Lost in Translation: How Men and Women Hear Dating Terms Differently
10/03/23 • 35 min
What You'll Hear In This Episode:
Communication differences surrounding certain phrases, such as “I need time alone” and "we need to talk"
Clarifying the meaning of commitment with each partner
Asking specific questions to understand expectations and intentions
Regular communication and clarification to avoid misunderstandings
Importance of discussing expectations and desires for building a deeper connection
Addressing potential issues and clarifying intentions early on
Recognizing signs of a potential mismatch in commitment levels
Importance of addressing concerns and desires to avoid future hurt and disappointment
Men also need space for personal growth and processing, similar to women
Seriousness for men may involve consistency and integrating each other into daily routines, not necessarily long-term plans
Differences in views on moving in together
Importance of open communication and taking time to be sure before making such big decisions
Highlighting the need for communication and understanding differing perspectives in a relationship
Key quotes:
- "When most women tell a man they want to ‘take it slowly,’ they are saying they want to build a strong emotional foundation before having sex. They want deep meaningful conversations and to build the emotional intimacy first. For men, taking it slowly often means NOT having intimate talks that go too deep." – Lisa Shield
- “When a woman hears the phrase 'I need some space,' it can trigger catastrophic thinking and tap into her insecurities, causing her to question the stability of the relationship. On the other hand, for some men, being in a serious relationship may simply mean integrating each other into their daily routines and getting to know each other better, without necessarily signaling long-term plans or commitments." — Lisa Shield
- “It is good to have a conversation to clarify what you mean by certain phrases. You can say, ‘Hey, ________, I know that we said we're in a committed relationship, and I also know that being in a committed relationship, that word can have different meanings for different people. I would love to hear what it means for you.’” — Lisa Shield
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What You'll Hear In This Episode:
Communication differences surrounding certain phrases, such as “I need time alone” and "we need to talk"
Clarifying the meaning of commitment with each partner
Asking specific questions to understand expectations and intentions
Regular communication and clarification to avoid misunderstandings
Importance of discussing expectations and desires for building a deeper connection
Addressing potential issues and clarifying intentions early on
Recognizing signs of a potential mismatch in commitment levels
Importance of addressing concerns and desires to avoid future hurt and disappointment
Men also need space for personal growth and processing, similar to women
Seriousness for men may involve consistency and integrating each other into daily routines, not necessarily long-term plans
Differences in views on moving in together
Importance of open communication and taking time to be sure before making such big decisions
Highlighting the need for communication and understanding differing perspectives in a relationship
Key quotes:
- "When most women tell a man they want to ‘take it slowly,’ they are saying they want to build a strong emotional foundation before having sex. They want deep meaningful conversations and to build the emotional intimacy first. For men, taking it slowly often means NOT having intimate talks that go too deep." – Lisa Shield
- “When a woman hears the phrase 'I need some space,' it can trigger catastrophic thinking and tap into her insecurities, causing her to question the stability of the relationship. On the other hand, for some men, being in a serious relationship may simply mean integrating each other into their daily routines and getting to know each other better, without necessarily signaling long-term plans or commitments." — Lisa Shield
- “It is good to have a conversation to clarify what you mean by certain phrases. You can say, ‘Hey, ________, I know that we said we're in a committed relationship, and I also know that being in a committed relationship, that word can have different meanings for different people. I would love to hear what it means for you.’” — Lisa Shield
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Previous Episode
Special Guest, Plastic Surgeon Dr. Larry Fan!
What You'll Hear In This Episode:
Dr. Fan's background, experiences, and achievements in the field of plastic surgery.
Factors to consider when deciding to undergo a procedure, such as personal concerns and desires
The importance of safety and understanding potential risks associated with surgery, especially for older individuals
Recovery process and common side effects of procedures
The significance of realistic expectations and maturity when considering cosmetic surgery, especially for young individuals
The importance of discussing motivations with parents and potentially seeking psychological evaluation
Encouragement for individuals to wait until they are older and more confident before making decisions about procedures
The limits and effectiveness of non-surgical treatments like Botox and fillers
The belief in the importance of inner beauty and improving overall well-being in addition to outer appearance
Lisa’s work on helping women find love and partnership and the transformative effects on their appearance through the Finding the Guardian of Your Soul program
Key quotes:
- "And I encourage people to wait until they're old enough, mature enough, to really know, to have their own identity, to know what's important to themselves, so that when they're making any choices, it is from a place of empowerment, a place of certainty, a place of confidence, a place of making a long term decision." — Dr. Larry Fan
- "Even in an era where we are so modernized and women have so many opportunities, the emphasis on looks is awful for so many of us." — Lisa Shield
- "What I tell people is, number one, if you have a problem that you're not happy with and it bothers you enough to be willing to get help, that's probably an appropriate time to get help, provided you understand, okay, what does the help involve and what kind of results can be expected?" — Dr. Larry Fan
- The best results are cases where people clearly look much, much better, but they also look very natural and very appealing, where there isn't any obvious sign it doesn't look like they've had surgery. That's the highest level of surgery when people look better, but it's actually undetectable." — Dr. Larry Fan
- "And I call my course my work the world's Cheapest facelift because these women start blossoming and coming back to life and this dark cloud of being single and feeling stigmatized and finally finding their power with men. And they literally look ten to 15 years younger at the end of twelve weeks." — Lisa Shield
- "I think there's a very big opportunity to not just improve our outer appearance, what I call our outer beauty, but also to improve our inner beauty." — Dr. Larry Fan
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Next Episode
GITRMM: Embracing the Sensual: Femininity and the Power of Sensual Expression
What You'll Hear In This Episode:
- The concept of being "insulated" from one's body and its impact on connecting with others
- Embracing the senses and the enjoyment of being alive
- The importance of being present in one's senses
- Femininity and the power of sensual expression
- The importance of women exploring the world with all five senses
- Finding a partner who lives life fully in their senses
- Daily routine involving touch and physical contact
- A client story highlighting non-sexual emotional intimacy
- Women embracing their bodies and finding their natural frequency
- Creating memorable dates through connection and playfulness
- The concept of bell jarring and its impact on memory
- Challenging societal pressures on women's physical appearance, & what truly attracts a good partner
- Sensuality and connection as core elements of romance
Key quotes:
- "A sensual woman experiences the world with her senses, but she also has a certain confidence of being who she is. She is in her natural frequency and not trying to be someone else." — Benjamin Shield
- "We see how our clients come alive, and it's the grace, it's their inner beauty that emerges as they become more sensual, more comfortable in their bodies." — Lisa Shield
- "When a woman is in her senses and she's savoring her food, she's enjoying the sense of nature or the food she’s eating... It both mesmerizes and magnetizes a man, because women offer something that men don't have." — Benjamin Shield
- “True love is absolute emotional nakedness. It’s not hiding anything from each other or feeling that there's anything to hide. That's just so beautiful. I don't know how many people actually get to this level of emotional nakedness. I think it's what everybody wants. But you have to first find the right partner to do this with." — Lisa Shield
- “There's a difference between deep sensuality and overt sexuality. They’re very different. When a woman is in her sensuality, a man sees her as being whole and complete." — Benjamin Shield
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