004- How to survive Black Friday

11/17/23 • 15 min

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Decluttering Untangled with Heather Tingle : How to declutter when you're overwhelmed, ADHD or Autistic

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In this episode Heather shares her insights and strategies to get through Black Friday with more thought and less impulse shopping.

Heather welcomes Untanglers to another episode of Decluttering Untangled.
Shares insights from her past when she used to shop as a pastime.
Reflects on the fleeting satisfaction and subsequent regrets of impulse shopping.

Impact of Marketing (02:28 - 04:52)

Discusses the evolution of marketing and the current sophistication with targeted ads on social media.
Highlights the David versus Goliath situation, emphasizing the importance of mindfulness in buying.

Transformation Through Decluttering (04:52 - 07:15)

Heather shares her personal transformation as she decluttered her home.
The shift from finding joy in shopping to deriving satisfaction from buying things she truly adores.
Stressing the significance of a decluttered home in finding peace.

Understanding Black Friday Pull (07:15 - 09:33)

Explores common thoughts your brain might entertain on Black Friday, such as the lure of bargains.
Emphasizes the importance of measuring the real value and impact of a purchase on your life.

Challenges to Consider (09:33 - 11:51)

Addresses common challenges like feeling deserving, keeping up with others, and the allure of treats.
Encourages experiences over material purchases for genuine treats.

Counteracting the Black Friday Pull (11:51 - 14:08)

Strategies to counteract the pull, including making a list of needs and setting a budget.
Advises knowing where the purchased item is going and questioning if you'd buy it at full price.
Encourages redirecting money intended for splurges towards bigger life goals.

Making It Harder to Buy (14:08 - 16:12)

Practical tips to make buying more intentional, like unsubscribing from mailing lists.
Removing auto-saves on bank cards and staying busy to avoid temptations.
The significance of decluttering as a way to preclude unnecessary purchases.

Conclusion (16:12 - 18:12)

Heather sums up the episode, emphasizing that Black Friday should work for the individual, aligning with personal needs.

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In this episode Heather shares her insights and strategies to get through Black Friday with more thought and less impulse shopping.

Heather welcomes Untanglers to another episode of Decluttering Untangled.
Shares insights from her past when she used to shop as a pastime.
Reflects on the fleeting satisfaction and subsequent regrets of impulse shopping.

Impact of Marketing (02:28 - 04:52)

Discusses the evolution of marketing and the current sophistication with targeted ads on social media.
Highlights the David versus Goliath situation, emphasizing the importance of mindfulness in buying.

Transformation Through Decluttering (04:52 - 07:15)

Heather shares her personal transformation as she decluttered her home.
The shift from finding joy in shopping to deriving satisfaction from buying things she truly adores.
Stressing the significance of a decluttered home in finding peace.

Understanding Black Friday Pull (07:15 - 09:33)

Explores common thoughts your brain might entertain on Black Friday, such as the lure of bargains.
Emphasizes the importance of measuring the real value and impact of a purchase on your life.

Challenges to Consider (09:33 - 11:51)

Addresses common challenges like feeling deserving, keeping up with others, and the allure of treats.
Encourages experiences over material purchases for genuine treats.

Counteracting the Black Friday Pull (11:51 - 14:08)

Strategies to counteract the pull, including making a list of needs and setting a budget.
Advises knowing where the purchased item is going and questioning if you'd buy it at full price.
Encourages redirecting money intended for splurges towards bigger life goals.

Making It Harder to Buy (14:08 - 16:12)

Practical tips to make buying more intentional, like unsubscribing from mailing lists.
Removing auto-saves on bank cards and staying busy to avoid temptations.
The significance of decluttering as a way to preclude unnecessary purchases.

Conclusion (16:12 - 18:12)

Heather sums up the episode, emphasizing that Black Friday should work for the individual, aligning with personal needs.

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003 - Decluttering with your heart, using emotions not logic for lasting success

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[INTRO]
Heather Tingle introduces today's topic on Decluttering Untangled: the use of emotions, not logic, as a guide to decluttering.

Acknowledges the controversy surrounding emotional decluttering and explains that it's her preferred method.
Highlights the relatability for those who are emotionally attached to their belongings, providing an alternative approach to decluttering.

[THE LOGIC PITFALL]

Describes the common problem of using logical reasoning when decluttering and how it doesn't always fit each person's situation.
Mentions the typical logical questions like "When did I last use this?" and "Do I still need it?"
Emphasises that decluttering isn't a one-size-fits-all task and why logic alone might not be suitable.

[NO MAGIC NUMBER]

Addresses the myth of finding a right number for things like towels, cups, or bras.
Explains how logical reasoning often results in keeping items based on endless scenarios.
Highlights the irrationality of this behaviour, considering we're emotional beings, not purely logical ones.

[THE NEW VS. OLD DILEMMA]

Explores the logic behind keeping new items just because you bought them recently, especially when the older ones are cozier.
Questions the common tendency to save new items for a "special" occasion.
Encourages the audience to consider how often they reach for the comfortable, worn-in items over new ones.

[THE COAT HANGER METHOD]

Strongly criticises the logic-based coat hanger method, which encourages turning hangers around and ditching clothes not worn in a year.
Shares a personal example of why this method might lead to regret.
Discusses the complications when sizes fluctuate, and emotional attachments get dismissed based on logic.

[REGRETS DERAIL PROGRESS]

Discusses how regrets become roadblocks to further decluttering, emphasising how they deter individuals from making decisions.
Shares a personal story about the only item Heather regrets decluttering – a vintage Red Dwarf t-shirt.
Explains why using logic to decide can lead to regret when circumstances change.

[EMOTIONS OVER LOGIC]

Presents the alternative of using emotions for decluttering and why it's a transformative experience.
Advocates for the idea that caring more for what you own leads to a greater appreciation of items.
Discusses the

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005 - How to declutter when you're stuck on pause

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Introduction:

Heather Tingle welcomes Untanglers to another episode of Decluttering Untangled.
Topic: "How to Declutter When You're Stuck on Pause."

Understanding the Pause:

Neurodivergent individuals may experience the 'freeze' response to stress.
Heather shares her personal experience of feeling stuck on pause, emphasising the impact of self-imposed pressure.

Overwhelm and Lack of Reward:

Overwhelm as a major hurdle to decluttering.
Neurodivergent individuals might struggle with the traditional reward system.
The challenge of not feeling the impact of small accomplishments due to clutter's persistent nature.

Imagining the After:

The difficulty of visualising outcomes, a common struggle for neurodivergent individuals.
Heather discusses her personal challenge of visualising her space after decluttering.

Worry Over Timing and Commitment:

Fears of getting engrossed, forgetting important tasks, or losing steam halfway through the process.
The fear of ending up in a bigger mess than when you started.

How to Get Off Pause:

Knowing the end result is crucial: What, when, and how will your space look after decluttering?
Breaking tasks into smaller, more manageable parts to reduce pressure.
Planning a reward for motivation and satisfaction.

Short and Sharp Sessions:

Recommending short, focused decluttering sessions to avoid burnout.
The importance of visual timers and Heather suggests a recommended product (Amazon affiliate link in show notes below).

Competition and Gamification:

Gamifying the process by making it a competition against time or against a friend.
Counting items to add a competitive element and excitement.

Accountability Without Pressure:

Tailoring accountability to individual needs, especially for those with PDA profiles.
Scheduling decluttering goals within a reasonable timeframe and self-rewarding.

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