Unlocking Adaptability & Healing From Triggers for the Future - John Sanei of The Expansive - EP25

This episode is part 1 of a 2 part series with with The Expansive (https://theexpansive.com/) podcast. I had a great time hosting Erik and John - I know you will enjoy the episodes!

In this episode of the Dunamis EQ Leadership Podcast, we have the privilege of welcoming Erik Kruger to the show. Erik is here to discuss the process of dealing with the ending of something and the importance of being in the wilderness for inner reorientation.

Erik shares his insights on the necessary closure that comes with endings and how being in the wilderness is a time of reconfiguring one's identity. He emphasizes that this period of inner reorientation is crucial and explains how people who have just ended a long-term relationship may not be interested in dating again during this time.

A key theme throughout the episode is the role of emotional intelligence in choosing how we respond to various stimuli. Erik dives into the importance of self-awareness, understanding our patterns, beliefs, and triggers, and using that knowledge to modulate our interactions with others. He highlights the significance of considering the impact of our words and behaviors on those around us.

They explore the art of being a good host and creating a space where individuals can feel heard and understood. They delve into the concept of the wilderness and how it can be relevant and comforting, especially in challenging times like the COVID pandemic.

Erik, who works with high performers, also shares his desire to find a way to accelerate the process of going through the wilderness effectively. While acknowledging that trying to rush through it is not the point, they discuss the importance of embracing each phase of the wilderness, as each serves a specific purpose.

Throughout the episode, Erik emphasizes the significance of receiving input and feedback from others. They stress that self-awareness practices can only take a person so far and that being open to feedback without getting upset or feeling inferior is key to growth.

The conversation takes an introspective turn as Erik reflects on their own journey of reinvention. They discuss the challenges of leaving behind past identities, communities, and expectations. Erik shares personal experiences of navigating through the periods of turmoil that come with transitioning from one phase of life to another.

In sharing their own story, Erik touches on the difficulty of changing one's perception of oneself and how reinvention requires letting go of old identities, both externally and internally. They speak to the challenges of breaking free from the boxes others try to fit us into and finding acceptance in our ever-evolving selves.

As the episode progresses, Erik delves into their work with leaders and teams, discussing the importance of adaptability and change in the modern world. They talk about the necessity of developing change as a skill rather than expecting it to happen naturally.

The conversation concludes with insights into triggers and their potential to ignite both negativity and curiosity or opportunity. Erik shares personal anecdotes about triggers in their own life and how they've come to recognize and harness them for growth.

Overall, this episode with Erik Kruger provides a wealth of knowledge and wisdom for listeners. It offers a deep dive into topics such as endings, emotional intelligence, reinvention, and the role of triggers in personal and professional growth. Tune in and discover valuable insights for your own leadership journey.