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Delight Your Marriage

Belah Rose | Author, Podcaster, & Marital Intimacy Enthusiast

Husbands and wives are different. You want different things in marriage and intimacy on every level (emotional, spiritual, and physical). Whether you're a wife or a husband, whether you're suffering or pretty good... and you're looking for bible-based insights and scriptural practical guidance on how to transform your marriage, you've found the right podcast! We have "transformation stories" that will inspire hope that putting into practice these principles, by God's grace, can truly change your intimacy completely. If you're looking to see how to transform your marriage sign up for a free Clarity Call ($300 value), we can hear your story and work with you to determine if we are confident we can help you: https://www.delightyourmarriage.com/cc
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When she found out he went to jail because he almost killed his father and was a diagnosed sociopath... a thought struck her: “I will trust him with the lives of my future children”.

There are so many amazing topics for this week's podcast, I'm not sure which ones should I write here! Marie and I talk more in depth about her relationship with God and her relationship with her husband.

These are just some of the things we talk about:

  • what life with a husband who is a sociopath looks like -- and no, it's not what you may think!
  • the defining features of a sociopath and how they got a "psychological miracle"
  • how her husband tried to kill his father and landed in jail
  • her husband was a devout atheist until he started reading the Bible and now millions watch his Apologetics debates defending Cheistianity
  • Marie was back to being a Christian after reading an Apologetics book
  • how their complete honesty helped solidify their relationship
  • how reading the Bible helps David in his daily life

Other topics that we talk about

  • how sex should be treated as a spiritual bond and not just as a physical bonding between married couples
  • how there's no aspect of YOUR story cannot be touched by God's grace
  • how deeply and truly God's love can transform and change our perspective about ourselves and our marriages

Marie serves as vice president for a non-profit organization to connect people affected by myotubular myopathy. You can find out more about the non-profit that connects families here at: www.mtm-cnm.org

You can watch David Wood’s videos here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCy5H0uunC2qMk0iOF4SHKUw

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Also, if you’d like a free 1:1 Clarity Call with Belah u-- a $500 value! She is offering that free to her audience--men or women. Here you will get insights into what’s blocking you from incredible intimacy in your marriage. Sign up for a time to speak to Belah at www.delightyourmarriage.com/call

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I had a wonderful and extremely inspiring chat with Marie Wood, who is raising 5 children (a basketball team, according to her!) with her husband, David Wood--the very famous Apologist. Two of their sons, Reid and Paley, both have a rare, life-threatening condition called myotubular myopathy. It’s so rare that it only affects 1 in 50,000 male live births. It causes problems with muscle tone and dangerously affects muscles that control necessary functions like breathing and swallowing.

In this interview, I was moved to tears more than once because of the story of Marie and her children. She is an incredible woman who clearly loves the Lord and is such a force for good even in the face of suffering.

I know if you listen to this conversation you’ll come away in awe that our God can even raise the dead in this day and age! I’m amazed and I pray this will be an empowering and affirming message for you as well.

Marie serves as vice president for a non-profit organization to connect people affected by myotubular myopathy. You can find out more about the non-profit that connects families here at: www.mtm-cnm.org

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Also, if you’d like a free 1:1 Clarity Call with Belah -- a $500 value! She is offering that free to her audience--men or women. Here you will get insights into what’s blocking you from incredible intimacy in your marriage. Sign up for a time to speak to Belah at www.delightyourmarriage.com/call

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Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed.

If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages!

She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

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Hi there! This is part 2 of my chat with Ruth Buezis, author of Awaken Love. You can listen to part 1 here. If you loved listening to part 1, part 2 delves deeper into the specifics of lovemaking and Ruth and I's thoughts about the different types of orgasm that women would love to experience.

Other things we talk about:

  • Just having sex vs. getting to know each other through sex
  • The dynamics of who leads during intercourse
  • The in and out movement for a man, it's good for him. But how about the woman?
  • The three ways women can have orgasms
  • What does the Bible say about sex
  • Is the intercourse you're having with your spouse the kind of intercourse that leads to orgasm?
  • The clitoral alignment technique: what is it exactly?

Some helpful things for the wives:

  • What you can do to allow you to discover new and interesting feelings during intercourse
  • The journey you can take to learn more about the orgasms you can experience
  • Understanding new concepts and ideas that are related to orgasms
  • G-spot vs clitoral orgasm
  • The common anxiety wives experience before intercourse

Also, if you’d like a free 1:1 Clarity Call with Belah -- a $500 value -- she is offering that free to her audience. If you’re a man or a woman and are seeking for things to be transformed in your marriage and intimacy--this is for you! Here you will get insights into what’s blocking you from incredible intimacy in your marriage. Sign up for a time to speak to Belah at www.delightyourmarriage.com/call

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Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed.

If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages!

She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

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I'm so excited to chat with Ruth Buezis (author of Awaken Love) about how to transform your sex life into something much deeper.

Ruth started out her journey by talking about sex to 8 of her closest friends! Word spread and she's now sharing her journey to hundreds of women who used to be in the same boat as she was.

We talk about Christian couples and the usual questions we get from them:

-How do I help my wife orgasm?

-How do I orgasm during intercourse (from wives)?

-How long should I last (from husbands)?

-What EXACTLY should I do (from both!)?

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Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed.

If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages!

She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

And as Ruth says, men can get so caught up in the mechanics -- but there is so much more to sex than just mechanics!

What are the things that husbands and wives can do DURING and AFTER intercourse instead of feeling pressured and worried?

There are actually SO MANY things couples can do to help remove the pressure!

Whether or not there's orgasm during intercourse, there are lots of things that CAN be done so it's always mutually enjoyable during intercourse.

Other things we talk about:

What if a husband finishes earlier?

What about gentlemen who last way longer than the women?

What makes sex better for HER?

How God wants us to be excited about sex with our spouses

Also, if you’d like a free 1:1 Clarity Call with Belah -- a $500 value -- she is offering that free to her audience. Here you will get insights into what’s blocking you from incredible intimacy in your marriage. Sign up for a time to speak to Belah at www.delightyourmarriage.com/call

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How do you become MORE attractive to your wife?

What exactly do I mean when I say "attraction"?

Well, it's kind of like having a pull towards yourself. Whatever it is that you're doing, it's going to pull her and cause her to desire you. When you're attractive to her, she'll also have a physical desire towards you.

What can you do as a spouse to cause her to be interested again? To be FULLY in the marriage again?

My theory? Attraction works outside of marriage like this:

You are a whole human being with your own passions and desires and she starts being drawn to your power and confidence. Slowly, through time, you BOTH start to fall in love.

It's simple:

Chemistry (natural attraction) + spending time with each other = being attracted to someone

We'll be attracted to different types of people our whole lives. It's up to us as married people to not spend time with others.

So how do you become the whole man that you want to be?

  • By desperately seeking her love?
  • By wishing to spend more time with her?

This is the kind of work that I do with the men that I work with in The Masculinity Reclaimed program. If you want to get tailored advice and deep insight into your own marriage, you can do so by scheduling a call at www.dym.as.me.

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Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed.

If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages!

She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

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Over the years listeners have asked for my book Delight Your Husband: The Christian wife’s manual to passion, confidence, and oral sex, to be available on paperback. It is now available!

And if you get the book, read, and review on Amazon, you can have access to a $97 Masterclass for free!

The Masterclass will be September 15, 2019! When you do those three things go ahead and email faith@delightyourmarriage.com And you’ll be on the list! Thank you so so much!

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Does sex feel like a duty?

  • When he asks to make love, I believe that he's actually doing a really brave thing. He could be afraid of rejection and is actually insecure about it.
  • What if you have the opportunity to bring out your husband's generosity by being compassionate about his sexuality?

As a side: Dear husbands, If you want your wife to work with me, I encourage you to take the first step in transforming your marriage. By doing this, she'll be receptive to transforming herself as well.

Wives, I want you to know that if your opinion of sex is that it's a chore or a duty, it’s probably hurting your spouse's feelings. AND sex has to start with having an open heart and a good perspective. Otherwise it doesn’t feel like making love, it feels like you value it as much as washing the dishes.

What if you can go to a place of:

  • Joy, fun and excitement
  • To the point that you physically crave sex

I want you to get there. Listen in for encouragement and new perspectives and tools to make love rather than do your duty.

If you want to work with me to have the heart and a body (!) that craves sex, go to www.dym.as.me . You'll have 40 minutes of my undivided attention for FREE (a $500 value) so we can talk about your marriage.

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Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed.

If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages!

She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

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First and foremost, I'm so glad you're planning for sex. Many people let this HIGH priority slip away from their marriage. And they wonder why their marriage turns into a disaster. I am GRATEFUL if you are one who puts it on your calendar--it means you DO prioritize it! So, I'm now encouraging you to go the next step and make it sexy. So often I hear from husbands that they make love the exact same way every single time they make love. And "it's even on the calendar!" Well, 1st- the good news is you're making love (!!) and 2nd- ladies, we can plan sex (just not let him in on it!) ;) Listen in for inspiring ideas on how and why to spice things up and how you can plan sex without making him feel like a To Do List item! Aka...plan it sexily!

How EXACTLY do other people even plan for sex? Planning for sex can look different for many people:

  • You can plan for sex in other physical aspects

(If you're too full from dinner, you might be too sleepy for sex!)

  • You can plan for sex emotionally

(are you emotionally prepared to plan sex?)

But planning for sex with a "grin and bear it" mindset isn't good. It would be awesome if you planned sex with a heart filled with joy and excitement. So how do you plan sex with THAT kind of mindset?

Well, here's a story.

My husband surprised me with something special on our anniversary: a sunset cruise.

He made sure that the house was clean, the kids had a babysitter, he had flowers everywhere. Well he got the idea from SOMEONE ELSE. Was I mad that he got the idea from someone else? Of course not.

That's the same with you planning sex. Don't feel like you're not being truthful or being a phony when you plan sex. The important thing is the experience you'll both be having, not HOW you got there.

How open should you be to your husband when it comes to planning sex? It depends on where you are in your marriage, emotionally speaking.

He craves you more when you feel good about having sex. But making love is also about you; your own joy and fulfillment.

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Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed.

If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages!

She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

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  • What does it mean and WHY would you actually do it?
  • What if it’s COMPLETELY outside of your personality?
  • What to actually do? (Steamy examples!)

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Before we dive in...

I run a men's course called Masculinity Reclaimed: Be respected, enjoy fierce intimacy and love being married again.

It's a program which helps you understand how to be an amazing husband so your wife wants to do this kind of stuff. It dramatically transforms marriages.

I work with men in this program and interview their wives who started out rating their intimacy as a 3 out of 10 and then they move to a 7 out of 10 or from a 5 out of 10 to a 9 out of 10!

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ALL-DAY seduction is:

  • not normal for me
  • I don't wake up thinking I want to be someone who likes playful touching throughout the day

I thought it was sinful. “Why think about sex the whole day???” was my question.

Well, now I’ve changed my tune. Here’s why...

The reason I do this work:

  • I love families
  • I love what children have when it's a safe, loving family
  • The desire for intercourse isn't the motivation. It's the answer to "how do we make the world safer"?
  • We make better children who have parents who love each other so well that they're able to live a trauma-free life

God wants children to be raised up in the right, safe, kind environment. And sex is vital to that because that's how your husband receives love.

Why do great men of God fall to sexual sin? The sexual sin is great...

  • 35% of internet downloads is pornography
  • “Sex” is the #1 search term
  • Pornography increases marital infidelity rate by more than 300%
  • Adultery destroys your soul
  • God made him with a strong desire
    • And God gave him that desire; the average man has about 11 erections a day!

So where do we go from here? I’m not saying you’re responsible for his fidelity. But I think you have an opportunity to support him in this really sinful world.

Have a system of seduction throughout the day:

  • Bring up intimacy throughout the day!
  • Touch him!
  • Give him a kiss through his clothes --- do it any time of the day!
  • Always change in front of him
  • Tell him "I can't wait to do more"

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Belah's book---Delight Your Husband: A Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex---may be the tool God would use to bring light and joy to your marriage bed.

If you're at a place of desire for change in intimacy in your marriage--men or women--consider signing up for a free Clarity Call ($500 value!) where you and Belah will dive deep into what's going on in your marriage and help you uncover what is blocking amazing intimacy! From couples that hadn't made love in years to couples who were in an affair--God has brought passion, healing and fun to these marriages!

She's currently offering this 40min Clarity Call opportunity to podcast listeners for free! Schedule here.

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