Not Everything Needs to Be A Thing: Discerning Between Tension & a True Issue in Marriage: Episode 330

02/13/24 • 30 min

The scenario is that your partner makes a comment, you sense they are a little irritated. They may very well have a frustration but have expressed it with a mild (level 2) upset. Yet you are not in a conflict or argument. But as you talk back and forth, you start giving explanations and justifications and an early onset of defensiveness starts to create a divide. This is a critical moment where you could even say to each other “this doesn’t have to become a thing ...”

Often these moments are not handled properly and now it does turn into something. You have this energy between you and your partner that for many can cause you to go do your own separate things and even have you ruin/cancel plans you had together for the evening. We have heard this happens for date nights, and even Valentine's Day plans, which happens to be tomorrow from when this podcast came out.

This episode is about how to discern between tension and a true issue in marriage with 5 actions to take to “bounce back” faster.

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This episode is about how to discern between tension and a true issue in marriage with 5 actions to take to “bounce back” faster.

Resources:

Find all our other guides and resources here on our website resources page

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The Bare Minimum to Expect in a Marriage (from yourself): Episode 329

What is the bare minimum to expect in a marriage? You likely read that question and think about your expectations about your partner... However this is actually about what to expect from yourself!

There are a lot of social media comments on relationship posts that judge the portrayal of a partner. That shows that most people think about what changes a partner needs to make in order to better meet one’s own needs. But that is quite backward. In this episode you will hear 6 traits that are the bare minimum to expect within yourself if you want to be a good partner.

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3 Mistakes Men Make in Marriage: Episode 331

From the thousands of coaching sessions, DMs, and emails that we receive, we tend to see themes come up in marriage. You would be surprised to learn how common certain topics are for couples, that all seem to come up in the same weeks and months. We are not here to hypothesize about why that is, but just make these themes known.

Lately we have been noticing themes around men and mistakes they are making in marriage. These are not character flaws but just patterns of behavior that we see adding to the dynamics in marriage. Today you will hear from Aaron on this solo episode about the 3 mistakes men are making: Reserved, Responsibility, and Receptivity.

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