40. Leaving Behind a Good Career to Leave a Mark with a New One with Demetria January, Type 8

02/10/22 • 43 min

“You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backward. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.” – Steve Jobs
When you look back from where you are now to where you've been, do you see how your own dots are connected?
For my guest today on the Enneagram MBA podcast, this couldn't be more true.
Now a Licensed Therapist, Demetria January started her career in quality auditing for a large corporation when she started to feel stuck, miserable and controlled.
She wasn't sure what she wanted to be doing, but that wasn't it.
It took a flyer in the mail and a story her mom reminded her of back from high school for it to click about how good she was at having difficult conversations with boldness and directness, but also with empathy and understanding.
As someone who identifies with Type 8 energy, this comes very natural for her and a gift she wasn't able to use in a career that by normal standards was a "good job." So, despite also valuing stability and certainty, she made a bold decision to bet on herself.
She quit her job to go back to school and become a mental health professional where she would better use her natural strengths and gift herself more control of her own time and work (something core to a Type 8), by becoming a therapist, specializing in anxiety and trauma based disorders.
If you've ever felt the pull that you were made for more than where you're at now, be sure and listen in to this one and be inspired by Demetria's story and the advice she offers to others thinking of making a big change.
Connect with her on social media:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DemetriaJanuaryMentalHealth
Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/demetria-january-m-ed-lpca-ncc-194b8317a/
Catch her podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/id/podcast/lets-be-clear-with-demi/id1572528064
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39. The Advice You Give, but Don't Take with Dr. Rebekah Tennyson, Type 2w1

Do you find yourself giving great advice and being generous, supportive, and understanding with others?
"You did a great job with that! How are you going to celebrate?"
"We all have those days. Nothing is wrong with you."
"Everyone needs a break. I'm in support of you getting rested."
But then when a situation presents itself to apply that same advice to yourself, you don't take it - resting, celebrating, forgiving. None of that applies to you because you don't deserve it or your situation is so different, right?
Our guest today explains why we do this to ourselves and how to think about it a different way, so that we can gift ourselves that same love and care that we so freely give to others.
Dr. Rebekah Tennyson is a Clinical Psychologist with a degree in Social and Political Sciences from the University of Cambridge and a doctorate in Clinical Psychology from the University of Oxford.
She's co-host of a Drop in the Bucket podcast, a trained Enneagram coach with Enneagram University, has completed an Externship in Emotion Focused Therapy, and other training courses in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy/DNA-V, Dialectical Behavioural Therapy skills, and Narrative Exposure Therapy.
And in this episode, she's also joining us as an Enneagram Type 2 wing 1. As someone who's spent years studying human behavior, it's such a treat to hear her insight on the Enneagram in general, and how she specifically experiences life and work as a Type 2.
You'll also hear:

How she's folding in her Enneagram work outside of her day job
What it looks like when her Type 8 Stress Arrow shows up
What she's learned about her Type 4 Growth Arrow
How she uses the Enneagram with couples and a key phrase she always starts with
What the repressed Center of Intelligence (head, heart, body) can tell us about the disconnect we have with someone else
The most creative and fun way to use the Enneagram for authors or anyone interested in creating fictional characters
Her best advice when making a career change

Connect with Rebekah on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/enneagrampsych/
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41. The Types of Grief No One Talks About with Grief Coach, Olivia Myles, Type 7

I never thought I'd see the words Grief Coach and Type 7 in a sentence together, so when Olivia Myles reached out and told me which type she most identifies with and what she did in her business, I had to hear more about her and her work.
On the Enneagram, Type Sevens are also called The Enthusiast, The Adventurer, and The Optimist.
They are known for their glass-is-half-full and rose-colored glasses outlook on life. They bring joy, fun, and energy to any room they walk into.
The reason behind a lot this is because deep down, Sevens are running from uncomfortable feelings. You'll find them busy in their business or out for an adventure because sitting still with their own thoughts and what might come up is too much to handle.
Their core defense mechanism is reframing so that even when painful or uncomfortable situations do occur, they retell themselves (and others) the story, but with a positive spin on it (#toxicpositivity)...
"Well, at least you didn't run over two dogs!"
"What are you complaining about? You could be in [fill in the blank with third world country] right now!"
"Don't be sad, there's so much else to look forward to!"
"They could have stolen double that!"
Like any type on the Enneagram, the more self-awareness and intentional personal growth a person pursues, the less like the stereotype they'll look and that's exactly what my guest today has done.
In this episode with Grief Recovery Coach, Olivia Myles, you'll hear:

her journey of loss and grief of a child
after years of living the same day over, how she learned to keep his memory alive without the pain
why the saying, "Time heals all wounds" is untrue and what you actually need to heal
the many other types of grief outside of loss of a loved one that most people are have experienced at some point in their lives
the unhealthy expectations our culture has created around grieving and what we should really be doing instead
how she uses her gifts of a Type 7 in her grief recovery work with clients

For anyone needing to process grief of any kind - a loss, a move, a career change, a relationship change, etc. Olivia hosts grief recovery groups and works with clients 1:1 to process in a healthy, healing way.
Learn more about her work and reach out with any questions about grief and how she can help you process and heal.
Website: iamoliviamyles.com
Instagram: @iamoliviamyles Facebook: Olivia Myles
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