
Neurodiversity Affirming 'Social Skills' Support for Autistic Children - Part 2: What Is and What Isn't Affirming
02/21/23 β’ 14 min
In this episode, we dive into the specifics of what a Neurodiversity Affirming approach looks like when supporting social interactions for autistic children. The key point is that we do not want to teach neurodivergent children that they need to act more neurotypical. This means all our goals, therapy approaches and resources need to teach that autistic children might be different, and socialise in different (but not wrong) ways to neurotypical kids. We need to stop sending the message that kids are missing social skills... because they DO have social skills, just different perhaps from neurotypical social skills.
We discuss that boundaries can still apply to autistic kids' communication & interactions (it's not OK to hurt others, physically or emotionally!), but we need to pause and think carefully about why we are asking a child to change.
The traditional approach of teaching autistic children that they are wrong, different, and weird in a bad way is not acceptable any more. We talk about the issue with asking children to 'fit in'.
So what should we do? We should focus on truly seeing neurodivergent children for who they are, what they enjoy, and help them be surrounded by people who appreciate them. We should teach self-awareness. We should teach self-advocacy.
Tune in for these ideas and more!
If you found this episode helpful, please share it with a friend, family member or a colleague!
Links
π Free download for parents of autistic and neurodivergent children - β Checklist: How Neurodiversity Affirming is your Child's Team?: https://playlearnchat.ck.page/8c5072e2e7
π Free download for therapists and parents of autistic and neurodivergent children - β Checklist: Neurodiversity Affirming Social Support Approaches for Autistic Children: https://playlearnchat.ck.page/1fcf4c5759
π©βπ» My on-demand webinar 'Affirming Ways to Support Social & Peer Interactions' for therapists and therapy assistants: https://courses.playlearnchat.com/offers/2ARTUmfd/
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In this episode, we dive into the specifics of what a Neurodiversity Affirming approach looks like when supporting social interactions for autistic children. The key point is that we do not want to teach neurodivergent children that they need to act more neurotypical. This means all our goals, therapy approaches and resources need to teach that autistic children might be different, and socialise in different (but not wrong) ways to neurotypical kids. We need to stop sending the message that kids are missing social skills... because they DO have social skills, just different perhaps from neurotypical social skills.
We discuss that boundaries can still apply to autistic kids' communication & interactions (it's not OK to hurt others, physically or emotionally!), but we need to pause and think carefully about why we are asking a child to change.
The traditional approach of teaching autistic children that they are wrong, different, and weird in a bad way is not acceptable any more. We talk about the issue with asking children to 'fit in'.
So what should we do? We should focus on truly seeing neurodivergent children for who they are, what they enjoy, and help them be surrounded by people who appreciate them. We should teach self-awareness. We should teach self-advocacy.
Tune in for these ideas and more!
If you found this episode helpful, please share it with a friend, family member or a colleague!
Links
π Free download for parents of autistic and neurodivergent children - β Checklist: How Neurodiversity Affirming is your Child's Team?: https://playlearnchat.ck.page/8c5072e2e7
π Free download for therapists and parents of autistic and neurodivergent children - β Checklist: Neurodiversity Affirming Social Support Approaches for Autistic Children: https://playlearnchat.ck.page/1fcf4c5759
π©βπ» My on-demand webinar 'Affirming Ways to Support Social & Peer Interactions' for therapists and therapy assistants: https://courses.playlearnchat.com/offers/2ARTUmfd/
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Yellow Ladybugs - Org I mention - https://www.yellowladybugs.com.au/
I CAN Network - Org I mention - https://icannetwork.online/
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Podcast Link: https://pod.link/1625478932
Website: www.playlearnchat.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/play.learn.chat
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/play.learn.chat
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Neurodiversity Affirming 'Social Skills' Support for Autistic Children - Part 1: The Big Ideas
'Social skills' is a massively important area of support that we all need to pause and examine what we've been teaching neurodivergent kids. We need to check if the programs, resources and goals we've worked on previously still apply under a Neurodiversity Affirming approach. There's a lot that we need to change. In short, we do not want to be teaching neurodivergent kids that they should act 'more neurotypical' to be accepted and socially connected. Today we discuss some of the bigger ideas that underpin what affirming social supports look like, and in the next episode we'll cover specific aspects of support that form a neurodiversity affirming approach to supporting social skills and social interactions for autistic kids. In this episode you'll learn about:
- The importance of unlearning old practices and adopting Neurodiversity Affirming approaches to support for autistic children
- Understanding neurodivergent communication styles can be different to neurotypical communication styles, but not wrong - we discuss the 'Double Empathy Problem'
- Why we should focus should on respecting the unique strengths, challenges, quirks, and preferences of each child, instead of trying to make neurodivergent kids conform to neurotypical 'norms'
- The impact of sensory differences on socialising, for neurodivergent people
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What do Neurodiversity Affirming Goals look like for Autistic children?
In this episode we discuss a range of key considerations to ensure that goals for autistic children's support are Neurodiversity Affirming, useful and relevant to each child. We'll discuss the need for goals that support an autistic child's regulation, connection, and overall well-being. Goals should not only seek to change the skills of a child, but we should instead have goals that aim to change the world around the child. This includes supporting other people's knowledge, perspectives, and skills in supporting and accepting each child, as well as their physical environment. We talk about the importance of meeting an autistic child's sensory and emotional regulation needs before asking for any other goals to be met. Communication goals should not just focus on speech or mouth words, but rather include all forms of communication, whatever is preferred by the child in each moment. Social interaction goals should not be based on changing an autistic child to appear more neurotypical or forcing eye contact. Affirming social goals can exist, if they are aligned with what a child wants. I also share a paragraph that I add to the start of goal summaries or plans, which is an example of how you can introduce Neurodiversity Affirming goals. You're welcome to use and edit it to use for your clients or child: These goals are to be supported when Amelia's sensory and emotional support needs are being met and she is well-regulated. Learning and development will happen better when she is regulated. Amelia's interests and personal preferences are important. We will support her to explore these more in and out of therapy sessions. Interests and fun will be incorporated at all stages of working on the below goals. Amelia's interests will not be used as rewards for doing other, less-interesting things. All communication methods are OK and valid: The goals are to be supported honouring Amelia's preferred communication method/s in any moment. For Amelia this generally includes a mix of using body movements, sounds, some mouthwords, and she is beginning to use her Augmentative and Alternative Communication (AAC) Speech Generating Device. Our priority is connection. We do not push or pressure Amelia to communicate using only speech, if that is not within her abilities. If you found this episode helpful, please share it with a friend, family member or a colleague! Links π Free download for parents - Goal Setting Guide & Workbook: https://playlearnchat.ck.page/c73185e86e π©βπ» Webinar for parents - Affirming Goal-Setting for Neurodivergent Children: https://courses.playlearnchat.com/offers/2E3y5pDR/checkout π©βπ» Webinar for Allied Health Professionals βAffirming Approach to Goal-Setting and Reportsβ: https://courses.playlearnchat.com/offers/FfxMa9ea/checkout Podcast Link: https://pod.link/1625478932 Website: www.playlearnchat.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/play.learn.chat Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/play.learn.chat
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