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Diary, She Wrote - Series 2, Ep. 10 - Another Blood Test

Series 2, Ep. 10 - Another Blood Test

08/16/20 • 34 min

Diary, She Wrote

Having spent time dating Jack, which had been the closest thing to a relationship for me in 5 years. It had made me realise that when I do meet the right person, it’s likely I will want kids to be part of our future. There is endless research you can do when it comes to learning about the fertility of women at various stages of their life. But The British Fertility Society says that ‘At birth, most girls have about 2 million eggs, at adolescence that number has gone down to about 400,000 and at age 37 there remain about 25,000. As I was approaching 36 I made the decision to use my savings to freeze my eggs.

And by no means is freezing your eggs a guarantee of conception, but it does act as a little security blanket. For me, the entire process lasted about 4 months, my clinic closely monitored my menstrual cycles, there were endless blood tests and scans, they prescribed the relevant medication to first get my hormones to the optimum level and to then stimulate my egg growth. I had to inject my own medication and the closer it got to my egg removal date, the more I had to do, some days I’d have 2 blood tests and I’d do 3 injections at various points throughout the day. It was an upheaval on my body, both physically and mentally.

Reading back it was quite a tricky time to reflect on, I was suddenly acutely aware and envious of my friends developing family situations and I think this was one of the loneliest points of my 30’s and where my desire to meet someone was at its peak.

The episode is taken from a 5 month period from Sept 2017 - Feb 2018. You will hear me repeat the last day from Episode 1 - Dexter Turner as the stories cross over the same time period.

Follow Instagram for more extracts from my Diaries: https://www.instagram.com/diaryshewrote/

Key Characters:

Jack - An amazing man who I dated for 2 months

Beth - My best mate

Willow - One of my best mates who I met in my single years

Grace - One of my best mates who I met in my single years

Dawn, Tim - Some of my oldest friends

Simone, Faith, Heather, Chloe, Mel - London friends

Mum - Family

Todd - A guy I dated

Dexter Turner - A guy who briefly entered and quickly exited my life on a number of occasions and unjustifiably has become one of those people who is hard to shake off and annoyingly someone I’m quite fond of.

Locations:

Columbia Road Flower Market
http://www.columbiaroad.info/

Wilton’s Music Hall
https://www.wiltons.org.uk/

Crooked Billet
https://e5crookedbillet.co.uk/

Prince George
https://theprincegeorgepub.co.uk/

House of Hackney
https://www.houseofhackney.com/

Goodhood
https://goodhoodstore.com/

Cultural References:

Grenfell Tower
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-40301289

International Women’s Day
https://www.internationalwomensday.com/

Entertainment References:

Notting Hill Carnival
https://www.thelondonnottinghillcarnival.com/

Happn
https://www.happn.com/en/

Les Enfants Terribles:
https://lesenfantsterribles.co.uk/

Three Billboards Outside Ebbing Missouri
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Three_Billboards_Outside_Ebbing,_Missouri

Medical References:

ARGC Egg Freezing Clinic:
https://argc.co.uk/

Chlamydia
https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/chlamydia/

STI
https://www.nhs.uk/live-well/sexual-health/visiting-an-sti-clinic/

AMH:
https://www.createfertility.co.uk/fertility-diagnosis/amh

NHS:
https://www.nhs.uk/

IVF Treatment
https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/ivf/availability/

Diary, She Wrote was produced by Liz Beardsell in partnership with Bird Lime Media with original music by Ethan Illingworth.

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Having spent time dating Jack, which had been the closest thing to a relationship for me in 5 years. It had made me realise that when I do meet the right person, it’s likely I will want kids to be part of our future. There is endless research you can do when it comes to learning about the fertility of women at various stages of their life. But The British Fertility Society says that ‘At birth, most girls have about 2 million eggs, at adolescence that number has gone down to about 400,000 and at age 37 there remain about 25,000. As I was approaching 36 I made the decision to use my savings to freeze my eggs.

And by no means is freezing your eggs a guarantee of conception, but it does act as a little security blanket. For me, the entire process lasted about 4 months, my clinic closely monitored my menstrual cycles, there were endless blood tests and scans, they prescribed the relevant medication to first get my hormones to the optimum level and to then stimulate my egg growth. I had to inject my own medication and the closer it got to my egg removal date, the more I had to do, some days I’d have 2 blood tests and I’d do 3 injections at various points throughout the day. It was an upheaval on my body, both physically and mentally.

Reading back it was quite a tricky time to reflect on, I was suddenly acutely aware and envious of my friends developing family situations and I think this was one of the loneliest points of my 30’s and where my desire to meet someone was at its peak.

The episode is taken from a 5 month period from Sept 2017 - Feb 2018. You will hear me repeat the last day from Episode 1 - Dexter Turner as the stories cross over the same time period.

Follow Instagram for more extracts from my Diaries: https://www.instagram.com/diaryshewrote/

Key Characters:

Jack - An amazing man who I dated for 2 months

Beth - My best mate

Willow - One of my best mates who I met in my single years

Grace - One of my best mates who I met in my single years

Dawn, Tim - Some of my oldest friends

Simone, Faith, Heather, Chloe, Mel - London friends

Mum - Family

Todd - A guy I dated

Dexter Turner - A guy who briefly entered and quickly exited my life on a number of occasions and unjustifiably has become one of those people who is hard to shake off and annoyingly someone I’m quite fond of.

Locations:

Columbia Road Flower Market
http://www.columbiaroad.info/

Wilton’s Music Hall
https://www.wiltons.org.uk/

Crooked Billet
https://e5crookedbillet.co.uk/

Prince George
https://theprincegeorgepub.co.uk/

House of Hackney
https://www.houseofhackney.com/

Goodhood
https://goodhoodstore.com/

Cultural References:

Grenfell Tower
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-40301289

International Women’s Day
https://www.internationalwomensday.com/

Entertainment References:

Notting Hill Carnival
https://www.thelondonnottinghillcarnival.com/

Happn
https://www.happn.com/en/

Les Enfants Terribles:
https://lesenfantsterribles.co.uk/

Three Billboards Outside Ebbing Missouri
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Three_Billboards_Outside_Ebbing,_Missouri

Medical References:

ARGC Egg Freezing Clinic:
https://argc.co.uk/

Chlamydia
https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/chlamydia/

STI
https://www.nhs.uk/live-well/sexual-health/visiting-an-sti-clinic/

AMH:
https://www.createfertility.co.uk/fertility-diagnosis/amh

NHS:
https://www.nhs.uk/

IVF Treatment
https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/ivf/availability/

Diary, She Wrote was produced by Liz Beardsell in partnership with Bird Lime Media with original music by Ethan Illingworth.

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undefined - Series 2, Ep. 9 - Hold My Hand

Series 2, Ep. 9 - Hold My Hand

When you are in your mid thirties and you meet someone of a similar age who is at the same stage of their life as you; i.e. not newly single, they’ve have had some fun dating, they’re looking for a relationship and dating them is going well, it’s really fucking hard to just enjoy it for what it is, stop your mind running away to the future and just let the relationship develop at a normal pace.

You are aware that this is a rare occurrence, in your eyes and for your needs, you have met a good one. From 2013 - 2017, out of the hundreds of first dates I went on, I liked maybe 10% of them, so if they also liked me, they turned into second dates, and maybe 10% of those second dates turned into third dates which leaves a very small handful of people who I have genuinely liked and they have liked me in return and therefore I have wanted to potentially develop a relationship with. This story is about one of those people.

Follow Instagram for more extracts from my Diaries: https://www.instagram.com/diaryshewrote/

Key Characters:

Jack - An amazing man who I dated for 2 months

Beth - My best mate

Rowan - One of my best mates who I met in my single years

Willow - One of my best mates who I met in my single years

Grace - One of my best mates who I met in my single years

Caitlin, Ollie, Mandy, Gavin, Tim, Chloe, Mary, Flossie - London friends

Brother, Mum, Dad - Family

Liam - A guy I dated

Stephen Minder - An uncomfortable encounter before #metoo

George - An amazing man who I dated for 3 months

Dexter Turner - A guy who briefly entered and quickly exited my life on a number of occasions and unjustifiably has become one of those people who is hard to shake off and annoyingly someone I’m quite fond of.

Locations:

Beyond Retro
https://www.beyondretro.com/

Pelicans and Parrots
https://pelicansandparrots.com/

John Salt Pub
https://www.john-salt.com/

The Gun
http://www.thegunwellstreet.com/

Chesham Arms
http://www.cheshamarms.com/

Yard Sale Pizza
https://yardsalepizza.com/

Osea Island
https://www.oseaisland.co.uk/

Uchi
http://uchihackney.com/

Clapton Hart
https://claptonhart.com/

Millfields
https://www.millfieldscoffee.co.uk/

Behind This Wall
https://www.behindthiswall.com/

Bonneville
No closed

Pamelas
https://pamelabar.com/

Groucho Club
https://www.thegrouchoclub.com/

Hampstead Heath
https://www.hampsteadheath.net/

Cultural References:

Ariana Grande Concert
https://www.manchestereveningnews.co.uk/news/greater-manchester-news/manchester-bombing-live-updates-latest-13075807

Entertainment References:

Fyre Festival
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/newsbeat-46904445

GIRLS
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Girls_(TV_series)

Guardian Soulmates
https://www.theguardian.com/help/insideguardian/2020/jul/01/guardian-soulmates-has-come-to-an-end

Design Museum, California Exhibition
https://designmuseum.org/exhibitions/california-designing-freedom

Darren Miller
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Darren_Miller

Baby Driver
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Baby_Driver

Visions Festival
http://visionsfestival.com/

SOPHIE
https://msmsmsm.com/

This Is England
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/This_Is_England

My Girl
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/My_Girl_(film)

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undefined - Series 2, Ep. 11 - 1999

Series 2, Ep. 11 - 1999

On 31st December 1998 I met a guy called Macey from the year above me at school. I go on to talk about Macey for 116 of the 365 days of 1999. If I heard he was going out, I would go out, I would sit at home imagining he would call my landline, despite him not having my phone number, I learnt his lesson plan and knew that when I walked along the school path between my Psychology and Art classes I would pass him. Every time I would prepare myself to look up, lock eye contact and smile, it’s a simple concept, it makes you look more attractive, but, every time I would fail.

Macey plays a big role in this story, but this is really all about a 17 year old who wants to be noticed, I wanted people to call me pretty, I wanted people to describe me as fun, I wanted people to recognise how hard I worked, I wanted to be rewarded with the role of house captain for my sporting achievements, I wanted to be patted on the back for organising a charity fashion show, and embarrassingly I wanted people to notice my family's wealth.

As I’m 17 I am lazy and use the word ‘cos’ instead of ‘because,’ my writing is quite chaotic and I am also very unaware of my white privilege. I was brought up in a white middle class area, a bubble of security. I’m ashamed to say I thought it was normal to live in a semi detached house, to have annual family holidays, to never have to think about where the next meal was coming from. When I went to university I began to understand that this was not the case, but it still took me a good 10 years to really start to unpick this. I’ve learnt from friends I’ve met along the way, I’ve learnt from reading, listening, following activists and I still have a lot to learn.

Follow Instagram for more extracts from my Diaries: https://www.instagram.com/diaryshewrote/

Key Characters:

Macey - My school crush

Beth - My best mate

Lily, Holly, Georgie, Ashley, Erica, Susie, Ben - Some of my oldest friends

Polly - A friend at school

Mum, Dad - Family

Annabelle - Macey’s school crush

Kev - Another school crush

Locations:

Wetherspoons Cheadle Hulme
https://www.greatukpubs.co.uk/kings-tap-cheadle-hulme?utm_source=google&utm_medium=local_seo_gmb&utm_content=website

Governors House
https://www.greeneking-pubs.co.uk/pubs/cheshire/governors-house/

Zest, Wilmslow
Now closed down

Surrey Institute of Art & Design
https://www.uca.ac.uk/

Bar Med, Manchester
Now closed down

Pizza Express
https://www.pizzaexpress.com/

Renaissance
Now closed down

Cultural References:

UCAS
https://www.ucas.com/

Entertainment References:

Saving Private Ryan
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Saving_Private_Ryan

Shakespeare In Love
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shakespeare_in_Love

There’s Something About Mary
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/There's_Something_About_Mary

Prince, 1999
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/1999_(Prince_album)

S Club 7
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/S_Club_7

Five
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Five_(group)

Seven
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seven_(1995_film)

Robbie Williams
https://www.robbiewilliams.com/

White Men Can’t Jump
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/White_Men_Can't_Jump

Bridge Over Troubled Water by Simon & Garfunkel
https://open.spotify.com/album/0JwHz5SSvpYWuuCNbtYZoV

Gatecrasher
https://www.gatecrasher.com/

Kylie Minogue
https://www.kylie.com/

Ally McBeal
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ally_McBeal

Now and Then
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Now_and_Then_(film)

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