “Flavors of Emotions,” host Kim Korte invites you on a journey into the emotional depths of communication with renowned public speaking coach Lisa Wentz. With a rich background in psychology, stage acting, and Alexander Technique, Lisa has spent over 15 years helping professionals across various industries unlock their true communication potential.
Together, Kim and Lisa explore the powerful impact emotions like imposter syndrome and the inner critic can have on our ability to connect with others. Through candid discussions and real-life examples, Lisa reveals how past experiences shape our present communication styles and offers practical strategies to overcome these emotional barriers.
Listeners will gain insight into the importance of mindset, self-awareness, and emotional intelligence in becoming effective communicators. Lisa shares her unique approach to identifying and addressing the hidden traumas that hold us back, emphasizing the interconnectedness of our thoughts, emotions, and physiological responses.
Discover the transformative techniques Lisa employs to help clients manage anxiety, build confidence, and present themselves authentically. From breathing exercises to voice training, learn how to harness your emotions to enhance your public speaking skills.
Lisa also delves into her acclaimed book, “Grace Under Pressure: A Masterclass in Public Speaking,” which provides a comprehensive guide to mastering the art of communication. Whether you’re a seasoned executive, a small business owner, or someone preparing for a special occasion speech, this episode offers valuable tools and actionable exercises to elevate your speaking abilities.
Kim and Lisa’s conversation is not just about technical skills but about empowering you to embrace your unique voice and connect deeply with your audience. Tune in to this episode to uncover the secrets to becoming a more confident, authentic, and emotionally intelligent communicator.
00:00 Introduction to Lisa Wentz
00:22 Lisa's Background and Career Journey
01:51 The Role of Emotions in Communication
02:55 Addressing Imposter Syndrome and Inner Critic
05:46 Techniques for Effective Public Speaking
11:07 Client Stories and Real-Life Examples
23:43 Empowerment Through Coaching
29:56 Final Thoughts and Advice
Connect with Lisa
Website: https://lisawentz.com/
Buy her book: https://www.amazon.com/Grace-Under-Pressure-Masterclass-Speaking/dp/0999187139
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Follow Kim for weekly insights, emotional recipes, and a whole lot of curiosity served with a side of sass.
Connect with me: https://linktr.ee/thekimkorte
Thank you so much for listening to my show!
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The Power of Unspoken Stories: Why Emotions Matter More Than Ever | EP 008
In this heartfelt and deeply personal episode, I share my story—one that I’ve rarely spoken about publicly. From early childhood trauma to the pivotal moments that helped me reconnect with my emotions, this podcast is a testament to the power of vulnerability. I discuss the importance of understanding emotions, how they shape our reality, and why it’s essential to be curious about what we truly feel. If you’ve ever struggled with processing your emotions or felt disconnected from yourself, this episode is for you.
Highlights:
- Why I held back in previous interviews and what changed my mind.
- The story of a 7-year-old giving a TED Talk that changed my perspective.
- Revisiting childhood trauma and the impact it had on my adult life.
- How my journey that helped me reconnect with my emotions.
- The importance of curiosity in challenging your own emotions.
- Why understanding the predictive nature of the brain is key to emotional well-being.
Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction and Podcast Experience
02:41 Reflecting on Childhood Memories
04:07 Repressed Memories and Early Trauma
08:52 Struggles with Family and Religion
11:47 Therapy and Confrontation
26:01 Marriage, Divorce, and Emotional Turmoil
28:43 Path to Healing and Self-Discovery
34:25 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
Resources Mentioned:
• How Emotions are Made: The Secret Life of the Brain by Lisa Feldman Barrett
• My book: Yucky Yummy Savory Sweet: Understanding the Flavors of Emotions
Follow Kim for weekly insights, emotional recipes, and a whole lot of curiosity served with a side of sass.
Connect with me: https://linktr.ee/thekimkorte
Thank you so much for listening to my show!
Flavors of Emotions - Frost or Face: Managing Your Tough Emotions | EP 007
Transcript
The other day, I was talking to this gentleman and we got on the topic of gratitude. And he said to me, gratitude is like poop on a turd.
KimI was kind of taken back because I had heard of lipstick on a pig. but not poop on a turd. It also was a little intriguing to me because what am I about? Emotions. And he's talking about food and turds like it's food. So it got me to thinking, is that the right thing to
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