FIM 62: When Motherhood is Not What You Expected with Dr. Wendy O'Connor

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08/01/24 • 73 min

What do you do when you finally become a mom - the thing you wanted so badly - but it doesn't look or feel like what you were expecting? When you have anxiety that you never had before? When you can't stop thinking about how you're messing this whole mom thing up?

On this week's episode host Amanda Haro is joined by Dr. Wendy O'Connor, a positive psychologist & life strategist, who shares her story of becoming a mom of 3 girls within 18 months (one kid and then surprise twins).

They discuss:

Dr. Wendy's experience with postpartum anxiety
Sibling dynamics
Helping twins develop their individuality
How to make new friends as a mom
How to design your life on purpose
How to balance motherhood and career life
How to discover your values
Breaking free of doing what you think you "should" do so you can live an authentic, joy filled life

Connect more with Dr. Wendy O'Connor, positive psychologist & life strategist, here.

Connect more with Amanda Haro, burnout & confidence coach for moms, here.

Time Stamps:

0:00 Intro

1:00 Amanda life update; recovering from surgery when you live alone

15:08 Work life separation is not a thing

19:34 I always wanted to be a mom, so why does this feel so hard for me; PPA

25:08 Surprise it's twins; life as a mom of 3 kids under 2 years old

33:58 When your oldest does not like the new baby

41:15 Postpartum after twins

42:13 Balancing motherhood and career life

56:02 Get to the people; making new mom friends

59:53 Lightening questions

They discuss:

Dr. Wendy's experience with postpartum anxiety
Sibling dynamics
Helping twins develop their individuality
How to make new friends as a mom
How to design your life on purpose
How to balance motherhood and career life
How to discover your values
Breaking free of doing what you think you "should" do so you can live an authentic, joy filled life

Connect more with Dr. Wendy O'Connor, positive psychologist & life strategist, here.

Connect more with Amanda Haro, burnout & confidence coach for moms, here.

Time Stamps:

0:00 Intro

1:00 Amanda life update; recovering from surgery when you live alone

15:08 Work life separation is not a thing

19:34 I always wanted to be a mom, so why does this feel so hard for me; PPA

25:08 Surprise it's twins; life as a mom of 3 kids under 2 years old

33:58 When your oldest does not like the new baby

41:15 Postpartum after twins

42:13 Balancing motherhood and career life

56:02 Get to the people; making new mom friends

59:53 Lightening questions

Previous Episode

FIM 61: Stop Saying Yes When You Want to Say No, A Lesson in Boundaries with Barb Nangle

#boundaries #sayingno #codependency

Do you find yourself always saying 'yes' whenever people ask you for favors?

Do you feel guilty when you think about how you don't want to do it because you think it makes you a bad person?

Most women struggle with saying 'no', because they struggle with these feelings of guilt. Women are socialized to be people pleasers; we are taught that prioritizing ourselves is selfish, that it makes us bad people. But the truth is that when we prioritize ourselves and learn how to set boundaries without the mind drama, it benefits us and everyone around us.

This week host Amanda Haro is joined by boundaries coach Barb Nangle, who shares her journey of overcoming codependency and people pleasing and learning how to build healthy boundaries without the anxiety and drama.

They discuss:

How prioritizing self-care is not selfish, it's actually the best thing you can do for the health of your relationship
How to say no and how to be assertive without being a bitch
How to communicate a boundary without attacking the other person
How implementing boundaries frees you up to focus on the things you love doing, leading to a much happier you

To connect with Barb, boundaries coach, click here.

To connect with Amanda, burnout & confidence coach for moms, click here.

To join the FREE Mom Summer Camp through 8-09-24, click here.

Timestamps:

0:00 Intro

17:25 Codependency, what it looks like and how to break free

25:12 Boundaries, you can't neglect yourself into being a better person

28:47 Creating healthy boundaries in a romantic relationship

39:35 Breaking out of victim mentality

47:53 Stop saying yes when you want to say no

53:35 Living apart together; redefining success in relationships

60:54 Practical tips for setting boundaries

1:14:36 Lightening questions

Next Episode

FIM 63: Fck It Friday: I Chose This

Happy F*ck It Friday, mamas! Hosts Amanda Haro, Samantha Trujillo, & Amanda de la Madriz are back to say 'f*ck it' to the sucky parts of motherhood. Because yes, we all chose to become moms, but we did NOT choose:

Messy TikTok hacks that don't get cleaned up
Messy Pinterest ideas that only keep the kids busy for 10 minutes
Kids cutting their own hair
Potty training taking for.ev.er.

Connect more with Amanda Haro here. Connect more with Samantha Trujillo here. Connect more with Amanda de la Madriz here. Time Stamps: 0:00 Intro 1:00 The Shein gamble; does it really cause cancer? 5:39 You can't complain about motherhood because you chose this 12:37 Fck food coloring & TikTok hacks 18:43 Fck messy play trends 25:15 Stop the social media death scroll 32:44 When your kid cuts their hair 40:20 How to repair the relationship after you lose your shit at your kid 52:18 Final fck its; potty training and kids eating in bedroom