Special Guests Lisa & Steve!
09/05/23 • 36 min
What You'll Hear In This Episode:
About Lisa Y, a divorced mom and lawyer who is used to taking care of her kids and had rarely invested in herself before Lisa Shield’s program.
About her desire for change and not wanting to have regrets in the future
How she prioritized coaching calls in a commitment to invest time, finances, hopes and dreams into the program
How she met Steve, what she found in him, and what he found in her
Her moments of feeling discouraged but encouraged by Steve to keep going
Her acknowledging the challenges of the journey and the importance of support
Her learning to value personal relationships and experiences over work accomplishments
Her exploring the lessons learned from recommended readings and the Four Agreements
Her recognizing patterns in dating and relationships
Key quotes:
- "I recognized myself. I recognized other people. I recognized how I date, but I also recognized my other relationships... That book was really life changing." — Lisa Y.
- "For these set of weeks, I am committed to that, and work will always be there... But I needed to invest in myself, and you really did impress that upon me." — Lisa Y.
- "The idea of slowing down and enjoying who you're with in that moment, that rings true in all aspects of my life, because I don't want everything to be said and done. And the only thing I had to show for it was work. That's not good. That's not where I want to be." — Lisa Y.
- “This is hard to keep up. And I can see why people throw in the towel. But you encouraged me keep going, keep going and keep doing the work. And it made all the difference because I want this guy to travel with and to cut the birthday cake with." — Lisa Y.
- ”No relationship lasted longer than three months. It seems like that was a magic point where the real truth comes out and breaks loose. I was trying to slow things down and really make sure I was picking the right person to begin with and giving that more thought than just falling into things, trying to be more deliberate." — Steve
- "Drama in relationships, where someone instigates conflicts for the thrill of breaking up and making up, is sheer madness. Personally, I've been in such situations before, and I can't tolerate it. Genuine disagreement is one thing, but intentionally causing drama for emotional rollercoasters is something I refuse to engage in." — Steve
- "Two people can be passionately in love and not fight." — Lisa Shield
Continue On Your Journey:
Lisa Shield | YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call With Lisa
Email the podcast at: [email protected]
Want more content like this?
Continue On Your Journey:
Lisa Shield| YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call with Lisa
Email the podcast at: [email protected]
What You'll Hear In This Episode:
About Lisa Y, a divorced mom and lawyer who is used to taking care of her kids and had rarely invested in herself before Lisa Shield’s program.
About her desire for change and not wanting to have regrets in the future
How she prioritized coaching calls in a commitment to invest time, finances, hopes and dreams into the program
How she met Steve, what she found in him, and what he found in her
Her moments of feeling discouraged but encouraged by Steve to keep going
Her acknowledging the challenges of the journey and the importance of support
Her learning to value personal relationships and experiences over work accomplishments
Her exploring the lessons learned from recommended readings and the Four Agreements
Her recognizing patterns in dating and relationships
Key quotes:
- "I recognized myself. I recognized other people. I recognized how I date, but I also recognized my other relationships... That book was really life changing." — Lisa Y.
- "For these set of weeks, I am committed to that, and work will always be there... But I needed to invest in myself, and you really did impress that upon me." — Lisa Y.
- "The idea of slowing down and enjoying who you're with in that moment, that rings true in all aspects of my life, because I don't want everything to be said and done. And the only thing I had to show for it was work. That's not good. That's not where I want to be." — Lisa Y.
- “This is hard to keep up. And I can see why people throw in the towel. But you encouraged me keep going, keep going and keep doing the work. And it made all the difference because I want this guy to travel with and to cut the birthday cake with." — Lisa Y.
- ”No relationship lasted longer than three months. It seems like that was a magic point where the real truth comes out and breaks loose. I was trying to slow things down and really make sure I was picking the right person to begin with and giving that more thought than just falling into things, trying to be more deliberate." — Steve
- "Drama in relationships, where someone instigates conflicts for the thrill of breaking up and making up, is sheer madness. Personally, I've been in such situations before, and I can't tolerate it. Genuine disagreement is one thing, but intentionally causing drama for emotional rollercoasters is something I refuse to engage in." — Steve
- "Two people can be passionately in love and not fight." — Lisa Shield
Continue On Your Journey:
Lisa Shield | YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call With Lisa
Email the podcast at: [email protected]
Want more content like this?
Continue On Your Journey:
Lisa Shield| YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call with Lisa
Email the podcast at: [email protected]
Previous Episode
Spark First or Flame Later: Exploring the Chemistry Conundrum in Relationships
What You'll Hear In This Episode:
Discussion of attachment theory and its influence on partner choice
Highlighting the volatility and toxicity of relationships with anxious-avoidant attachments
Realization that chemical attraction isn't the best foundation for a relationship
Understanding the need to find different ways to connect with potential partners
Exploration of managing one's own anxiety and building secure attachments
Importance of taking time to get to know each other in building a strong relationship
Emphasizing the need to observe how a person responds in difficult situations
Encouraging enjoyment of the dating journey and taking the time to get to know each other
Importance of finding a partner who respects boundaries and desires for a slower pace
Identification of avoidant behaviors early on, particularly in men
Differentiation between confident pacing and overwhelming love bombing
Desire for calm and peace in relationships, especially in the early stages
Key quotes:
- "When I finally started to unravel this in my late 30s, early forties, and I started to look at all of the bad relationships I'd had, it made me start to realize that chemical attraction wasn't really a good thing." — Lisa Shield
- "What's really hard for many people to wrap their brains around is the idea of a relationship that doesn't have those extreme highs and those extreme lows, but still is connected." — Lisa Shield
- "It doesn't matter how beautiful you are or how educated or successful or whatever, your anxiety will sabotage everything." — Lisa Shield
- "One of the things that I started to do was instead of just jumping in and fixating on one guy I liked, I realized that it would be much healthier for me to date several men at once." — Lisa Shield
- "Relationships take time...You have to sit back and wait and watch and listen and learn before you just give your heart to anybody." — Lisa Shield
Continue On Your Journey:
Lisa Shield | YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call With Lisa
Email the podcast at: [email protected]
Want more content like this?
Continue On Your Journey:
Lisa Shield| YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call with Lisa
Email the podcast at: [email protected]
Next Episode
The Future of Online Dating: How AI Is Changing the Dating Game
What You'll Hear In This Episode:
The use of AI in online dating and its impact on profile verification and safety measures
The need for background checks and spotting inconsistencies in online profiles
The excitement and fear surrounding the use of AI in dating
Difficulty in distinguishing between AI-generated and human-created content
The prevalence and dangers of scammers using AI to create fake profiles
Possibility of AI relationship coaching and virtual chat rooms for communication
Concerns about deep fakes and the difficulty in verifying authenticity in online interactions
Recommendations for prioritizing in-person meetings and avoiding long-distance relationships
Key quotes:
- "There is, on one hand, all the wonderful things that AI is going to do, and then on the other hand, there is a tremendous amount of fear around who's going to be using the AI and will it bring the end of mankind.'" — Lisa Shield
- “You can have your own AI-powered chat bot filter out unsuitable matches and communicate on your behalf. It's like having a personal assistant for your love life!" — Lisa Shield
- “AI-powered applications could offer personalized coaching relationships...there's no reason in the world you shouldn't have dating coaches that are AI powered.” — Lisa Shield
- "If you really want to verify and authenticate if somebody is real, one step in that process is to get off the platform and get on to Zoom or do it on FaceTime on your phone... Scammers can now do what are called deep fakes where they can take a few seconds of you talking and then replicate your voice from it." — Lisa Shield
- "Do a background check on anybody and everybody you're dating. Look for inconsistencies. If the profile is too perfect, something could be wrong." — Lisa Shield
Continue On Your Journey:
Lisa Shield | YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call With Lisa
Email the podcast at: [email protected]
Want more content like this?
Continue On Your Journey:
Lisa Shield| YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call with Lisa
Email the podcast at: [email protected]
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