What Women Don't Understand About Men - And What Men Still Don't Get About Women

04/11/25 • 26 min

Dating today is more complex than ever. But when men and women start truly listening to each other-something powerful shifts. In this episode, Jenni and Stephen dive into the misunderstood truths on both sides of the gender conversation.
This episode uncovers:
*What women really mean when they say they want a leader*
*How confidence (not control) makes a man irresistible*
*Why many men mistake vulnerability for weakness-and how to fix it*
*The cost of dating without standards*
*The silent mistakes that ruin great connections too early*
*What it means to "spin the block" the right way*
Whether you're a woman craving intentional pursuit or a man wondering why it never seems to be enough, this episode is the honest conversation we all need to hear.
Don't date another day without watching this first.
Chapters:
00:00 Intro: What Don't We Understand?
01:05 The Fantasy vs. Reality of Being "The Whole Package"
02:30 Women Want to Be Led, Not Controlled
04:50 What Real Leadership Looks Like
06:30 Confidence vs. Bravado: The Difference Women Feel
08:15 When a Woman Is Still in Her Grind Mode
10:00 Vulnerability Is Not Weakness
12:05 Standards Matter: Stop Dating Without Them
14:30 Reciprocity and Red Flags
17:00 Why You Can't "Build Him Up"
19:10 When He Dates Her Because She Makes It Too Easy
21:00 How to Set Expectations and Say No Without Drama
23:00 Don't Fall for the Resume. Date With Wisdom
25:00 If You Spin the Block, Come Back Different
26:00 Closing the Chapter Properly
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Dating With Kids, Co-Parenting Battles & Keeping Peace: The Real Talk

After over 2 million views on Facebook from just one viral clip, we're back with the full continuation you've been waiting for.
This is Part 2 of our raw and real conversation on what it means to navigate dating, parenting, and personal peace all at the same time. Picking up from "Co-Parenting Chaos, Bonus Kids & Healing," this episode opens the door even wider on:
-Why some men hide their relationships from social media
-What it feels like to date someone who is still in court battles
-The difference between protecting your peace and hiding your partner
-How to support your man without becoming his crutch
-Former bitter moms and the journey to healing
-Why Friend of the Court is no friend at all
-Navigating teenage dating, daughter boundaries, and parenting in public
-Rewriting the narrative of Black fatherhood
Whether you're navigating love while raising kids, healing after divorce, or trying to build a healthy relationship through chaos, this is for you.
Chapters:
00:00 - Should You Post Your Relationship on Social Media?
01:04 - Court Battles, Coins & Hiding the Truth From Your Kids
02:26 - Supporting Without Becoming a Crutch
03:28 - The Truth Behind "He's Just Not Ready To Post You"
05:01 - When She's Bitter for a Reason
06:15 - When Good Fathers Still Get Taken to Court
08:16 - When Cash Apps Get Counted as Income
09:58 - Becoming the Example (Even If You Didn't Have One)
11:06 - Raising Teenagers in the Age of Public Relationships
13:29 - Does This Relationship Bring You Joy?
14:50 - Drawing the Line in Toxic Teen Dating
16:20 - Macro vs. Micro Parenting Approaches
17:54 - Teaching Boundaries, Access, and Respect
20:12 - Real Talk About Transitions, Growth & Mistakes
22:06 - When All You Can Do Is Plant the Seeds
25:05 - Teaching Teens to Recognize Emotional Effort
26:52 - When Your Daughter Starts Dating: Dads Weigh In
29:11 - Changing the Narrative Around Black Fathers
31:00 - How to Keep the Conversation Going
Watch Part 1 here: [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=txESdc7YGpg]
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Healing After A Heartbreak: Why Moving On Starts With You

Coming to grips with the end of a relationship is hard-but healing after a breakup is even harder. In this new episode of Finding Love, Jenni & Stephen Hendrix unpack the real work of moving on. From self-reflection and accountability to boundary-setting and regaining confidence, this episode gives you the mindset and tools to heal fully before your next relationship begins. Whether you're fresh off a breakup or still carrying pain from a relationship that ended years ago, this conversation will help you reclaim your joy and protect your peace.
In this episode, we cover:
-Why most people never truly heal before dating again
-How to know when it's time to walk away

-What self-reflection really looks like (not just blaming your ex)
-The difference between a healed person and a hurt one in relationships
-How to stop dating like you're trying to fix your last mistake
-What makes you ready to love again-and how to spot your blind spots
Chapters:
00:00 - Opening: Why Healing Feels So Hard
01:10 - When You Want to Save a Relationship That's Over
03:02 - The Real Meaning of Walking Away with Strength
05:13 - How Resentment and Chaos Take Over Unhealed Relationships
07:24 - You Can't Heal if You Keep Blaming Your Ex
09:30 - Filling the Void Too Fast: The Relationship Band-Aid
12:00 - Doing the Work to Reclaim Yourself
13:45 - What You Learn From a Breakup (If You're Really Healing)
15:10 - Dating From a Healed Place vs. Hurting Place
17:30 - Accountability and the Mirror Test
20:05 - Setting Boundaries and Rediscovering Joy
22:15 - You're Not Lonely-You're Growing
23:30 - Final Words: Toast to the Ones Healing
This one is for anyone on the journey back to themselves. Tune in, take notes, and take your power back. You are worthy of a whole love.
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