Asexuality, Kink and Service Submission with Evie Lupine

11/02/22 • 51 min

In this episode, Hannah is joined by Evie Lupine, who is a professional kink and sex educator who has been involved in the BDSM lifestyle for over half a decade. Evie discusses how you can be asexual and into BDSM, how everyone connects to BDSM in a different way, and how kink can be a form of intimacy without being sexual. Evie and Hannah dig into the topic of compulsory sexuality and how it’s alienating for asexual people, and Evie talks aphobia, dating allosexual people when you’re asexual, and dealing with partners trying to push your boundaries. Evie discusses power play, how to engage in your kinks when you’re single, and the importance of working on your self-esteem and boundary skills as a submissive. Finally, Evie chats about her own kinks and identification as a submissive, why particular sexual dynamics can make people in and outside the BDSM community uncomfortable, and what she thinks about consensual non-consent play.
CW: discussion of consensual non consent.
✨MORE ABOUT EVIE LUPINE✨
Evie Lupine is a professional kink & sex educator who has been involved in the BDSM lifestyle for over half a decade. She is most well-known for her YouTube channel of the same name where she focuses on teaching people about relationships, asexuality and kink at all levels of experience. She also discusses pop culture topics through a consent culture framework, and enjoys helping everyone build happier, healthier relationships.
- YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHExB-d5s0zBcbsaHEUy91Q
- Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/EvieLupine
- Twitter: https://twitter.com/evielupine
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Sex Lives of African Women and Raising a Body-Positive Daughter with Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah

In this episode, Hannah is joined by Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah, who is the author of Sex Lives of African Women and the co-founder of Adventures from the Bedrooms of African Women. Nana discusses the breadth of sexual identities and experiences across Africa, and how her book is challenging narrow stereotypes of African women. Nan and Hannah chat about how African women often feel pigeonholed into conversations that don’t represent their personal female sexual pleasure, how the book offers new perspectives on polygamy, and why Nana wanted to put these stories about African women and sex into the world. Finally, Nana speaks about her own journey with sexuality and pleasure as a queer woman as well as raising a body positive daughter and the importance of communal parenting.
CW: mentions of miscarriage and FGM
✨MORE ABOUT NANA DARKOA SEKYIAMAH✨
Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah is the author of The Sex Lives of African Women, which Publishers Weekly described as “an astonishing report on the quest for sexual liberation” in their starred review. It was also listed by The Economist as a best book of the year. She is also co-founder of Adventures from the Bedrooms of African Women, a website, podcast and festival that publishes and creates content that tells stories of African women’s experiences around sex, sexualities, and pleasure.
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Trans People in Elite Sport and Testosterone Myths with Dr Veronica Ivy

In this episode, Hannah is joined by Dr Veronica Ivy, who is an interdisciplinary scholar and professional athlete. Veronica talks about what it’s like navigating the sporting world as a trans woman, the recent increase in transphobia in sports, and what she means by sport being a human right. She debunks so many myths around hormones, trans people, and performance, and shares perspective on how the socialisation of children of different genders impacts their sports performance. Finally, Hannah and Veronica discuss the misogynoir directed towards Black female athletes and how cis athletes can be effective allies.
CW: discussions of transphobia
✨MORE ABOUT DR VERONICA IVY✨
Dr. Veronica Ivy is an interdisciplinary scholar who has published widely on topics of knowledge, language, gender, and issues of equity (particularly in sport). She is a world-leading expert on trans and intersex athlete rights and offers institutional diversity and inclusion training workshops. Veronica has penned articles for New York Times, Washington Post, Economist, NBC News, VICE, and many more. She has appeared on major TV, radio, and podcast interviews to discuss trans issues and particularly trans and intersex athlete rights, including CNN, BBC, SKY, and The Daily Show.
In addition to her academic work, she is a two-time masters track cycling world champion and previous masters world-record holder. Dr. Ivy also happens to be a queer trans woman. She is the first known trans woman to win a track cycling world championship.
Veronica also engages in advocacy and activism for trans and intersex athletes. Her message is that #SportIsAHumanRight. Ivy brings a unique perspective of being an academic, an athlete, and an activist to her work. She advises various national and international organizations including the International Olympic Committee.
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