Derate The Hate

Wilk Wilkinson

Bettering the world one attitude at a time. We did not create the hate, but together, we can Derate The Hate! In a world filled with divisiveness, and dominated by F.O.G. (Fear, Outrage & Grievance), it's time we find a better way to engage. That all starts with each of us as individuals. We cannot control all that we encounter within our day to day lives, or the environment in which we live, but we certainly have the ability and responsibility to control how we react to it. For me, it starts with gratitude and personal accountability. Take a listen and see if there is something here to help you in taking your part in turning down the hate. Welcome to the Derate The Hate Podcast...

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Empowering the Next Generation: Breaking Stereotypes and Building Bridges... DTH Episode 248 with Quay Hanna

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01/29/25 • 48 min

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Empowering the Next Generation: Breaking Stereotypes and Building Bridges
I’m excited to bring you an inspiring story of transformation and hope with this week's guest, Quay Hanna. Quay’s journey is one of those rare, raw tales that has the power to reshape perspectives. Back in the mid-90s, Quay was just another young man from rural Pennsylvania with preconceived notions and a limited view of the world. But that all changed when he embarked on a nine-week Greyhound bus journey across 37 states. What began as a simple cross-country trip turned into a life-altering experience, chronicled in his memoir Bus America: Revelation of a Redneck.

In the years since, Quay has taken his lessons from the road and transformed them into over 1,300 presentations across multiple countries, speaking with honesty and heart about the importance of understanding, diversity, and confronting stereotypes. His ability to connect with people of all backgrounds and bridge divides has made him a sought-after speaker and a passionate advocate for youth empowerment and community building.

Quay and I also share a common bond as fellow advisors on the ProHuman Foundation, an organization committed to fostering unity and human dignity. Today, we’ll dive into the profound insights he gained on his journey, discuss his work in education and youth empowerment, and explore how simple human connections can dismantle even the most entrenched prejudices.
Takeaways

A Greyhound bus trip opened Quay's eyes to his own prejudices.
Quay's experiences highlight the complexity of identity.
He learned that stereotypes often dictate behavior.
Quay's transformation was sparked by genuine interactions.
There is great importance in the understanding of others.
Ignorance can lead to fear, which breeds hate.
Quay's journal documented his evolving perspective. Personal connections can break down racial barriers.
Conversations can challenge our preconceived notions.
Empathy is key in understanding others.
Youth today crave genuine connections.
Education can bridge divides in society.
Prejudices can be challenged through shared experiences.
Community support is vital for youth empowerment.
Empowering youth can break cycles of poverty.

What have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you’ve got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be!

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Getting Below The Surface of Toxic Polarization... DTH Episode 189 with guest host Julian Adorney & Mark Johnson

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12/13/23 • 42 min

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Getting Below The Surface of Toxic Polarization
Human evolution in perspectives is a dynamic process shaped by experiences, education, and self-reflection. Individuals often display a tendency to forgive themselves swiftly for past views and mistakes, while adopting a less forgiving stance towards others. This discrepancy in standards suggests a complex interplay of ego, empathy, and self-awareness. It underscores the challenge of extending the same compassion to others that one grants oneself.

Responsibility for emotions and life experiences lies with individuals, highlighting the power of personal choices in shaping one's reactions to circumstances. Viktor Frankl's "Man's Search for Meaning" serves as a compelling example of how one can choose their response in the face of adversity and even horrific circumstance, emphasizing the profound impact of mindset on the human experience. The advice to avoid defining one's identity by fleeting thoughts underscores the importance of self-awareness and the recognition that personal growth involves transcending temporary perspectives.

Despite this potential for growth, individuals remain deeply influenced by their un-evolved brains, acknowledging the ongoing impact of instinctual and ingrained behaviors. The journey toward understanding and empathy requires a continual commitment to self-reflection, challenging ingrained biases, and embracing the capacity for personal evolution. Listen as my good friend and fellow Braver Angel Julian Adorney guest hosts, discussing these topics and more with Mark Johnson, getting below the surface of toxic polarization.
Who is Mark Johnson?

Mark is a men’s coach, business and relationship coach, facilitator, and wilderness guide with more than 20 years of experience helping people and companies grow. He has been part of The Undaunted Man since 2014, and its CFO since 2016. What have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us leading a better life. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you’ve got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be!

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Can Christians and Atheists Get Along? DTH Episode 190 guest host Julian Adorney and Angel Eduardo

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12/20/23 • 64 min

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Can Christians and Atheists Get Along?
Christians and Atheists often face roadblocks in understanding and accepting each other due to deeply ingrained differences in belief systems. One major obstacle is the perception of morality and purpose. Christians may view their faith as the ultimate source of moral guidance and purpose, while Atheists often derive their morality from secular humanism and find purpose in life without relying on religious frameworks. This is among many fundamental differences that can lead to misunderstandings and a lack of empathy, as each group may struggle to comprehend the basis for the other's ethical principles. So, can Christians and atheists get along?

To foster better understanding and recognize the shared humanity between Christians and Atheists, it is essential to engage in open and respectful dialogue. Both parties can benefit from actively listening to each other's perspectives without judgment, seeking common ground in shared values such as compassion, kindness, and the pursuit of a just society. Emphasizing the shared human experience, focusing on similarities rather than differences, and acknowledging the diversity within both belief systems can help bridge the gap and foster a more inclusive and tolerant environment where individuals from different backgrounds can coexist harmoniously. Listen as guest host Julian Adorney and our mutual friend Angel Eduardo model such a conversation. What some may refer to as a difficult conversation, done with fearless curiosity, the way it should be done.
Guest Host Julian Adorney and Angel Eduardo
Julian Adorney is an author and speaker focused on preserving and rebuilding the West against the threats of illiberalism and affective polarization. He's written for Quillette, Queer Majority, National Review, the Foundation Against Intolerance and Racism (FAIR) and a few other sites; and is on the Braver Angels media team. He's the founder of Heal the West, a substack movement.
Angel Eduardo is a writer, musician, photographer, and designer based in New York City, best-known for coining and promoting the rhetorical concept of star-manning. He works as Senior Writer & Editor for the Foundation for Individual Rights and Expression (FIRE), and serves on the Board of Directors for the Foundation Against Intolerance

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Reviving a Sense of Community... DTH Episode 194 with Harry C. Boyte

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01/17/24 • 47 min

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Reviving a sense of community and reflecting on his time working with Martin Luther King Jr.
Martin Luther King Jr.'s message was rooted in uplifting the people and organizing Americans for a better sense of community. He passionately advocated for equality, justice, and unity, envisioning a society where individuals transcended racial and social divides to stand together in solidarity. King's powerful speeches, such as his iconic "I Have a Dream" address, emphasized the importance of love, understanding, and nonviolent resistance in pursuing a more harmonious society. His vision was about civil rights and fostering a collective spirit that could bring about positive change and create a stronger, more inclusive community where all people could excel and thrive no matter their background.

In this fascinating conversation, Harry joins Wilk to discuss:

How his father’s time with the Red Cross resulted in both Harry and his father working with Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. and the S.C.L.C.
Run-ins with the KKK and other white supremacists.
The difference between the philosophies of pacifism and non-violence.
“Operation Dialogue” and the Citizenship Schools programs of the Southern Christian Leadership Conference
Finding the divine and humanity in all people.
Book: “If Your Back’s Not Bent” by Dorothy Cotton
Movie “Best of Enemies”
Our Christian faith & of course the common cause work we do with the organization Braver Angels

Who are Harry Boyte?
Harry C. Boyte is a co-founder of the Institute for Public Life and Work and Senior Scholar of Public Work Philosophy at the Institute and also at Augsburg University in Minneapolis, MN. He founded and for 20 years directed and co-directed the Center for Democracy and Citizenship (CDC) at the University of Minnesota’s Humphrey School of Public Affairs. As a young man he worked in the citizenship schools sponsored by SCLC, Martin Luther King Jr.’s organization.
Learn more about and connect with Harry Boyte online:
website: https://www.iplw.org/

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Recognizing and Overcoming Narcissistic Abuse... DTH Episode 202 with Dana Diaz

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03/13/24 • 47 min

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Recognizing and Overcoming Narcissistic Abuse

In this episode, host Wilk Wilkinson is joined by Dana Diaz, author of the book "Gasping for Air", to discuss narcissistic abuse. They explore the insidious nature of narcissistic abuse and how it gradually escalates over time. Dana shares her personal experience with narcissistic abuse and the challenges of confronting the reality of the abuse. They also discuss the ongoing hate and judgment that survivors of narcissistic abuse often face. The episode concludes with a quiz that Dana has created to help listeners determine if they are dealing with narcissistic abuse.
Takeaways

Narcissistic abuse is a serious issue that can occur in personal relationships, childhood, and divorce.
Recognizing the signs of narcissistic abuse is crucial in order to protect oneself and seek help.
Sharing personal stories of narcissistic abuse can help raise awareness and support others who may be going through similar experiences.
Listening to one's gut instincts and setting boundaries is important in dealing with narcissistic abuse.

Who is Dana S. Diaz?
Dana S. Diaz studied journalism and psychology at DePaul University. While there’s no better teacher than life experience and Dana has had life-long experiences with narcissistic abuse, her education did give her the ability to accurately verbalize and express how narcissistic abuse creates confusion and conflict within victims. Today, Dana is a proud voice for fellow victims who are unable, afraid, or ashamed to share their experiences. She strives to create awareness and understanding to ensure victims are given the support they need to first understand their situation and then begin the healing process. Her first book, chronicling her own abusive marriage that lasted nearly three decades, started as a journal that she hid under the couch cushion in the basement.
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Listening & Being Heard While Talkin Politics and Religion... DTH Episode 206 with Corey Nathan

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04/10/24 • 57 min

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What is the formula for Listening AND Being Heard When Talkin' Politics and Religion?

In this episode, Wilk Wilkinson and Corey Nathan discuss the importance of having conversations about politics and religion without resorting to personal attacks. They emphasize the need to approach these conversations with openness and curiosity, seeking to understand the other person's perspective rather than trying to convince them to change their beliefs. The conversation covers topics such as confirmation bias, echo chambers, active listening, and recognizing our common humanity. They also highlight the value of nurturing relationships and making people feel heard and valued. The episode emphasizes the importance of attacking positions, not people, and separating personal identity from political or religious beliefs. The conversation explores the importance of effective communication and understanding in divisive times. It emphasizes the need to separate individuals from their beliefs and to avoid making assumptions based on identity or political affiliation. The guests discuss the dangers of identitarianism and the need to prioritize relationships over winning debates. They also highlight the importance of recognizing biases and being open-minded in conversations. The conversation concludes with a call to bridge divides and prioritize understanding.
Takeaways

Approach conversations about politics and religion with openness and curiosity, seeking to understand the other person's perspective.
Recognize the dangers of confirmation bias and echo chambers, and actively seek out diverse viewpoints.
Practice active listening and reflect back to the other person to show that you understand their position.
Recognize and value the common humanity in others, even if they have different political or religious beliefs.
Attack positions, not people, and separate personal identity from political or religious beliefs.
Nurture relationships and make people feel heard and valued in conversations. Separate individuals from their beliefs and avoid making assumptions based on identity or political affiliation.
Prioritize relationships over winning debates and focus on understanding.
Recognize biases and be open-minded in conversations.
Bridge divides and prioritize understanding to foster a healt

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Teetering on a Tightrope, A Courageous Bipolar Journey... DTH Episode 212 with Steve W. Wilson

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05/22/24 • 40 min

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Teetering on a Tightrope, A Courageous Bipolar Journey
In this episode, host Wilk Wilkinson is joined by author Steve W. Wilson to discuss his book, "Teetering on a Tightrope, My Bipolar Journey". They explore the severe mental health crisis in the US, particularly the challenges faced by those with bipolar disorder. Steve shares his traumatic childhood experience of being sexually assaulted and how it may have contributed to his mental health struggles. They discuss the two types of bipolar disorder and the depth of depressive episodes. They also highlight the inadequate support from insurance companies and the government, as well as the importance of mental health support groups and the increasing mental health issues among younger generations.
Takeaways

There is a severe mental health crisis in the US, with around 50 million Americans suffering from mental illness.
Bipolar disorder has two types: bipolar 1, characterized by extreme manic and depressive episodes, and bipolar 2, which involves severe depression.
Support is crucial for those with mental health issues, and it is important to provide unconditional support rather than trying to fix or change them.
Insurance companies and the government often fail to provide adequate resources and timely help for mental health issues.
Mental health support groups play a vital role in providing support and combating isolation and loneliness.
Younger generations are facing increasing mental health issues due to societal pressures, bullying, and the internet.
Kindness, understanding, and compassion can significantly impact those struggling with mental health challenges.

Chapters
00:00 Exploring the Severe Mental Health Crisis in the US
09:06 Understanding Bipolar Disorder and Depressive Episodes
12:41 The Importance of Support for Mental Health Issues
15:06 Inadequate Support from Insurance Companies and the Government
22:38 The Increasing Mental Health Issues Among Younger Generations
28:18 The Power of Kindness and Compassion in Mental Health
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A Unique Way To Recognize and Make Our Emotions Work For Us...DTH Episode 218 with Kim Korte

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07/03/24 • 35 min

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A Unique Way To Recognize and Make Our Emotions Work For Us
Today we’re diving deep into the flavorful world of emotions with our incredible guest, Kim Korte. If you’ve ever wondered how to navigate your reactions and interactions with others more effectively, you’re in for a treat!

Kim and I will be exploring the fascinating idea that our emotions are like flavors – think yucky, yummy, savory, and sweet. By understanding and distinguishing these emotional flavors, we can gain more control over our responses and make our interactions smoother and more meaningful.

We’ll also challenge some preconceived notions and talk about the importance of keeping an open mind. Personal growth is all about embracing new experiences and perspectives, and Kim’s insights from her book, 'Yucky Yummy Savory Sweet: Understanding the Flavors of Our Emotions,' are sure to inspire you.

So, get ready to discover the power of emotional awareness and learn how recognizing and managing your emotions can lead to positive change and better relationships. Stay tuned, because this conversation is packed with insights that you won't want to miss!"
Takeaways

Emotional awareness is crucial for understanding and managing our reactions and interactions with others.
Our emotions are like flavors, and by distinguishing and understanding them, we can have more control over our responses.
Challenging preconceived notions and being open to new experiences and perspectives is essential for personal growth.
Recognizing and managing our emotions can lead to positive change and better relationships.

Learn more about and connect with Kim Korte by checking out the full show notes for this episode at www.DerateTheHate.com.

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Episode 16: Memories, Make Them Good

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08/07/20 • 13 min

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Welcome back my friends! Wilk here again from WilksWorld.com with Episode 16 of our #DerateTheHate podcast talking about not only making good memories, but more importantly, sharing those good times in life on Facebook so when they pop up as memories one, two or several years down the road, you have something good to look back on instead of all the negativity.
We may be living through some of the most turbulent times in human history, and my beautiful wife made a fantastic point the other day in a post on Facebook. As anyone who is a regular listener knows, or who has read some of my blog at WilksOpinion.com, I oftentimes refer to social media as a dumpster fire of Hate, Lies and Misinformation. My wife's post from the other day speaks for itself and read as follows:
"My little guy!...where does the time go? I love these memories and posts that remind me of times years ago and looking back on them.

He is now 11 and, right now, is with his scout patrol working on balloon rockets in the park. While I sit here and watch the young man I’m raising, and watching other families playing with their children, I can’t help but be thankful for theses little reminders that pop up every day.

There is a reason I don’t post anything about our current state of affairs, political and/or virus related. I see my own relatives and friends going fist for fist arguing about who is right or wrong and why. I frankly can’t stand it and I don’t even look at their posts anymore.

A year from now, two years, five..I want to see memories with my children, my husband and my family. I look forward to these memories and posts year to year!

Are you looking forward to yours?"
With that I'm going to say, when you can get back out among each other, be kind to one another, be grateful for everything you've got, and make each and every day the day that you want it to be! We'll catch you next week...

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Thanksgiving, a Time For Gratitude... Replay of DTH Classic Episode 53

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11/22/23 • 25 min

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Thanksgiving, a Time For Gratitude
Thanksgiving serves as a poignant reminder that gratitude should not be confined to a single day but embraced every day. This special occasion, however, magnifies the importance of acknowledging and appreciating the blessings in our lives. Beyond the festive feast and familial gatherings, Thanksgiving cultivates a spirit of thankfulness that ideally extends into our daily routines. It prompts reflection on the multitude of reasons to be grateful, encouraging a mindset where appreciation becomes a constant companion. In essence, while Thanksgiving provides a dedicated moment for gratitude, it serves as a catalyst for fostering an ongoing attitude of thankfulness in our hearts, reminding us to cherish life's abundant gifts each day.
For the full show notes for Episode 53, Click the link below:
https://deratethehate.com/episodes/episode-53-attitude-of-gratitude-and-personal-accountability-challenge-1-year-anniversary-episode-448What have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us leading a better life. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you’ve got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be!

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Derate The Hate currently has 271 episodes available.

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The podcast is about Health & Fitness, Happiness, Society & Culture, Accountability, Mental Health, Wisdom, Podcasts and Gratitude.

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The episode title 'Humility & Free Speech Are Fundamental Prerequisites For Trust In Science... DTH Episode 174 with Dr. Jay Bhattacharya' is the most popular.

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The average episode length on Derate The Hate is 36 minutes.

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