
Raising Kids When You Have Fibromyalgia with Julie Schiffman
05/26/20 • 60 min
Over the last few months, many parents are unexpectedly learning how to "homeschool" as kids are unable to attend school in person during the COVID-19 pandemic. If having your kids out of the house for school was part of your fibromyalgia coping strategy, you might be struggling right about now!
In this episode, Tami interviews Julie Schiffman, a Fibromyalgia Coach-in-Training who has lived with fibromyalgia for over 20 years, all while raising three daughters. Listen in as Tami and Julie discuss the most important thing you can teach your kids, as well as tips to help you cope.
Key Points
- Fibromyalgia is not the end.
- What’s really important is teaching your kids character.
- Your fibromyalgia can really teach your kids how to not judge people and be respectful of people who are different than us.
- We are really teaching our kids how to be better human beings.
- You really need to let your kids learn to care for themselves. There will be a time they need to — so why not start now?
- One of the tools we often help our clients create is a Flare Survival Kit. This is a list of things that help you manage your fibromyalgia. You can stick this on your fridge and your family can help you.
- Most of us with fibromyalgia manage it ourselves and we don't think about how to include other people in that management.
- We try our best, but it’s okay to not be a hundred percent all the time. Just be who you are and embrace it
About Julie Schiffman
Julie Schiffman was first diagnosed with fibromyalgia over 20 years ago when her three daughters were very young. Over the years, she has learned so much about how to change her life to suit her illness. With the tools Julie's learned, she is no longer fearful for the future. Knowing how to take care of herself as a fibromyalgia patient is her key to having the confidence to live the best life possible.
Julie helps moms struggling with guilt, desperation, and isolation, minimize their fibromyalgia symptoms while learning new ways of parenting.
Links & Resources
- FibromyalgiaPodcast.com is the digital companion to this audio magazine, where you can find full show notes, links to the studies referenced in this episode, submit your questions for Tami Stackelhouse, and schedule a free consultation with a Fibromyalgia Coach.
- Get a free copy of Tami’s book, Take Back Your Life: Find Hope and Freedom From Fibromyalgia Symptoms and Pain at FibromyalgiaPodcast.com/books.
- Ravyn's Doll: How To Explain Fibromyalgia To Your Child, by Melissa Swanson (Affiliate link)
- Ravyn's Doll Coloring Book, by Melissa Swanson (Affiliate link)
- Why Does Mommy Hurt? by Elizabeth M. Christy (Affiliate link)
Over the last few months, many parents are unexpectedly learning how to "homeschool" as kids are unable to attend school in person during the COVID-19 pandemic. If having your kids out of the house for school was part of your fibromyalgia coping strategy, you might be struggling right about now!
In this episode, Tami interviews Julie Schiffman, a Fibromyalgia Coach-in-Training who has lived with fibromyalgia for over 20 years, all while raising three daughters. Listen in as Tami and Julie discuss the most important thing you can teach your kids, as well as tips to help you cope.
Key Points
- Fibromyalgia is not the end.
- What’s really important is teaching your kids character.
- Your fibromyalgia can really teach your kids how to not judge people and be respectful of people who are different than us.
- We are really teaching our kids how to be better human beings.
- You really need to let your kids learn to care for themselves. There will be a time they need to — so why not start now?
- One of the tools we often help our clients create is a Flare Survival Kit. This is a list of things that help you manage your fibromyalgia. You can stick this on your fridge and your family can help you.
- Most of us with fibromyalgia manage it ourselves and we don't think about how to include other people in that management.
- We try our best, but it’s okay to not be a hundred percent all the time. Just be who you are and embrace it
About Julie Schiffman
Julie Schiffman was first diagnosed with fibromyalgia over 20 years ago when her three daughters were very young. Over the years, she has learned so much about how to change her life to suit her illness. With the tools Julie's learned, she is no longer fearful for the future. Knowing how to take care of herself as a fibromyalgia patient is her key to having the confidence to live the best life possible.
Julie helps moms struggling with guilt, desperation, and isolation, minimize their fibromyalgia symptoms while learning new ways of parenting.
Links & Resources
- FibromyalgiaPodcast.com is the digital companion to this audio magazine, where you can find full show notes, links to the studies referenced in this episode, submit your questions for Tami Stackelhouse, and schedule a free consultation with a Fibromyalgia Coach.
- Get a free copy of Tami’s book, Take Back Your Life: Find Hope and Freedom From Fibromyalgia Symptoms and Pain at FibromyalgiaPodcast.com/books.
- Ravyn's Doll: How To Explain Fibromyalgia To Your Child, by Melissa Swanson (Affiliate link)
- Ravyn's Doll Coloring Book, by Melissa Swanson (Affiliate link)
- Why Does Mommy Hurt? by Elizabeth M. Christy (Affiliate link)
Previous Episode

Fibromyalgia Awareness Day 2020
The 2020 Fibromyalgia Awareness Day episode is a special collection of tips pulled from a virtual event Tami hosted for her clients, coaches, and her coaches’ clients.
Tami asked coaches and clients alike to share their best fibromyalgia management tips, the thing that helped them the most on their fibromyalgia journey, and what it was like to work with a Fibromyalgia Coach. Listen in to hear our best tips to help you feel better.
Key Points
- If watching the news stresses you out, have someone else in your house be the designated news watcher.
- Working with a coach on your goals provides needed accountability.
- If you don’t have a functional medicine doctor or a naturopath on your team, it can be really, really hard to make progress.
- You’re not in a sprint, you’re in a marathon... Don’t worry about time pressures that are put on you by society.
- Being willing to spend the money, time, effort, and brainpower to try some new things can really be a huge benefit to helping you get better.
- Educating yourself is critical. You have to advocate for yourself; you are the only person that knows what it’s like to live in your body. Most importantly, doctors are not being taught how to treat fibromyalgia.
Links & Resources
Note: This episode’s show notes contain affiliate links. If you click through and make a purchase, we will likely receive a small commission. Read about what we do and don’t promote here.
- Get free copies of Tami’s books here
- Tami’s Facebook page
- Fibromyalgia Podcast Facebook page
- Figuring Out Fibromyalgia by Ginevra Liptan, MD (no longer in print)
- The Fibro Manua l by Ginevra Liptan, MD (Affiliate link)
- Freedom From Fibromyalgia by Nancy Selfridge MD and Franklynn Peterson (Affiliate link)
- The Patient’s Guide to Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and Fibromyalgia by Bruce F. Campbell (Affiliate l ink )
Other Episodes Mentioned
- Episode 3, How Fibromyalgia Became My Friend
- Episode 23, Counseling, Coaching, and Post Traumatic Growth with Dr. Robin Pfaff
- Episode 25, The Impact of Juvenile Fibromyalgia on Families with Jara Halfen
- Episode 29, Fall In Love With Your Fibromyalgia Body with Janet Farnsworth
- Episode 35, My Favorite Energy Management Tool
Next Episode

Subscription Boxes For Chronic Illness
Note: In the years since this episode was published, sadly, Recovery Love Box is no more. This episode, however, is still very relevant, as Liz shares her chronic illness story, including her diagnosis with chronic Lyme disease.
Subscription boxes are a trend that's here to stay. They give you a great way to be introduced to new items with little or no risk. But are there any made for those of us with chronic illnesses?
The answer is yes!
Introducing the Chronic Love Box subscription service by Recovery Love Box — a subscription box designed for those living with chronic illness by someone with a chronic illness.
Join Tami as she interviews Liz Lajoie about her journey with chronic Lyme disease, the idea that sparked the Chronic Love Box, and how a simple care package can help you feel more confident and in control of your health.
Be sure to stick around after the interview — Tami does an unboxing of the most recent Chronic Love Box she received so you can see what all the excitement is about!
Key Points
- Those moments where you most need help are usually the moments where you can't do it for yourself.
- Recovery Love Box is meant to be an intellectual introduction to things that you may not have had the energy or time to find yourself and to be a cheerleader for you when you're having those down times.
- If we can do a few things to take care of ourselves proactively, that builds confidence.
- Many of us are here because we were very Type A, go-getter kind of people and maybe push too hard — until our bodies made us take a break.
- Recovery Love Box was designed to bring positivity to people who don't often have the opportunity to get a care package.
- We can always be trying new things. We don't have to be stuck in our ruts.
About Liz Lajoie
As someone living with chronic Lyme, Liz Lajoie understands that if you can barely get out of bed, it’s way too easy to avoid the foods we know we should be eating for our health (lots of fresh veggies & lean protein) and way too hard to steer clear of the junk food in the house we know we shouldn’t be eating... and sometimes cooking a full meal when you’re not feeling your best is just a bridge too far.
She thought, “Wouldn’t it be great to just have the good stuff on hand?”
And the idea for Recovery Love Box was born. Liz has made it easy for anyone to get healthy, organic foods and self-care products without having to step foot out of your door — and all our friends and family to have an easy answer for the “How can I help?” question, too!
In addition to Recovery Love Box, Liz is the founder of the Zen Money InitiativeTM, supporting mission-driven business owners to make more money, manage it better, and bring more of it home. She is the author of From Zero to Zen: Secret Keys to Nurturing Your Numbers and Finding Financial Flow and Zen Money Map: Charge Your Worth, Pay Yourself First, and Fund Your Wildest Dreams. She lives in northern New Hampshire with her husband and two kids.
Links & Resources
- FibromyalgiaPodcast.com is the digital companion to this audio magazine, where you can find full show notes, links to the studies referenced in this episode, submit your questions for Tami Stackelhouse, and schedule a free consultation with a Fibromyalgia Coach.
- Get a free copy of Tami’s book, Take Back Your Life: Find Hope and Freedom From Fibromyalgia Symptoms and Pain at FibromyalgiaPodcast.com/books.
- From Zero to Zen by Liz Lajoie FREE download
- From Zero to Zen by Liz Lajoie on Amazon (Affiliate link)
- Zen Money Map by Liz Lajoie on Amazon (Affiliate link)
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