FIM 79: Merry F*ck It Christmas: Prioritizing Your Energy Over Obligations with Ryann Watkin

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11/14/24 • 52 min

Moms–do you get stressed by all the family obligations around the holidays but also feel bad telling your mom or mother-in-law ‘no’? This podcast episode is for YOU!

This is part 2 of a special 8 part holiday series, devoted to helping moms ditch stressful obligations so that they can focus on the parts of the holidays that mean the most to them. Christmas CAN be the most wonderful time of the year for moms and the kids.

This week host Amanda Haro is joined by Ryann Watkin, the host of the Raising Wild Hearts podcast. They talk about:

Doing a tradition inventory at the beginning of each holiday season, asking yourself, “Am I doing this for me or for someone else?” and “Does this bring me joy?”
Ditching everything that does not bring you joy or that feels too much for you (and letting it be ok that this is different every year)
Making new family traditions with your partner
Setting boundaries with family members out of love for yourself
Letting go of the compare and despair game. Amanda does Christmas in a different way than Ryann, and BOTH are correct.

What do you want to say f*ck it to this holiday season? Let us know in the review section of Apple podcasts or the comment section of Spotify to be entered to win a special gift from Santa 🎅

Check out the Raising Wild Hearts podcast with Ryann Watkin here.

Amanda’s guest episode on Raising Wild Hearts “Reclaiming Your Identity After Motherhood”.

Follow Ryann on Instagram.

Follow Amanda Haro on Instagram & YouTube.

Time Stamps:

0:00 The best intro ever

4:40 F*ck Santa getting all the credit

9:24 F*ck, I gotta move the elf!

14:18 Make holiday traditions your own

20:44 Merry boundary-ed Christmas

26:56 Compromising on holiday traditions in marriage

30:14 Prioritizing your energy over family obligations

36:46 It’s ok that I’m neurotic & you’re normal

41:47 Lightening questions

Intro Song Credit: Ponzoo, royalty free, used from Sound Cloud.

Moms–do you get stressed by all the family obligations around the holidays but also feel bad telling your mom or mother-in-law ‘no’? This podcast episode is for YOU!

This week host Amanda Haro is joined by Ryann Watkin, the host of the Raising Wild Hearts podcast. They talk about:

Doing a tradition inventory at the beginning of each holiday season, asking yourself, “Am I doing this for me or for someone else?” and “Does this bring me joy?”
Ditching everything that does not bring you joy or that feels too much for you (and letting it be ok that this is different every year)
Making new family traditions with your partner
Setting boundaries with family members out of love for yourself
Letting go of the compare and despair game. Amanda does Christmas in a different way than Ryann, and BOTH are correct.

What do you want to say f*ck it to this holiday season? Let us know in the review section of Apple podcasts or the comment section of Spotify to be entered to win a special gift from Santa 🎅

Check out the Raising Wild Hearts podcast with Ryann Watkin here.

Amanda’s guest episode on Raising Wild Hearts “Reclaiming Your Identity After Motherhood”.

Follow Ryann on Instagram.

Follow Amanda Haro on Instagram & YouTube.

Time Stamps:

0:00 The best intro ever

4:40 F*ck Santa getting all the credit

9:24 F*ck, I gotta move the elf!

14:18 Make holiday traditions your own

20:44 Merry boundary-ed Christmas

26:56 Compromising on holiday traditions in marriage

30:14 Prioritizing your energy over family obligations

36:46 It’s ok that I’m neurotic & you’re normal

41:47 Lightening questions

Intro Song Credit: Ponzoo, royalty free, used from Sound Cloud.

Previous Episode

FIM 78: Merry Fck It Christmas: Fck You, I'm Santa; Co-Parenting & the Holidays with Julia Hoffman

Merry F*ck It Christmas, mamas!

This is part 1 of a special 8 part holiday series, devoted to helping moms ditch stressful obligations so that they can focus on the parts of the holidays that mean the most to them. Christmas CAN be the most wonderful time of the year for moms and the kids.

Host Amanda Haro is joined by Julia Hoffman as they dive into the intricacies of holidays after divorce. How can parents work together to create holiday magic for their kids now that they live in separate households? What’s the holiday schedule going to look like? How can you refocus when their other parent drops the ball?

Amanda and Julia share from their own personal experience of co-parenting after divorce, including:

How to figure out holiday child placement schedule in a peaceful way
How to stay focused on the kids instead of getting distracted arguing with their other parent
Letting go after you’ve been the primary magic maker of your family
Can Christmas be any other day or is it only on the 25th?
Figuring out presents
The Santa aspect (whose house does the big man stop at?)
Christmas and grief
Blending families
The first holiday without your kids

Connect with Julia Hoffman, co-parenting coach, here.

Follow Amanda Haro on Instagram and YouTube.

Time Stamps:

0:00 Intro

3:35 2024 election

6:27 Life is not stable but Christmas is

10:51 Kids outgrowing Santa

16:00 F*ck you, I’m Santa

19:35 Releasing your co-parent to be who they are

24:53 Navigating holiday traditions post divorce

37:59 Balancing holiday responsibilities as co-parents

42:21 Christmas reality vs expectations

58:16 First Christmas after separating; blending families

1:01:53 First time being alone on the holidays

1:06:56 Lightening questions

Intro Song Credit: Ponzoo, royalty free, used from Sound Cloud.

Next Episode

FIM 80: Merry F*ck It Christmas: Holidays on a Budget with Amanda Jacobs

Merry F*ck It Christmas, mamas!

Host Amanda Haro is joined by Amanda Jacobs, a financial coach, and they talk about how to do the holidays on a budget without feeling bad about it and while still having fun.

They talk about:

Navigating the holidays when gift giving is not your love language

How actually the best part of the holidays is the time we spend with our loved ones

How to navigate the financial pressures that often accompany this time of year

How their relationships with the holidays have evolved, particularly in light of recent changes due to COVID-19

You don't have to put yourself into debt in order to have a magical Christmas. Learning how to align holiday traditions with your personal values and financial realities helps moms create a more enjoyable experience for themselves and their families.
Follow Amanda Haro on Instagram. Follow Amanda Jacobs on Instagram.