Don't Mom Alone Podcast

I love Kirk’s realistic approach to parenting. He understands what your home dynamics are like. And gives practical tips. After listening to today’s episode you will have at least three different “tricks” to apply.

Most of all, I’m thankful for the new perspective he has given me. Kirk helped me recognize how emotionally invested I was in my boys’ behavior and freed me from the need to regulate their behavior for them.

The last couple days I’ve enjoyed the boys more. I’m also less tense and frustrated when we are out in public. In fact, I may need to go back and listen to this episode more than once, so it sticks!

This episode originally aired in May of 2015

Kirk came back on the show multiple times. Check out additional episodes here.

• Kirk’s realization that he needed to focus on his own behavior and stop trying to fix his son’s strong-willed behavior.
• The switch he made from training 1500 kids in his home to training parents to calm themselves.
• The one thing you can do today to de-escalate a tense situation in your home.
• How to calmly handle your child’s meltdown

I can only control one person in life, and that’s me.

• How motion changes emotion–helping little ones calm down b/c they don’t know how to “think” their way out.
• What to do in the middle of Target aisle 3 when your child freaks out
• Handling a tantruming child when his siblings are fighting and another needs help with homework and dinner is cooking (Heather’s daily 5 pm reality).

If you don’t care enough about yourself, to take care of yourself physically, emotionally, spiritually. . .why would anyone else care?

• How sometimes parents want good behavior so badly, they are too invested in it and give children too much control.
• How to be an impartial giver of wisdom.
• Write down your emotional triggers & do the opposite of what you normally do.

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Tragedy struck and Paulette Franklin could have given up hope. Instead, she used it as a chance to “bring together the village of hope and help” from her extended family, namely her aunts, who lived both near and far. They rallied around Paulette and her boys through presence and connection. Make no mistake, single parenting was still hard work, but by clinging to her faith in God and the village around her, she and her boys thrived.

Though this bond with extended family was knitted together well before Paulette’s husband passed away, she had to let them in, she had to let them help. For Paulette’s middle son, DeVon, and his brothers, their aunts’ houses became places of refuge and connection that they still rely on to this day. DeVon and his aunts tell their compelling and encouraging story in his audiobook, It Takes a Woman, available now on Audible. Through the audiobook all of our villages are enlarged, all of their wisdom can be ours.

• Website: https://devonfranklin.com/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DeVonFranklinOfficial
• Instagram: @DeVonFranklin
• Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKqTVGX0BZGQ5xPX98ibb4g
• Twitter: @DeVonFranklin

• It Takes a Woman audiobook by DeVon Franklin
• Heather’s Interview with Jennifer Garner and Christy Beam (start at 32:20 mark)

• Be Vulnerable, Find Your People :: Jennie Allen [Ep 354]
• Mom, You are Important, but Not Essential, That’s Good News :: Brittany J. Turner [Ep 361]
• Truth for When You Feel Like a Bad Mom :: Jamie Ivey [Ep 339]

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Grief has been called the unwanted visitor - it shows up when you don’t want it and it often stays longer than we would want. In the midst of seasons of suffering or grieving it’s so easy to feel isolated and to be isolated, the weight of bringing our real selves into community feeling like another burden to bear. Whatever dreams we might have had of how our life we go or what it would look like for us to serve God and others seem to be an impossibility.

Meet my guest this week, Lindsey Wheeler. For over a decade Lindsay and her family have fought through her chronic illness and fought for her special needs daughter. She has felt the sting of isolation and the deep relief and joy of true community. In the midst of it all she has found a way to serve others and share God’s gentle love for them by sitting with them in their grief. Through her small business, Bottle of Tears (see discount code below), she reminds others they are seen in their grief - by her, by God, by a loved one that would send one of her precious vintage bottles.

• Website: https://www.bottleoftears.com
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• Instagram: @bottle_of_tears

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• Adopting Special Needs :: Candace and Alice [Ep 213]
• Life Giving Faith in Every Circumstance :: Lisa Appelo :: Summer of Mentorship Week 2
• Be Vulnerable, Find Your People :: Jennie Allen [Ep 354]

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The Bible tells of healings, miracles and the power of the Holy Spirit, but God’s power didn’t stop after the New Testament. Today’s guest Courtney Smallbone shares her personal story of God’s power in the hardest circumstances imaginable.

Supernatural healing is for today. Courtney’s story of finding freedom from anxiety and miraculous healing for her infant son is a powerful testimony of God’s faithfulness.

As moms we have a lot of fear and anxiety. We carry a lot. We have these little people that we’re in charge of and discipling. It gets exhausting and hard. I felt like the Lord just filled me with himself. He has given me not the spirit of fear, but love and power and a sound mind. I needed a sound mind when I was dealing with anxiety. He has given us power through his Holy Spirit and we can walk that out as moms in everyday life.

• Courtney’s testimony of seeing God move in her life and health
• How Courtney met her husband Luke Smallbone of For King and Country
• The impact of Luke’s autoimmune disease on Courtney and her family
• Dealing with anxiety and prescription medicine dependence
• Getting freedom from the shame and finding healing holistically
• The importance of community in the healing process
• Why the church needs to embrace a holistic approach to healing and helping people be open about sharing their struggles
• Courtney’s physical issues with her most recent pregnancy
• The miracle of her son’s healing
• Teaching our kids that prayer is powerful and effective and that God is real
• Worshipping with your children invites them into a lifestyle of worship
• Hearing God for others and the gift of the praying in the spirit

• “All who call on the name of the Lord will be saved.” Romans 10:13
• Lemierre’s Disease
• for KING & COUNTRY
• Compassion International
• Colitis
• Craniosynotosis
• “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.” 2 Timothy 1:7
• Bethel worship
• “Without You” (feat. Courtney)

Remember THAT viral video? You know, the one where the mom wears the Chewbacca mask? Her contagious laugh was heard all over the interwebs. Today my friend and vodcast host, Kay Wyma, and I are thrilled to chat with the one and only Chewbacca Mom, Candace Payne.

Listen in as Candace gives us a glimpse into more of her story. And talks about finding satisfying joy in all of life’s circumstances.

Happiness brings instant gratification based on things that happen to us... Joy’s that thing that satisfies and lasts beyond [circumstances].

• How joy informs who we are “behind the mask.”
• Finding joy in the little things... like a Chewbacca mask in the clearance aisle of Kohl’s.
• Overcoming adversity by choosing positivity.
• The two types of joy and where we can find true satisfaction.
• Changing a “never” list to an “always” list.
• Choosing hope over fear, and thriving even when the worst-case happens.
• What can happen when you stop living in anxiety.
• Fighting comparison, the frenemy of joy.

• “Laugh It Up!” by Candace Payne**
• When Your Wounded Soul Needs a Smiling God with Lisa Harper
• Kay Wyma and the SaySomething Show