F*ck It Mothering

This week host Amanda Haro interviews healing energy coach Natalie Bedard about how meditation helped her navigate a death scare (which she received no diagnosis for) as a single mom of twin boys who were 4 years old at the time.

Chapters:

• 13:35 Coming out of the narration of perfection
• 16:32 Death scare, no diagnosis, how the medical system is failing us
• 28:00 Keeping stress low using meditation as a single mom of twin boys
• 30:35 Nat Nat guides Amanda through a live meditation
• 34:04 Therapy vs meditation / Women are socialized to take care of everyone else’s emotional needs but not their own / Befriending anger
• 37:40 Parenting is messy / “Not good enough” messaging moms receive
• 43:00 Taking radical responsibility for our emotions
• 43:42 Grief & our relationship with death
• 45:40 Learning how to meditate in the chaos of single motherhood with twin boys; “I am not my nervous system”
• 1:00:36 Understanding your emotional triggers, your nervous system, and doing the work so you can be the generational curse breaker
• 1:03:50 No one right way to do it & the true definition of empowerment
• 1:06:24 Navigating mom guilt
• 1:12:18 Finding the joy without toxic positivity
• 1:18:41 Lightning questions

Unpopular opinion: motherhood can be boring.

Not everyone adapts well to the demands and slow pace and ultimate isolation of baby life. But also, not enough women talk about the new mom struggles because they feel so guilty for feeling that way to begin with and are terrified of being judged.

In short: mom guilt keeps us from finding the other women who are sharing our struggles who could validate our experience.

This week host Amanda Haro is joined by Roula Abou Haidar, who shares her story of motherhood with the honesty we’ve all been waiting for.

They discuss:

✨ The challenges of being a new mom as an immigrant

✨ Hating being a stay at home mom

✨ How hard and painful breastfeeding can be and letting go of the mom guilt around using formula

✨ Divorce and peaceful co-parenting

✨ The decision to remarry & choosing to have another kid

✨ The importance of having boundaries as a mom

Connect more with Amanda, burnout and confidence coach for moms, here.

Roula’s Podcast, The Life Affairs.

Connect with Roula on LinkedIn

Mentioned in this episode, Roula's favorite book: Courageous Parents: Becoming a good anchor for your children

Time Stamps:

0:00 Intro

4:20 Being a built in babysitter as a kid turned me off to motherhood

6:37 The struggles of meeting new mom friends as an immigrant

14:15 I felt like my life was over when I became a mom

29:45 Divorce & peaceful co-parenting & finally finding myself

40:40 Remarrying & choosing to have another child

43:54 Tales of raising teenagers

47:02 The importance of boundaries as a mom

50:34 Lightening questions

Mom guilt, boundaries, mental health, self care, self compassion, divorce, co-parenting, blended family, motherhood, making mom friends, breastfeeding, societal pressure, postpartum support, motherhood tales, immigrant family stories

Have you scoured the internet in search of *the* parenting hack that will solve the problem of your kids tantrums / pissy attitude / picky eating?

Have you implemented all that advice just to wind up still stressed / anxious / overwhelmed?

If you’ve been a part of the F*ck It Mothering community for awhile, you’ll notice a major difference between host Amanda Haro and “parenting experts” is that she does not give out parenting advice.

And she doesn’t give parenting advice because it’s not going to work.

At least, in the sense of reducing your stress.
Because taking a new action does not affect our feelings . Our thoughts create our feelings.

The reason none of the parenting advice out there hasn’t worked for you is not because you suck and your kids are awful. It’s just because no one is teaching you how to tackle the real problem: changing your thoughts.

Connect more with Amanda, life coach for moms, here.

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F*ck It Mothering Depression Episode

With Christmas only 4 days away, it is more important for moms now more than ever to prioritize their self care. The social norm is for women to burn at both ends for the sake of creating Christmas magic for their kids. But just like it would make no sense to drive your car on fumes, it makes no sense to drive yourself on an empty emotional tank.

Join Amanda, burnout & confidence coach for moms, as she explains why self care during the holidays is so important for moms & how they can create the time to do it.

Do you only know how to survive motherhood by overscheduling yourself, never getting enough sleep, & never having any ‘me time’? Schedule your free 1 hour consult where I can explain the simple steps you need to take so you can feel like a whole ass person & THRIVE instead of just survive: https://calendly.com/fckitmothering/momselfish

This week Amanda shares her story of going from a shy introvert who was too scared to take risks and go for what she wanted in life to being a confident woman who is unapologetically herself. And when she stepped into her full confidence, it made her a more present mom.

Are you living your one wild life to the fullest? Schedule your free 1 hour consultation so you can find out exactly how you got to this point & the exact steps you need to take to live your dream life. You have nothing to lose and yourself to gain.