Fake Love and Flying Monkeys
Nova Gibson
Narcissism, or narcissistic personality disorder, causes the narcissist to engage in what is known as narcissistic abuse. This type of abuse encompasses emotional abuse, verbal abuse, coercive control and psychological abuse, which are covert forms of domestic violence that make the victim feel crazy. It impacts the mental health of every victim. It can also involve physical abuse. If you have a narcissist in your life then you also have their flying monkeys!
In this podcast, leading expert and specialist trauma-informed counsellor Nova Gibson, offers concise, empowering advice on navigating, escaping, and healing from the narcissist, and their flying monkey's insidious forms of domestic abuse.
Nova’s expertise in identifying behaviours of narcissistic abusers, such as coercive control, gaslighting, and trauma bonding, is invaluable for those in toxic relationships.
Whether the covert narcissist, or overt narcissist is an intimate partner engaging in intimate partner violence, a friend, parent, or colleague, the life-changing insights from Nova and her guests will support your healing journey back to self care and self love, and to address the inevitable ptsd (post traumatic stress disorder).
Nova is director, founder and principle counselor at Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service. She is also the best-selling author of the globally acclaimed 'Fake Love - Understanding and Healing from Narcissistic Abuse'. HarperCollins.
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Is the Narcissist the same as a Cult Leader?
Fake Love and Flying Monkeys
10/13/24 • 33 min
Is the Narcissist the same as a Cult Leader?
In this episode we take a deep dive into the striking parallels between narcissists and cult leaders. Narcissists, much like cult leaders, create an environment where they exert extreme control, manipulating their victims into loyalty and compliance. We’ll explore how narcissists use charm, fear, and manipulation to isolate their targets, breaking down their sense of self-worth to gain complete control. We also discuss how narcissists slowly build a “following,” surrounding themselves with enablers and flying monkeys to maintain their power.
By examining these similarities, we’ll uncover why narcissists thrive in these power dynamics, using psychological manipulation to draw people in and keep them under their influence.
To book a zoom counselling session with me please visit my website below for contact details. Nova 🙏
And don't forget to grab your copy of my best-selling book Fake Love - Understanding and Healing from Narcissistic Abuse. You can order here 👇
https://linktr.ee/novagibson
Thankyou so much for listening!
Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse.
If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123gmail.com
To order a copy of my book - Fake love please click Here
or simply go directly to Amazon
I looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee
Why does Narcissistic Abuse get worse each time you go back?
Fake Love and Flying Monkeys
10/16/24 • 16 min
Why Does Narcissistic Abuse get worse each time you go back?
In this episode, we dive into why narcissists become more abusive each time you go back. I explain how the cycle of love-bombing, gaslighting, and control escalates with every return. We’ll talk about why narcissists push boundaries even further, how emotional abuse intensifies, and why it becomes harder to break free. Narcissists thrive on control, and each time you come back, they feel like they’ve won—so they push the boundaries even further.
We’ll explore the emotional rollercoaster they put you through, why they up the ante with every reunion, and how their behaviour becomes more intense and damaging over time.
This episode offers insight into the toxic dynamics of a narcissistic relationship and why leaving for good is crucial for your healing journey.
For Zoom counselling support in your narcissistic abuse recovery available worldwide, please visit my website below.
Nova 🌻
www.brighteroutlooknarcissisticabusecounselling.com.au
If you found this episode informative, I would absolutely love it if you could rate this podcast, leave a review, and please share, Share, SHARE! Help to spread awareness around Narcissistic Abuse, so there's more support and justice for survivors!
Nova xx
You can book an online counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event here
You can purchase a copy of my book ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse’ here
Join me on Facebook here
Join the private Facebook discussion group here
Join me on Instagram here
https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibson
Thankyou so much for listening!
Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse.
If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123gmail.com
To order a copy of my book - Fake love please click Here
or simply go directly to Amazon
I looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee
10 ways the Narcissist gets you to react!
Fake Love and Flying Monkeys
10/15/24 • 43 min
10 ways the Narcissist gets you to react!
In this episode, 10 Ways Narcissists Get You to React, we dive deep into the manipulative tactics narcissists use to push your buttons and get the emotional reaction they crave. From subtle guilt trips to full-blown gaslighting, we unpack the common strategies narcissists use to provoke you, whether in romantic relationships, friendships, or even at work. You'll learn how they set up situations to make you feel off-balance, question yourself, or lash out so they can play the victim. If you’ve ever felt like you’re being baited or constantly reacting to someone’s toxic behavior, this episode will give you the tools to respond with calm and confidence.
For Zoom counselling support in your narcissistic abuse recovery available worldwide, please visit my website below.
Nova 🌻
www.brighteroutlooknarcissisticabusecounselling.com.au
If you found this episode informative, I would absolutely love it if you could rate this podcast, leave a review, and please share, Share, SHARE! Help to spread awareness around Narcissistic Abuse, so there's more support and justice for survivors!
Nova xx
You can book an online counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event here
You can purchase a copy of my book ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse’ here
Join me on Facebook here
Join the private Facebook discussion group here
Join me on Instagram here
https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibson
Thankyou so much for listening!
Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse.
If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123gmail.com
To order a copy of my book - Fake love please click Here
or simply go directly to Amazon
I looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee
5 Things a narcissist will never give you in a relationship
Fake Love and Flying Monkeys
09/11/24 • 24 min
5 Things a narcissist will never give you in a relationship
https://www.amazon.com.au/Fake-Love-Understanding-Healing-Narcissistic
We discuss 5 crucial things you will never experience in a relationship with a narcissist in this episode. These are things that you would normally take for granted in a healthy relationship. From emotional support to genuine love, narcissists keep their partners trapped in a cycle of manipulation and control. Learn how these missing elements can leave you feeling empty, confused, and stuck in a toxic cycle. Tune in as we explore recognising the signs, breaking free from the cycle, and reclaiming your self-worth. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to understand the impact of narcissistic relationships and heal from their damaging effects.
For Zoom counselling support in your narcissistic abuse recovery available worldwide, please visit my website below.
Nova 🌻
www.brighteroutlooknarcissisticabusecounselling.com.au
If you found this episode informative, I would absolutely love it if you could rate this podcast, leave a review, and please share, Share, SHARE! Help to spread awareness around Narcissistic Abuse, so there's more support and justice for survivors!
Nova xx
You can book an online counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event here
You can purchase a copy of my book ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse’ here
Join me on Facebook here
Join the private Facebook discussion group here
Join me on Instagram here
https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibson
Thankyou so much for listening!
Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse.
If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123gmail.com
To order a copy of my book - Fake love please click Here
or simply go directly to Amazon
I looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee
The Narcissist Smear Campaign.
Fake Love and Flying Monkeys
07/02/24 • 61 min
The narcissist' smear campaign is designed to isolate the victim and destroy their reputation. The narcissist's number one fear is exposure. The smear campaign is a pre-emptive strike to destroy the victims credibility so no-one believes them when they go to talk about their abuse.
In this episode I unpack...
- What is a smear campaign?
- When does the smear campaign begin?
- How does a narcissist use the smear campaign to manipulate the perceptions of others?
- Why do intelligent people believe the narcissist?
- Should you defend yourself against the smear campaign?
If you found this episode informative, I would absolutely love it if you could please leave a review, and If you would like to support this podcast, the best thing you can do is share! And tag all the people in your life who need to hear this information.
Nova xx 🌻
To process your own trauma from narcissistic abuse, you can book a counselling session online appointment with me, or make enquiries around hiring me to speak at your event here
You can purchase a copy of my book ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse’ here
Join the private Facebook discussion group here
Join me on instagram here
Thankyou so much for listening!
Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse.
If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123gmail.com
To order a copy of my book - Fake love please click Here
or simply go directly to Amazon
I looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee
Will the narcissist treat the next person better? - Why do victims fear the next person will get all the 'nice' treatment?
Fake Love and Flying Monkeys
08/04/24 • 39 min
Will the narcissist treat the next person better?
It is typical for all victims to think this given that they have have been blamed for the abuse. But are their fears justified?
In this episode we unpack...
*Why does every victim think the next person will get all of the 'good' side of the narcissist
* How do you override these very 'normal' feelings?
* Is the narcissist capable of change?
Thankyou so much for listening!
Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse.
If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123gmail.com
To order a copy of my book - Fake love please click Here
or simply go directly to Amazon
I looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee
Why do narcissists devalue you?
Fake Love and Flying Monkeys
07/30/24 • 51 min
Why do narcissists devalue you?
Once the narcissist has hooked you in, the devaluation stage must and will begin. They will destroy all that is good about you, because all of those amazing traits and qualities make them feel bad about themselves. They devalue you to punish you for being 'better' than them in any way, and to bring you under their control.
In this episode we unpack....
* Why does the narcissist devalue you?
* The strategies they use to devalue you that you don't recognise at the time.
* What devaluing strategies does the narcissist use? Eg. Isolation, Gaslighting and financial abuse.
* Is the devaluing stage inevitable?
* How do you as the victim, fall for their devaluation strategies?
* How do you recognise the times you are being devalued?
If you found this episode informative, I would absolutely love it if you could rate this podcast, leave a review, and please share, Share, SHARE! Help to spread awareness around Narcissistic Abuse, so there's more support and justice for survivors!
Nova xx
You can book an online counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event here
You can purchase a copy of my book ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse’ here
Join the private Facebook discussion group here
Join me on instagram here
Join me on TikTok at @nova_gibson
Please leave a review, and please share, Share, SHARE! Help to spread awareness around Narcissistic Abuse, and more support and justice for survivors!
Nova xx
Thankyou so much for listening!
Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse.
If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123gmail.com
To order a copy of my book - Fake love please click Here
or simply go directly to Amazon
I looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee
10 Cruel Tactics Narcissists use to Destroy You.
Fake Love and Flying Monkeys
10/07/24 • 46 min
10 Cruel Tactics Narcissists Use to Destroy You.
In this episode, we dive into 10 cruel tactics narcissists use to destroy you and how these toxic behaviours can leave you feeling drained and powerless. From manipulation to smear campaigns, we'll break down the sneaky ways narcissists try to tear you apart. Whether you're dealing with a narcissist in a relationship, friendship, or family, this episode offers valuable insights into their damaging behaviours and how to protect yourself. Tune in for practical tips on recognising these tactics and reclaiming your power.
For Zoom counselling support in your narcissistic abuse recovery available worldwide, please visit my website below.
Nova 🌻
www.brighteroutlooknarcissisticabusecounselling.com.au
If you found this episode informative, I would absolutely love it if you could rate this podcast, leave a review, and please share, Share, SHARE! Help to spread awareness around Narcissistic Abuse, so there's more support and justice for survivors!
Nova xx
You can book an online counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event here
You can purchase a copy of my book ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse’ here
Join me on Facebook here
Join the private Facebook discussion group here
Join me on Instagram here
https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibson
Thankyou so much for listening!
Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse.
If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123gmail.com
To order a copy of my book - Fake love please click Here
or simply go directly to Amazon
I looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee
The Covert Narcissist Fools everyone else - How do they do this?
Fake Love and Flying Monkeys
10/01/24 • 47 min
The Covert Narcissist Fools everyone else - How do they do this?
Covert narcissists often seem charming and harmless to outsiders, but behind closed doors, they can cause emotional turmoil for their victims. In this episode learn how they expertly disguise their true nature, making it difficult for others to believe their victims' experiences. Listen to the practical advice I share on identifying the signs and protecting yourself from their hidden abuse. Tune in for eye-opening insights and strategies for dealing with these master manipulators.For Zoom counselling support in your narcissistic abuse recovery available worldwide, please visit my website below.
Nova 🌻
www.brighteroutlooknarcissisticabusecounselling.com.au
If you found this episode informative, I would absolutely love it if you could rate this podcast, leave a review, and please share, Share, SHARE! Help to spread awareness around Narcissistic Abuse, so there's more support and justice for survivors!
Nova xx
You can book an online counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event here
You can purchase a copy of my book ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse’ here
Join me on Facebook here
Join the private Facebook discussion group here
Join me on Instagram here
https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibson
Thankyou so much for listening!
Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse.
If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123gmail.com
To order a copy of my book - Fake love please click Here
or simply go directly to Amazon
I looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee
5 ways the Narcissist reacts when you reveal they hurt you
Fake Love and Flying Monkeys
10/14/24 • 27 min
5 ways the Narcissist reacts when you reveal they hurt you.
In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, we dive deep into a question that so many victims of narcissistic abuse wrestle with: Should you tell the narcissist how they hurt you? While it might feel like confronting the narcissist could bring you closure, clarity, or even an apology, the reality is often far more damaging.
Narcissists thrive on power, control and manipulation, and when you try to explain your feelings, they often turn the situation around, making you feel guilty, ashamed, or even questioning your own reality. In this episode I explore 5 common reactions narcissists have when confronted, including gaslighting, deflection, and blameshifting.
To book an in individual zoom counselling session with me please visit my website below.
www.brighteroutlooknarcissisticabusecounselling.com.au
To order your copy of my best-selling book Fake Love - Understanding and healing from Narcissistic Abuse, please see link below 👇
https://linktr.ee/novagibson
Thankyou so much for listening!
Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse.
If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at ,Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123gmail.com
To order a copy of my book - Fake love please click Here
or simply go directly to Amazon
I looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to .Buy me a coffee
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FAQ
How many episodes does Fake Love and Flying Monkeys have?
Fake Love and Flying Monkeys currently has 80 episodes available.
What topics does Fake Love and Flying Monkeys cover?
The podcast is about Society & Culture, Relationship, Domestic Violence, Divorce, Narcissist, Therapy, Podcasts, Self-Improvement, Education and Relationships.
What is the most popular episode on Fake Love and Flying Monkeys?
The episode title 'Can a narcissist love you?' is the most popular.
What is the average episode length on Fake Love and Flying Monkeys?
The average episode length on Fake Love and Flying Monkeys is 38 minutes.
How often are episodes of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys released?
Episodes of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys are typically released every 1 day, 18 hours.
When was the first episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys?
The first episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys was released on May 23, 2024.
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