128: Healing After Pregnancy & Infant Loss

10/17/19 • 46 min

There are many nuances to grief. The loss of a child is extremely painful grief, but you have to trust that your body knows how to heal itself. It’s important that you reach out for support when you need professional guidance. Let’s jump into this difficult topic together.

In this episode:

We don’t speak accurately enough about the experience of pregnancy loss and saying goodbye to a life lost too soon. [9:28]
Grief hurts and feels awful. [11:00]
Our body has a built-in system that knows how to heal from grief. [19:55]
There are no stages of grief. [25:07]
Your job is to keep your body tension-free and tightness-free. [34:15]

Grief is not a pathological condition. There is no treatment for it. You’re not broken for mourning the loss of your baby, so take all the time you need.

Resources:

www.parijatdeshpande.com/healinghearts

http://bit.ly/healheartdirect

In this episode:

We don’t speak accurately enough about the experience of pregnancy loss and saying goodbye to a life lost too soon. [9:28]
Grief hurts and feels awful. [11:00]
Our body has a built-in system that knows how to heal from grief. [19:55]
There are no stages of grief. [25:07]
Your job is to keep your body tension-free and tightness-free. [34:15]

Grief is not a pathological condition. There is no treatment for it. You’re not broken for mourning the loss of your baby, so take all the time you need.

Resources:

www.parijatdeshpande.com/healinghearts

http://bit.ly/healheartdirect

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127: When You Feel Lost After Having a Baby in the NICU

One of the most interesting aspects of my work in working with a wide variety of people is that every experience is so different, even if they share the same starting point. Having a baby in the NICU is a different type of trauma that shifts what you understand to be normal. It shifts everything you know to be normal and everything you expect to encounter in the way you enter parenthood. The good news is that you CAN find yourself again and return to “normal”! Let’s talk about how to do it.

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129: Listener Q and A

I love to hear from you! I love to address your questions and concerns with Listener Q & A episodes, like today’s show. Join us as we cover several topics that are relevant to birth trauma, preemie development, postpartum depression, and the work of healing.

In this episode:

Dealing with the uncertainty of the development of a preemie when you aren’t sure what to expect [2:24]
Experiencing postpartum depression with stillbirth, miscarriage, or ectopic pregnancy [15:48]
Getting over the fear of a medical termination when you’ve gone through this before [25:33]
How (and to what degree) diet can help with postpartum depression [40:08]
The reality of full healing from birth trauma vs. “learning to cope” [51:00]
Healing work is lifelong work that requires an ongoing commitment [55:26]

*You CAN let go of birth trauma without knowing the outcome. Peace is not elusive for you. You can find peace NOW, even when the future is uncertain. Nervous system regulation is the missing piece that you need!

Resources:

5 Myths About Trauma http://bit.ly/5traumamyths

The Truth About Fertility Trauma http://bit.ly/dmep125

Relieving Trauma-Induced Health Complications Workshop http://bit.ly/traumahealthcomp

When It's Not a Diet Issue but Unresolved Trauma https://www.instagram.com/p/B37gSK2BDH_/

Modern Approach to Grief & Trauma Release Free Webinar http://bit.ly/modappweb

What Should I Ask My Doctor? a free guide bit.ly/whattoaskdr

Real Food for Pregnancy by Lily Nichols https://amzn.to/2JoCz0X