Derate The Hate

Wilk Wilkinson

Bettering the world one attitude at a time. We did not create the hate, but together, we can Derate The Hate! In a world filled with divisiveness, and dominated by F.O.G. (Fear, Outrage & Grievance), it's time we find a better way to engage. That all starts with each of us as individuals. We cannot control all that we encounter within our day to day lives, or the environment in which we live, but we certainly have the ability and responsibility to control how we react to it. For me, it starts with gratitude and personal accountability. Take a listen and see if there is something here to help you in taking your part in turning down the hate. Welcome to the Derate The Hate Podcast...

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Empowering the Next Generation: Breaking Stereotypes and Building Bridges... DTH Episode 248 with Quay Hanna

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01/29/25 • 48 min

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Empowering the Next Generation: Breaking Stereotypes and Building Bridges
I’m excited to bring you an inspiring story of transformation and hope with this week's guest, Quay Hanna. Quay’s journey is one of those rare, raw tales that has the power to reshape perspectives. Back in the mid-90s, Quay was just another young man from rural Pennsylvania with preconceived notions and a limited view of the world. But that all changed when he embarked on a nine-week Greyhound bus journey across 37 states. What began as a simple cross-country trip turned into a life-altering experience, chronicled in his memoir Bus America: Revelation of a Redneck.

In the years since, Quay has taken his lessons from the road and transformed them into over 1,300 presentations across multiple countries, speaking with honesty and heart about the importance of understanding, diversity, and confronting stereotypes. His ability to connect with people of all backgrounds and bridge divides has made him a sought-after speaker and a passionate advocate for youth empowerment and community building.

Quay and I also share a common bond as fellow advisors on the ProHuman Foundation, an organization committed to fostering unity and human dignity. Today, we’ll dive into the profound insights he gained on his journey, discuss his work in education and youth empowerment, and explore how simple human connections can dismantle even the most entrenched prejudices.
Takeaways

A Greyhound bus trip opened Quay's eyes to his own prejudices.
Quay's experiences highlight the complexity of identity.
He learned that stereotypes often dictate behavior.
Quay's transformation was sparked by genuine interactions.
There is great importance in the understanding of others.
Ignorance can lead to fear, which breeds hate.
Quay's journal documented his evolving perspective. Personal connections can break down racial barriers.
Conversations can challenge our preconceived notions.
Empathy is key in understanding others.
Youth today crave genuine connections.
Education can bridge divides in society.
Prejudices can be challenged through shared experiences.
Community support is vital for youth empowerment.
Empowering youth

What have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us as individuals. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you’ve got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be!

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Getting Below The Surface of Toxic Polarization... DTH Episode 189 with guest host Julian Adorney & Mark Johnson

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12/13/23 • 42 min

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Getting Below The Surface of Toxic Polarization
Human evolution in perspectives is a dynamic process shaped by experiences, education, and self-reflection. Individuals often display a tendency to forgive themselves swiftly for past views and mistakes, while adopting a less forgiving stance towards others. This discrepancy in standards suggests a complex interplay of ego, empathy, and self-awareness. It underscores the challenge of extending the same compassion to others that one grants oneself.

Responsibility for emotions and life experiences lies with individuals, highlighting the power of personal choices in shaping one's reactions to circumstances. Viktor Frankl's "Man's Search for Meaning" serves as a compelling example of how one can choose their response in the face of adversity and even horrific circumstance, emphasizing the profound impact of mindset on the human experience. The advice to avoid defining one's identity by fleeting thoughts underscores the importance of self-awareness and the recognition that personal growth involves transcending temporary perspectives.

Despite this potential for growth, individuals remain deeply influenced by their un-evolved brains, acknowledging the ongoing impact of instinctual and ingrained behaviors. The journey toward understanding and empathy requires a continual commitment to self-reflection, challenging ingrained biases, and embracing the capacity for personal evolution. Listen as my good friend and fellow Braver Angel Julian Adorney guest hosts, discussing these topics and more with Mark Johnson, getting below the surface of toxic polarization.
Who is Mark Johnson?

Mark is a men’s coach, business and relationship coach, facilitator, and wilderness guide with more than 20 years of experience helping people and companies grow. He has been part of The Undaunted Man since 2014, and its CFO since 2016. What have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us leading a better life. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you’ve got. Make each and every da

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Can Christians and Atheists Get Along? DTH Episode 190 guest host Julian Adorney and Angel Eduardo

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12/20/23 • 64 min

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Can Christians and Atheists Get Along?
Christians and Atheists often face roadblocks in understanding and accepting each other due to deeply ingrained differences in belief systems. One major obstacle is the perception of morality and purpose. Christians may view their faith as the ultimate source of moral guidance and purpose, while Atheists often derive their morality from secular humanism and find purpose in life without relying on religious frameworks. This is among many fundamental differences that can lead to misunderstandings and a lack of empathy, as each group may struggle to comprehend the basis for the other's ethical principles. So, can Christians and atheists get along?

To foster better understanding and recognize the shared humanity between Christians and Atheists, it is essential to engage in open and respectful dialogue. Both parties can benefit from actively listening to each other's perspectives without judgment, seeking common ground in shared values such as compassion, kindness, and the pursuit of a just society. Emphasizing the shared human experience, focusing on similarities rather than differences, and acknowledging the diversity within both belief systems can help bridge the gap and foster a more inclusive and tolerant environment where individuals from different backgrounds can coexist harmoniously. Listen as guest host Julian Adorney and our mutual friend Angel Eduardo model such a conversation. What some may refer to as a difficult conversation, done with fearless curiosity, the way it should be done.
Guest Host Julian Adorney and Angel Eduardo
Julian Adorney is an author and speaker focused on preserving and rebuilding the West against the threats of illiberalism and affective polarization. He's written for Quillette, Queer Majority, National Review, the Foundation Against Intolerance and Racism (FAIR) and a few other sites; and is on the Braver Angels media team. He's the founder of Heal the West, a substack movement.
Angel Eduardo is a writer, musician, photographer, and designer based in New York City, best-known for coining and promoting the rhetorical concept of star-manning. He works as Senior Writer & Editor for the Foundation for Individual Rights and Expression (FIRE), and serves on the Board of Dire

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Kill Our Errors Instead of Each Other... DTH Episode 193 with Jonathan Rauch

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01/10/24 • 56 min

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In the bustling marketplace of ideas, distinguishing truth from misinformation requires a nuanced approach that combines critical thinking, evidence-based analysis, and an openness to diverse perspectives. Engaging in conversations with individuals holding differing mindsets is crucial in this process. Interacting with a variety of opinions fosters a more comprehensive understanding of complex issues and challenges one's assumptions. Constructive dialogue not only exposes individuals to alternative viewpoints but also encourages the scrutiny of arguments, enabling a more informed evaluation of the information presented. By actively participating fully & fearlessly in curious conversations with diverse perspectives, we enhance our ability to sift through the noise and better navigate the complex landscape of our internet ecosystem.
Acquiring knowledge, weeding through misinformation & outrage bait, and being able to work through, by way of conversation, complex and controversial topics with people of differing mindsets than our own are just a few the the many things I discussed this week with my friend Jonathan Rauch.
Who is Jonathan Rauch?
JONATHAN RAUCH, a senior fellow at the Brookings Institution in Washington, is the author of eight books and many articles on public policy, culture, and government. He is a contributing writer for The Atlantic and recipient of the 2005 National Magazine Award, the magazine industry’s equivalent of the Pulitzer Prize. His latest book, published in 2021 by the Brookings Press, is The Constitution of Knowledge: A Defense of Truth, a spirited and deep-diving account of how to push back against disinformation, canceling, and other new threats to our fact-based epistemic order.
Connect with Jonathan on (X): @jon_rauchWhat have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us leading a better life. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything

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Reviving a Sense of Community... DTH Episode 194 with Harry C. Boyte

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01/17/24 • 47 min

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Reviving a sense of community and reflecting on his time working with Martin Luther King Jr.
Martin Luther King Jr.'s message was rooted in uplifting the people and organizing Americans for a better sense of community. He passionately advocated for equality, justice, and unity, envisioning a society where individuals transcended racial and social divides to stand together in solidarity. King's powerful speeches, such as his iconic "I Have a Dream" address, emphasized the importance of love, understanding, and nonviolent resistance in pursuing a more harmonious society. His vision was about civil rights and fostering a collective spirit that could bring about positive change and create a stronger, more inclusive community where all people could excel and thrive no matter their background.

In this fascinating conversation, Harry joins Wilk to discuss:

How his father’s time with the Red Cross resulted in both Harry and his father working with Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. and the S.C.L.C.
Run-ins with the KKK and other white supremacists.
The difference between the philosophies of pacifism and non-violence.
“Operation Dialogue” and the Citizenship Schools programs of the Southern Christian Leadership Conference
Finding the divine and humanity in all people.
Book: “If Your Back’s Not Bent” by Dorothy Cotton
Movie “Best of Enemies”
Our Christian faith & of course the common cause work we do with the organization Braver Angels

Who are Harry Boyte?
Harry C. Boyte is a co-founder of the Institute for Public Life and Work and Senior Scholar of Public Work Philosophy at the Institute and also at Augsburg University in Minneapolis, MN. He founded and for 20 years directed and co-directed the Center for Democracy and Citizenship (CDC) at the University of Minnesota’s Humphrey School of Public Affairs. As a young man he worked in the citizenship schools sponsored by SCLC, Martin Luther King Jr.’s organization.
Learn more about and connect with Harry Boyte online:
website: https://www.iplw.org/

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Advocating for Unity & Personal Well Being... DTH Episode 197 with Jason Littlefield

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02/07/24 • 38 min

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Advocating for Unity & Personal Well-Being
Jason Littlefield is an impassioned educator and founder of EmpowerED Pathways. With over two decades of experience, he has influenced students and families globally, from Taiwan to Benin, Africa. Jason co-created the Empowered Humanity Theory, a dynamic framework for life, leadership, and learning. Through initiatives like EmpowerED Pathways and Free Black Thought, he advocates for unity and personal well-being, challenging prevailing ideologies and shaping a brighter future.
In this conversation, Jason joins me to discuss Empowered Pathways and the development of Empowered Humanity Theory. He explains the problems with collectivist political philosophy and the negative impact it has on social-emotional well-being. He introduces the three attitudes of Empowered Humanity Theory: valued-centered identity, dignity lens, and mindsets of inquiry and compassion. We also discuss the pathways to practice, including building awareness and equanimity, kindness and compassion for ourselves and others, and celebrating our common humanity. Our conversation concludes with Jason sharing information about his book, 'Empowered Humanity Theory: A Framework for an Empowered and Dignified Life.'
Takeaways

Empowered Humanity Theory promotes three attitudes: valued-centered identity, a dignity lens, and mindsets of inquiry and compassion.
Practices that build awareness and equanimity, kindness and compassion, and celebrate our common humanity are essential for personal growth and improved relationships.
Negative self-talk can be harmful and should be replaced with self-compassion and positive thinking.
Focusing on individual values and shared humanity can help overcome the divisiveness caused by identity politics.

Chapters
00:00 Introduction

03:09 Introduction to Empowered Pathways

09:48 Empowered Humanity Theory

24:40 Pathways to Practice

35:29 Conclusion and Book Information

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Morality Shifts Based Upon False Narratives... DTH Episode 198 with Eli Steele

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02/14/24 • 55 min

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Morality Shifts Based Upon False Narratives
In this episode, host Wilk Wilkinson is joined by filmmaker Eli Steele. They discuss Eli's journey into film-making, the impact of film on his life, and his collaboration with his father, Shelby Steele. They delve into the inspiration behind Eli's documentary, 'What Killed Michael Brown?', and the dangers of oversimplification and identity politics. The conversation also explores the division in America and the importance of engaging in conversations to break down walls of ignorance. They touch on the shift in morality and the use of race as a means for power. The episode concludes with a discussion on the need to reinvent American principles.
Who is Eli Steele?
Eli Steele is an award-winning filmmaker and “What Killed Michael Brown?” marks his first professional collaboration with his father, Shelby Steele. A graduate of Claremont McKenna College and Pepperdine University's School of Public Policy, Steele’s career highlights include “How Jack Became Black,” “What’s Bugging Seth,” winner of ten film festivals, and “Katrina,” an MTV Network pilot which won him the Breakthrough Filmmakers Award. Steele has written for publications ranging from LA Times to Commentary Magazine.
Website: https://www.manofsteeleproductions.com/Connect with Eli Steele on (X): @Hebro_Steele

Takeaways

Engaging in conversations is crucial to breaking down walls of ignorance and bridging divides.
Oversimplification and identity politics can be dangerous and hinder understanding.
The use of race as a means for power has been a recurring theme throughout history.
Freedom is a powerful and challenging concept that requires individual responsibility.
American principles should be upheld and reinvented if necessary to ensure a united and free country.

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Building Unity in the Community... DTH Episode 199 introducing the Prohuman Foundation

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02/21/24 • 71 min

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Today, over 70 years after Brown v. Board of Education, there is an urgent need to reaffirm and advance the core principles of the civil-rights movement. The defining question of our time: How do we break through the demonization and division, and move forward together as Americans? In this DTH episode, Wilk talks with Daryl Davis, Bion Bartning, Letitia Kim and Lory Warren, to explore compelling questions such as, “How much do identity group labels tell us about people?”; “How can you hate me when you don’t even know me?”; And, “How can education help to overcome racism and intolerance?” We discuss the genesis of the Prohuman mission & movement; their focus on promoting the foundational truth that every person is a unique individual, united by our shared humanity; and how the Prohuman approach can make a positive difference for K-12 educators and their students.

Visit www.prohumanfoundation.org to get involved and learn more.

Daryl Davis, Global Ambassador and Founding Member of the Board of Directors

Daryl Davis is best known for his talent as a musician; he is an international recording artist and is recognized for being one of the greatest Blues, Boogie Woogie & Rock ’n’ Roll pianists of all time.

In addition to his music career, Daryl is the author of Klan-Destine Relationships, which was the first book written about the Ku Klux Klan by a Black author... continued...

Bion Bartning, Board President and Founding Member of the Board of Directors

Bion Bartning is an entrepreneur and investor, and is also the founder of FAIR, the Foundation Against Intolerance and Racism... continued...

Letitia Kim, Treasurer and Founding Member of the Board of Directors

Letitia Kim is an attorney licensed in California and New York. She served as an Assistant United States Attorney in the Civil Division of the Northern District of California... continued...

Lory Warren, Executive Director

Lory Warren brings a range of professional experience to her role as Executive Director at the Prohuman Foundation. She has an extensive background in healthcare, hospital administration, network development, and school health services...continued...
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A DEI Conversation With More Curiosity And Less Contention... DTH Episode 200 with Julian Adorney and Abby Benedetto

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02/28/24 • 63 min

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A DEI Conversation With More Curiosity And Less Contention

In this episode, guest host Julian Adorney invites Abby Benedetto of Core-Shifts.com for the 2nd of his Difficult Conversation Series as a way to model respectful and humble discussions on topics of disagreement. The value proposition of Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion (DEI) is explored, along with the benefits and concerns of affinity spaces. The concept of race and identity is discussed, as well as the goal of achieving equality. The decline in race relations is examined, and the interpretation of the term 'race relations' is questioned. This conversation explores various aspects of race relations, complicity in racism, and the importance of racial awareness. It also delves into the problematic nature of certain works on race, the impact of language and intent, and the need for curiosity and open-mindedness in conversations. The chapters cover topics such as Trump's appeal to minorities, the need for change in addressing racism, the complexity of assuming best intentions, and the value of engaging in thoughtful conversations.
Who is Abby Benedetto?
Abby Benedetto is an educational consultant and founder of Core Shifts. Abby has taken on designing and changing systems for the last two decades from a wide variety of roles and perspectives - honing her skills around deep listening, collaborative innovation, and equity-centered learning design, and driven by the purpose of working to ensure that ALL young people (and adults) have access to the type of deeper learning they deserve so that they feel seen and valued, and develop the skills that they need to go out into the world and thrive... Bio continued in full show notes at DerateTheHate.com.
Guest host, Julian Adorney:

Julian Adorney is an author and speaker focused on preserving and rebuilding the West against the threats of illiberalism and affective polarization. He's written for Quillette, Queer Majority, National Review, the Foundation Against Intolerance and Racism (FAIR) and a few other sites; and is on the Braver Angels media team. He's the founder of Heal the West, a substack movement.

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Thanksgiving, a Time For Gratitude... Replay of DTH Classic Episode 53

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11/22/23 • 25 min

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Thanksgiving, a Time For Gratitude
Thanksgiving serves as a poignant reminder that gratitude should not be confined to a single day but embraced every day. This special occasion, however, magnifies the importance of acknowledging and appreciating the blessings in our lives. Beyond the festive feast and familial gatherings, Thanksgiving cultivates a spirit of thankfulness that ideally extends into our daily routines. It prompts reflection on the multitude of reasons to be grateful, encouraging a mindset where appreciation becomes a constant companion. In essence, while Thanksgiving provides a dedicated moment for gratitude, it serves as a catalyst for fostering an ongoing attitude of thankfulness in our hearts, reminding us to cherish life's abundant gifts each day.
For the full show notes for Episode 53, Click the link below:
https://deratethehate.com/episodes/episode-53-attitude-of-gratitude-and-personal-accountability-challenge-1-year-anniversary-episode-448What have you done today to make your life a better life? What have you done today to make the world a better place? The world is a better place if we are better people. That begins with each of us leading a better life. Be kind to one another. Be grateful for everything you’ve got. Make each and every day the day that you want it to be!

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The podcast is about Health & Fitness, Happiness, Society & Culture, Accountability, Mental Health, Wisdom, Podcasts and Gratitude.

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