Fat and Fucked

What the fuck is “Fat and Fucked”? In the first episode, hosts Suzy Hooker and Dr. Krista Nabar lay the groundwork for moving toward a world in which fat liberation reigns supreme. They share their personal journeys away from dieting and shame and toward acceptance of their fat bodies. A brief history and evolution of the Fat Acceptance movement puts Fat Liberation in context. The hosts explore the inadequacies of the Body Positivity Movement, and establish Fat Liberation as the only way to address the systemic discrimination and oppression that fat folx experience everyday. Yes, fat folks experience oppression, and yes, it has to stop

Resources:

Body Kindness -

https://www.bodykindnessbook.com/the-book/

Dumplin' - https://www.netflix.com/title/80201490

The Fat Studies Reader - https://nyupress.org/9780814776315/the-fat-studies-reader/

the Fat Liberation Manifesto - https://guides.lib.uw.edu/FatActivism/Manifesto

Roxane Gay - https://roxanegay.com/

NAAFA - https://naafa.org/

Fat Underground - https://sites.williams.edu/engl113-f18/foreman/the-fat-underground-and-the-fat-liberation-manifesto/

Implicit Association Test - https://implicit.harvard.edu/implicit/takeatest.html

Big Big Love by Hanne Blank - https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/206707/big-big-love-revised-by-hanne-blank/

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Hey there, fellow liberationists! Welcome to another episode of "Fat and Fucked" with your hosts, Suzy Hooker and Krista Nabar. In this episode our resident sexpert, Dr. Sexyfat, answers a bunch of listener questions about porn, sexual authenticity, nakedness, and sexual functioning among other things.

Before we dive into the Q&A, let's catch you up on what's been happening. Suzy, who has a resting bitch face (which doesn't mean she hates you, by the way), and Krista, a sex therapist (not a sex educator), start by talking about the concept of Fat Joy and why it is inherently an act of resistance. Experiencing joy in the very bodies we are constantly being told to eradicate is resistance.

The first question we tackle is about concerns regarding the adult film industry and pornography. Krista takes a porn-neutral stance and emphasizes the need for sex education and porn literacy. Next, we explore the topic of SSRIs and their impact on sexual functioning. It turns out that these medications can affect arousal, orgasm, and desire. Krista suggests resetting expectations and being open to new strategies for sexual stimulation.

We then shift gears a bit and delve into body acceptance and fat liberation. Insecurities about our bodies can still arise in intimate situations, even if we are fat liberationists, but it's important not to let them determine our behavior.

We hope you enjoy this episode of "Fat and Fucked" and find some valuable insights along the way. Remember to keep sending us your questions and feedback. We love hearing from you!

[email protected] or @fatandfuckedpod on Instagram

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Resources

Dear Abby - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dear_Abby

Dan Savage - advice column: https://savage.love/savagelove/

• Known for being fatphobic, but is also racist, misogynistic, transphobic, homophobic, etc. https://blogofstench.livejournal.com/577818.html
• Articles written in Seattle’s The Stranger in which he published a fatphobic article, Fat Liberationist Lindy West published a response calling him on it, he responded by doubling down etc. This took place while he was her editor.
  • Lindy’s response - https://www.thestranger.com/blogs/2011/02/11/6716603/hello-i-am-fat
  • Dan’s follow-up to Lindy’s response - https://www.thestranger.com/blogs/2011/02/14/6753867/hello-im-not-the-enemy

Impact of SSRIs on Sexual Functioning -

Rosen RC, Lane RM, Menza M. Effects of SSRIs on sexual function: a critical review. J Clin Psychopharmacol. 1999 Feb;19(1):67-85. doi: 10.1097/00004714-199902000-00013. PMID: 9934946.

Brene Brown TED Talk on the relationship between vulnerability and connection - https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_the_power_of_vulnerability?language=en

00:08:54 Dr. Sexyfat helps explore sexy topics.

00:15:28 Difficulty getting unbiased info about porn industry. Issues with pay for femmes in industry.

00:18:37 Porn without literacy normalizes harmful sexual scripts.

00:22:17 Ethical porn pays actors, ensures diversity, authenticity, and better experience.

00:31:51 Spontaneous vs. Responsive desire

00:32:49 Understanding sexual desire, exploring changes, resetting expectations.

00:43:12 Authenticity, connection, vulnerability, trust in dating.

00:46:29 Talking about sex, values, and timing of milestones in relationships.

00:53:17 Mindfulness exercises to stay focused in sexual encounters.

00:58:19 Mindfulness enhances sexual experience; explore novel activities.

Welcome to a new episode of Fat and Fucked, hosted by Dr. Krista Nabar and Suzy Hooker. We are so glad you made it since this is THE EPISODE you need to hear! We have two incredible guests joining us for an extremely valuable conversation. Dr. Asher Larmie (he/they) and Jeanette Thompson-Wessen (she/her) settle the score on why fat liberation PROMOTES health rather than detracts from it.

Jeanette and Asher share their intimate connection with fatness and fat liberation, and their paths to becoming outspoken advocates of fat liberation. One of the core themes we discuss is weight stigma and its detrimental impact on an individual's health. We also touch on the importance of fat visibility and representation. Throughout the episode, we question the notion of "health" and its distorted portrayal in society. We challenge the assumption that being fat automatically signifies an inability to care for oneself. Instead, we explore how systemic barriers prevent access to quality healthcare for fat individuals and how weight-centered healthcare approaches fail to prioritize well-being.

Drawing from their own experiences and expertise, Asher and Jeanette confidently debunk the myth that intentional weight loss improves long-term health outcomes. Instead, they advocate for rejecting diet culture and embracing self-care through body acceptance. Join us on this thought-provoking and enlightening episode as we dive into the complexities of weight stigma, fat liberation, and the true meaning of health. Let's embrace a more inclusive and compassionate world together.

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Resources

Where to find Jeanette Thompson-Wessen: website - themindsetnutritionist.podia.com (check out her courses and substack!); Instagram - @themindsetnutritionist

Where to find Dr. Asher Larmie: website - fatdoctor.co.uk (Check out their Masterclasses and books!), Instagram - @thefatdoctor

Why we don’t use “ob*sity” - https://withinhealth.com/learn/articles/why-using-the-word-obese-is-a-problem

What is Health At Every Size (HAES)? - https://asdah.org/health-at-every-size-haes-approach/

What is Intuitive Eating? - the book: https://read.macmillan.com/lp/intuitive-eating-4th-edition/

The principles: https://www.intuitiveeating.org/10-principles-of-intuitive-eating/

Nic McDermid - https://www.nicmcdermid.com/

Time Stamps

[00:23:49] Distorted health messages blame individuals instead of society.

[00:29:37] Governments oppressing marginalized communities through lack of access.

[00:35:12] Novo Nordisk profits soar with weight loss injections.

[00:39:18] Fat liberationists struggle with dwindling numbers due to weight loss drugs.

[00:42:58] Doctors spreading troubling misinformation about weight loss and health.

[00:50:26] Weight cycling worsens health; “weight loss paradox.”

[00:56:25] Difference between disordered eating and eating disorders in fat people may be nonsensical. Fat people likely have a history of what is considered disordered eating but is actually an eating disorder. Doctors prescribe eating disorders to fat people.

[01:01:59] Dieting, weight stigma, and eating disorders.

In this episode of Fat and Fucked, your hosts Krista Nabar and Suzy Hooker are joined by the marvelous Kayla Stansberry (she/her). Kayla's not just a fatty with the same love for cheese and cookies as us, she's a licensed clinical professional counselor who champions anti-oppression and fat positivity, in the most delightful way! Kayla is the owner of Intuitive Growth Counseling, and works as a therapist primarily with fat folks. She is a certified Intuitive Eating Counselor, and is a fat, cisgender, queer, neurodivergent and white femme.

In this episode, we get to hear about Kayla's experiences with organizing a body-positive retreat, the hurdles faced in making spaces more accessible, and oddly enough, bunk bed nightmares. Kayla also raises some serious topics about body diversity, fat trauma, challenging the harmful theories around fatness, emotional struggles, and mental health. And she was a great sport in her willingness to school us in our game "Liberate me, baby" - get ready to unlearn some nonsense!

As always, "Be fat, be fab, and be free." You don't want to miss this enlightening episode with Kayla Stansberry - we guarantee you're in for a rich and raw conversation. Tune in, folks! It's about to get real.

Resources

Kayla Stansberry - Instagram @fatpositivetherapist

https://www.intuitivegrowthcounseling.com/

TikTok @fatpositivetherapist

https://kayla-stansberry-llc.business.site/

The Body is Not An Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love - Sonya Renee Taylor https://www.sonyareneetaylor.com/books/the-body-is-not-an-apology-the-power-of-radical-self-love-h2x6p

Plus Raleigh - (fat community group in Raleigh-Durham, NC) instagram @plusraleigh

The Appalachian Retreat and Spa (retreat center designed with fat and disabled accessibility in mind) - https://www.indiegogo.com/projects/the-appalachian-retreat-spa#/

Instagram @theappalachianretreatandspa

The Body Keeps the Score - Bessel van der Kolk - https://www.besselvanderkolk.com/resources/the-body-keeps-the-score

Katelyn Scott Photography - https://katelynscott.com/, Instagram @katelynscottboudoir

Time Stamps

02:19 Struggling with body image, society's expectations.

13:48 Feedback from clients about therapists' anti-fat bias.

23:06 Kayle discusses fat retreat

30:42 “Liberate Me Baby” - Myth: Inside every fat person is a thin person waiting to get out.”

36:24 Sizing standards in the fashion industry are problematic

40:59 Sexual stigma for fat folks hinders conversations, dating.

47:26 Fat folks and personality development

49:44 Intuitive eating, neurodivergent, fixation meals, ADHD, nutrients.

If you have listened to other episodes of Fat and Fucked and thought “What the hell are they talking about?” or “Why are they using THAT word?” then this episode is for you! Suzy and Krista will talk about the words they use on their fat liberation and social justice journey, and will breakdown the misconceptions and confusion so that we all have a common language on our Fat and Fucked expedition. Have a listen and if you are so moved, think about sharing, subscribing, or reviewing; it really helps us find more listeners. You can support the show at Patreon.com/fatandfuckedpodcast.

Show Notes!

How the suffragette movement gained the right to vote by throwing black women under the bus Unlearning History: The Women's Suffrage Movement

NYC passes bill banning weight discrimination

Jenny Craig isn't dead after all - BOO!

Emily Nagoski's Come As You Are