Fake Love and Flying Monkeys
Nova Gibson
A Toxic relationship and Fake love looks real—until it destroys you.
Welcome to Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, the podcast that exposes the hidden dynamics of toxic relationships, narcissistic abuse, and emotional manipulation. Hosted by Nova Gibson, leading trauma-informed counsellor and Director of Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling, this podcast is your guide to breaking free from the confusion, fear, and self-doubt that come with being entangled with a narcissist.
In every episode, Nova draws from years of experience working with survivors to explore the complex, often covert tactics used in emotionally abusive relationships—from gaslighting, triangulation, and the silent treatment to smear campaigns and intermittent reinforcement.
Whether you're struggling with a narcissistic partner, parent, boss, or friend, Fake Love and Flying Monkeys gives you the tools and knowledge to understand the abuse, trust your instincts, and reclaim your power—even if the narcissist has never been formally diagnosed.
This is more than a podcast—it’s a lifeline.
You’ll get:
Clear explanations of narcissistic behaviour patterns
Practical strategies for setting boundaries and detaching
Real talk about the emotional rollercoaster of trauma bonding
Validation, clarity, and a path toward healing from narcissistic abuse
If you've ever felt trapped in a relationship that chips away at your self-worth, this podcast will help you name it, face it, and finally break free.
You’re not alone, and you’re not crazy. You’re in the fog of narcissistic abuse—and Nova is here to help guide you out.
Visit https://www.brighteroutlooknarcissisticabusecounselling.com.au/
for more support and resources.
It’s time to expose the fake love, silence the flying monkeys, and rewrite your story.
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Is the Narcissist the same as a Cult Leader?
Fake Love and Flying Monkeys
10/13/24 • 33 min
Narcissists thrive on power, control and manipulation, and when you try to explain your feelings, they often turn the situation around, making you feel guilty, ashamed, or even questioning your own reality In this episode we take a deep dive into the striking parallels between narcissists and cult leaders. Narcissists, much like cult leaders, create an environment where they exert extreme control, manipulating their victims into loyalty and compliance. We’ll explore how narcissists use charm, fear, and manipulation to isolate their targets, breaking down their sense of self-worth to gain complete control. We also discuss how narcissists slowly build a “following,” surrounding themselves with enablers and flying monkeys to maintain their power.
By examining these similarities, we’ll uncover why narcissists thrive in these power dynamics, using psychological manipulation to draw people in and keep them under their influence.
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Nova xx
Reporting Your Abuse to the Police - With Police Detective Brandon Wootan
Fake Love and Flying Monkeys
08/01/24 • 57 min
An understanding of coercive Control, domestic violence, and narcissistic abuse are not issues that the average person associates with police. Historically, discrimination, racism, and domestic violence stereotypes suggest the police 'have no idea' and take the situation in front of their domestic violence call out, for what it seems.
In this episode I discuss with Detective Police Officer Brandon Wootan the gaps in helping victims of domestic violence, not only with the first call from the victim, but an understanding, empathic response that validates the victim’s trauma and helps them to realise a better and more worthy ffuture.
(Apologies for the audio quality! There was no capacity whatsoever to reduce noise reduction. The discussion however, between myself and Brandon on the other side of the world will be worth it!)
If Fake Love has helped you, using this Apple Podcasts link is a simple way to support the show! 🙏
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Need Support, Extra Resources? Resources and Online Counseling (worldwide) information Here
Order my book Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from Narcissistic Abuse here
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Please remember the information in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy is general and strictly the opinions of the host.
Nova xx
Children of Narcissists - How do they break free from the feelings of obligation and guilt?
Fake Love and Flying Monkeys
08/05/24 • 17 min
The Narcissist will cause chaos in the relationships of their children to bring the focus back on to them. The narcissist experiences feelings of envy, abandonment and subsequent anger toward their child and will sabotage the relationships of their adult children.
They need the unlimited source of attention from their adult child, and it is a betrayal when their child is in a relationship that makes them happy.
In this episode we unpack...
* The obligation and guilt the adult child feels to continue to tolerate the abuse
* The pressure from outsiders to continue to tolerate the abuse.
* The struggles that adult children experiences trying to put boundaries in place with a toxic parent.
If Fake Love has helped you, using this Apple Podcasts link is a simple way to support the show! 🙏
Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.
Need Support, Extra Resources? Resources and Online Counseling (worldwide) information Here
Order my book Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from Narcissistic Abuse here
You can leave a Rating and a Review here
You Can Share this Podcast here
Join me on FB here
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Thank you for listening!
Please remember the information in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy is general and strictly the opinions of the host.
Nova xx
Why does the narcissist come back? - The Hoover manoeuvre explained
Fake Love and Flying Monkeys
08/11/24 • 43 min
Narcissists have a way of reappearing in your life, often when you least expect it. After enduring the pain and chaos of narcissistic abuse, it's natural to ask yourself, "Why do they come back?" The narcissist will 'hoover' you back to regain control of you and to make sure you never forget about them. (Hoover meaning to suck you back, the term being coined from the Hoover vacuum cleaner)
Whether it's a sudden phone call, an unexpected visit, or a chance encounter at the grocery store, the narcissist's return can be bewildering, especially when they seemed so eager to move on with someone else.
In this episode we unpack...
* Why does the narcissist hoover you?
* The Trap of the "Let’s Just Be Friends" Line
* The Confusion of narcissistic Hoovering
* What are the classic strategies the narcissist uses to hoover you?
* What does it mean if you don't get hoovered?
* Does every victim of narcissistic abuse get hoovered?
* What happens each time you potentially fall for the hoover?
* How do you stop the narcissist from hoovering you?
* The Danger of Unblocking
If Fake Love has helped you, using this Apple Podcasts link is a simple way to support the show! 🙏
Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.
Need Support, Extra Resources? Resources and Online Counseling (worldwide) information Here
Order my book Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from Narcissistic Abuse here
You can leave a Rating and a Review here
You Can Share this Podcast here
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Thank you for listening!
Please remember the information in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy is general and strictly the opinions of the host.
Nova xx
How do you cut ties with a toxic Parent?
Fake Love and Flying Monkeys
08/12/24 • 70 min
Going no contact with a narcissistic, toxic parent is difficult. It takes time to understand this parent is never going to change and that you have the right to stop the abuse. The fear, obligation and guilt the narcissistic parent instils in their adult child keeps their child stuck in the abusive environment, where they can never pay off the debt for being born.
In this episode I speak with Dr Sherrie Campbell, a TED speaker, and world expert on toxic families, who provides incredible insights and practical strategies to escape, and heal from this familial abuse.
In this discussion with Dr Sherrie we unpack......
*How the toxic parent conditions their child to 'tolerate' the abuse out of a sense of obligation.
*How the toxic parent attempts to destroy your self-worth, and why they MUST do this.
*The important of accepting who they are and grieving, and soooo much more!
If Fake Love has helped you, using this Apple Podcasts link is a simple way to support the show! 🙏
Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.
Need Support, Extra Resources? Resources and Online Counseling (worldwide) information Here
Order my book Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from Narcissistic Abuse here
You can leave a Rating and a Review here
You Can Share this Podcast here
Join me on FB here
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Please Buy me a coffee ❤️
Thank you for listening!
Please remember the information in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy is general and strictly the opinions of the host.
Nova xx
5 things Narcissists Fear the Most!
Fake Love and Flying Monkeys
11/14/24 • 31 min
Despite their outward confidence and need for control, narcissists are often deeply afraid of specific things that threaten their carefully crafted personas.
In this episode, I pull back the curtain on the hidden fears that narcissists don’t want you to know about. I discuss why "exposure" terrifies the narcissist. I also explore their intense fear of "being alone."
Don’t miss this episode—it could change how you understand the narcissist in your life!
If Fake Love has helped you, using this Apple Podcasts link is a simple way to support the show! 🙏
Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.
Need Support, Extra Resources? Resources and Online Counseling (worldwide) information Here
Order my book Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from Narcissistic Abuse here
You can leave a Rating and a Review here
You Can Share this Podcast here
Join me on FB here
Join the private FB group here
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Thank you for listening!
Please remember the information in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy is general and strictly the opinions of the host.
Nova xx
The Narcissist Smear Campaign.
Fake Love and Flying Monkeys
07/02/24 • 61 min
The narcissist's smear campaign is designed to isolate the victim and destroy their reputation. The narcissist's number one fear is exposure. The smear campaign is a pre-emptive strike to destroy the victim's credibility so no one believes them when they go to talk about their abuse.
In this episode, I unpack...
- What is a smear campaign?
- When does the smear campaign begin?
- How does a narcissist use a smear campaign to manipulate the perceptions of others?
- Why do intelligent people believe the narcissist?
- Should you defend yourself against the smear campaign?
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If Fake Love has helped you, using this Apple Podcasts link is a simple way to support the show! 🙏
Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.
Need Support, Extra Resources? Resources and Online Counseling (worldwide) information Here
Order my book Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from Narcissistic Abuse here
You can leave a Rating and a Review here
You Can Share this Podcast here
Join me on FB here
Join the private FB group here
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Join me on YouTube here
Please Buy me a coffee ❤️
Thank you for listening!
Please remember the information in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy is general and strictly the opinions of the host.
Nova xx
Will a Narcissist treat the next person better?
Fake Love and Flying Monkeys
08/04/24 • 39 min
After everything the narcissist put you through, seeing them seemingly happier, more affectionate, or even more committed to someone else can feel like a dagger to the heart. One of the most painful and confusing questions survivors of narcissistic abuse often ask is: “Will the narcissist treat the next person better?” And it’s no wonder —
In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I break down the truth behind the narcissist’s new relationship and explain why things may look different on the surface, but the cycle of abuse remains the same underneath. We explore the real purpose behind the narcissist’s “glow up” with the new supply — whether it's love bombing, flaunting their relationship online, or suddenly becoming the person you wanted them to be when you were with them.
You’ll learn:
- Why narcissists appear to move on quickly (hint: they never really stop looking for supply)
- How the new person is often being used as a tool to hurt you
- What really goes on behind closed doors in the narcissist’s new relationship
- The painful truth about why they’re “treating the next one better” — and why it won’t last
If you’ve ever caught yourself spiralling with self-doubt, comparing yourself to the new partner, or wondering if you were the problem — this episode will validate your experience and empower you to stay focused on your healing.
“The narcissist didn’t love them more. They just loved how much it hurt you.
Support the Show on Apple PodcastsIf Fake Love has helped you, using this Apple Podcasts link is a simple way to support the show! 🙏
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Need Support, Extra Resources? Resources and Online Counseling (worldwide) information Here
Order my book Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from Narcissistic Abuse here
You can leave a Rating and a Review here
You Can Share this Podcast here
Join me on FB here
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Please Buy me a coffee ❤️
Thank you for listening!
Please remember the information in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy is general and strictly the opinions of the host.
Nova xx
The Stalking Epidemic: How do we Protect Victims? With Chris Daw KC
Fake Love and Flying Monkeys
10/20/24 • 72 min
In this episode, I speak with Chris Daw KC who provides incredible insights and discussion around stalking behaviours, the impact to victims and the resources needed to protect victims and address future stalking behaviour. Stalking is one of the most alarming and pervasive issues affecting countless lives today. Stalking is not just about unwanted attention; it’s a serious and sometimes life-threatening behavior that leaves victims feeling trapped, isolated, and terrified. Whether it happens in person or online, stalking is a form of abuse that often gets overlooked or minimized, but its impact can be devastating. So, how do we stop it? And more importantly, how do we protect the people being targeted?
This episode is a must-listen if you have been the victim of stalking or you know someone who has. With the rise in cyberstalking and the blurred lines of digital harassment, this conversation is more relevant than ever. Tune in to learn how we can all play a role in addressing the stalking epidemic and ensuring victims receive the support and safety they deserve.
If Fake Love has helped you, using this Apple Podcasts link is a simple way to support the show! 🙏
Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.
Need Support, Extra Resources? Resources and Online Counseling (worldwide) information Here
Order my book Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from Narcissistic Abuse here
You can leave a Rating and a Review here
You Can Share this Podcast here
Join me on FB here
Join the private FB group here
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Please Buy me a coffee ❤️
Thank you for listening!
Please remember the information in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy is general and strictly the opinions of the host.
Nova xx
5 ways the Narcissist reacts when you reveal they hurt you
Fake Love and Flying Monkeys
10/14/24 • 27 min
Narcissists thrive on power, control and manipulation, and when you try to explain your feelings, they often turn the situation around, making you feel guilty, ashamed, or even questioning your own reality In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, we dive deep into a question that so many victims of narcissistic abuse wrestle with: Should you tell the narcissist how they hurt you? While it might feel like confronting the narcissist could bring you closure, clarity, or even an apology, the reality is often far more damaging.
. In this episode, I explore 5 common reactions narcissists have when confronted, including gaslighting, deflection, and blameshifting.
If Fake Love has helped you, using this Apple Podcasts link is a simple way to support the show! 🙏
Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.
Need Support, Extra Resources? Resources and Online Counseling (worldwide) information Here
Order my book Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from Narcissistic Abuse here
You can leave a Rating and a Review here
You Can Share this Podcast here
Join me on FB here
Join the private FB group here
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Join me on YouTube here
Please Buy me a coffee ❤️
Thank you for listening!
Please remember the information in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy is general and strictly the opinions of the host.
Nova xx
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FAQ
How many episodes does Fake Love and Flying Monkeys have?
Fake Love and Flying Monkeys currently has 125 episodes available.
What topics does Fake Love and Flying Monkeys cover?
The podcast is about Society & Culture, Relationship, Narcissist, Mentalhealth, Podcasts, Cheating, Self-Improvement, Education and Relationships.
What is the most popular episode on Fake Love and Flying Monkeys?
The episode title 'Can a narcissist love you?' is the most popular.
What is the average episode length on Fake Love and Flying Monkeys?
The average episode length on Fake Love and Flying Monkeys is 35 minutes.
How often are episodes of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys released?
Episodes of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys are typically released every 2 days, 1 hour.
When was the first episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys?
The first episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys was released on May 23, 2024.
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