Gateway Episode #08 FIND YOURSELF – the questions podcast | How to Transform a Childhood of Abuse into Empowering and Fulfilling Relationships: The Journey of a Love Language Linguist
08/31/23 • 31 min
Welcome to the ‘Find Yourself - the questions podcast’, where we embark on self-discovery and personal growth.
In today's episode, we have the honour of introducing Paul Zolman, a remarkable individual whose journey from childhood abuse to becoming an advocate of universal love will undoubtedly touch your heart and inspire you. Paul's book, "The Role of Love," chronicles his odyssey and reveals how adversity fuelled his quest for a deeper understanding of love's essence. Join us as we delve into Paul's awe-inspiring journey and learn how he has developed a unique approach to understanding and applying the principles of love languages. We will explore how he has transformed his childhood of abuse into empowering and fulfilling relationships and how his innovative system of giving away love languages can lead to better understanding and dynamics in love and relationships. Get ready to be inspired, uplifted, and reminded that love can heal and transform no matter where you start. Stay tuned for an enlightening conversation with Paul Zolman.
Paul Zolman developed an innovative system to understand and apply the principles of love languages. Drawing from his own experience of carrying residual anger from his childhood, Paul wanted to break free from the cycle and positively change his life. Through reading books like "The 5 Love Languages," he resonated with the fundamental principles but found it challenging to apply them due to the language of anger ingrained in him.
To bridge this gap, Paul developed a simple yet effective tool – a dice with the five love languages and a "Surprise Me" option. Every day, he rolls the dice and commits to practising the love language it lands on. Whether it be acts of service, words of affirmation, physical touch, receiving gifts, or quality time, Paul intentionally incorporates this love language into all his daily interactions.
This practice redirected Paul's focus from annoyance to appreciation and transformed his relationships. Instead of criticising and finding fault in others, he asked himself, "What's right with this person? What can I love about them?" This shift in mindset enabled him to drown out negativity and cultivate a habit of love and understanding.
What's truly remarkable about Paul's approach is its adaptability to different age groups, including children. By simplifying the concept of love languages, Paul has found a way to teach younger individuals about the power of love and how expressing it can positively impact their relationships. He encourages them to roll the dice each day and intentionally practice the love language suggested by the roll for that day.
Visit www.roleoflove.com and get a little bit of backstory. Here you can listen to other podcasts, and social media posts and watch videos. Products made exclusively for Role of Love can also be purchased.
FIND YOURSELF Coaching Services: If you need help conquering your goals, building a plan and seeking the life you want, schedule a discovery call and work with Bernd Wenske directly.
Please visit the podcast website for free bonuses like a downloadable Journal Calendar and a free 15-minute virtual Discovery Meeting call in English or German.
Live your authenticity, your courage and your energy! Unfold your potential!
Maybe you’re just one question away from your best year!
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Welcome to the ‘Find Yourself - the questions podcast’, where we embark on self-discovery and personal growth.
In today's episode, we have the honour of introducing Paul Zolman, a remarkable individual whose journey from childhood abuse to becoming an advocate of universal love will undoubtedly touch your heart and inspire you. Paul's book, "The Role of Love," chronicles his odyssey and reveals how adversity fuelled his quest for a deeper understanding of love's essence. Join us as we delve into Paul's awe-inspiring journey and learn how he has developed a unique approach to understanding and applying the principles of love languages. We will explore how he has transformed his childhood of abuse into empowering and fulfilling relationships and how his innovative system of giving away love languages can lead to better understanding and dynamics in love and relationships. Get ready to be inspired, uplifted, and reminded that love can heal and transform no matter where you start. Stay tuned for an enlightening conversation with Paul Zolman.
Paul Zolman developed an innovative system to understand and apply the principles of love languages. Drawing from his own experience of carrying residual anger from his childhood, Paul wanted to break free from the cycle and positively change his life. Through reading books like "The 5 Love Languages," he resonated with the fundamental principles but found it challenging to apply them due to the language of anger ingrained in him.
To bridge this gap, Paul developed a simple yet effective tool – a dice with the five love languages and a "Surprise Me" option. Every day, he rolls the dice and commits to practising the love language it lands on. Whether it be acts of service, words of affirmation, physical touch, receiving gifts, or quality time, Paul intentionally incorporates this love language into all his daily interactions.
This practice redirected Paul's focus from annoyance to appreciation and transformed his relationships. Instead of criticising and finding fault in others, he asked himself, "What's right with this person? What can I love about them?" This shift in mindset enabled him to drown out negativity and cultivate a habit of love and understanding.
What's truly remarkable about Paul's approach is its adaptability to different age groups, including children. By simplifying the concept of love languages, Paul has found a way to teach younger individuals about the power of love and how expressing it can positively impact their relationships. He encourages them to roll the dice each day and intentionally practice the love language suggested by the roll for that day.
Visit www.roleoflove.com and get a little bit of backstory. Here you can listen to other podcasts, and social media posts and watch videos. Products made exclusively for Role of Love can also be purchased.
FIND YOURSELF Coaching Services: If you need help conquering your goals, building a plan and seeking the life you want, schedule a discovery call and work with Bernd Wenske directly.
Please visit the podcast website for free bonuses like a downloadable Journal Calendar and a free 15-minute virtual Discovery Meeting call in English or German.
Live your authenticity, your courage and your energy! Unfold your potential!
Maybe you’re just one question away from your best year!
love language, professional growth, personal growth, gateway episode, find yourself, Bernd Wenske, questions broadcast, self-discovery, introspection, extraordinary guests, Paul Zolman, advocate of universal love, transformative power of love, longing for love, role of love, guide to transcending pain, human resilience, inspiring journey, indomitable spirit, power of love, childhood of abuse, fulfilling relationships, innovative system, love languages, principles of love languages, transformative power of love, anger, negative statement, colour code, vocabulary, mannerisms, love and relationship, positive feedback loop, younger people, children
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Please visit my website: https://berndwenske.de/findyourself for free bonuses like a downloadable Journal Calendar and a free 15-minute virtual Discovery Meeting call in English or German.
Live your authenticity, your courage and your energy! Unfold your potential!
#findyourself #selfconfidence #selflove #happierlife #resilience
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On the last day of each month, there is a more extended Gateway Episode where I talk to guests about their experiences on the path to self-discovery. Here, we can delve deeper and benefit from the solutions of others.
FIND YOURSELF Coaching Services:
If you need some help conquering your goals, building a plan and seeking the life you want to live, you can find me at https://tidycal.com/headway/15-minute-virtual-discovery-meeting-fy-en-de and schedule a discovery call and work with me directly.
My name is Bernd Wenske. I promise to uplift people like you - and your host on the FIND YOURSELF questions podcast. I am happy to accompany you on your way to let your light burn brighter! Unfortunately, I don't have YOUR answers ready, but I guide you with a daily question in the concise episodes towards your self-understanding.
Please visit my website: https://berndwenske.de/findyourself for free bonuses like a downloadable Journal Calendar and a free 15-minute virtual Discovery Meeting call in English or German.
Live your authenticity, your courage and your energy! Unfold your potential!
#findyourself #selfconfidence #selflove #happierlife #resilience
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