60: The Hard Conversations You Need to Have with Your Kids with Antonio Wint

05/20/20 • 45 min

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PLEASE NOTE: This episode was recorded after Ahmaud Arbery's killing but before George Floyd's murder.

Sara and Misasha are excited to welcome Antonio Wint to the show.

Antonio is a neighbor, father, and black man in a position of leadership with a diverse employee base who happens to enjoy running. In light of everything, Sara and Misasha wanted to hear his personal experiences and thoughts on how to talk with kids about a sport that has potentially dangerous consequences for the black population.

Listen in to this thoughtful conversation for tips on encouraging age-appropriate conversation, respect, and tolerance for all.

Show Highlights:

Antonio describes how he has had age-appropriate conversations about discipline and respecting authority with his son, who is now 10, over the years.
As a black male, he is raising his son to respect authority, and respecting authority starts in the home first.
The older his son has gotten, Antonio has been explaining relationships, and how the respect he shows to his parents at home must translate to law officers outside of the home.
Shows that have helped facilitate some of their conversations are “Black-ish” and “Mixed-ish”.
It’s emotional and tough to tell your child that some people will find your very presence threatening.
How to talk about the shooting of Ahmaud Arbery.
Antonio discusses ways for us all to be more mindful of discrimination and teach tolerance.
Antonio describes his experiences with running and what he does to mitigate any potential problems.
Antonio shares how he handled a tense situation with a lurker in his neighborhood.
The differences between growing up in a black neighborhood and choosing to live in a white neighborhood as a black.
How using the COVID-19 event can have a positive impact on the health of the black community going forward.
Let your neighbors know that they are not in this alone.

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PLEASE NOTE: This episode was recorded after Ahmaud Arbery's killing but before George Floyd's murder.

Sara and Misasha are excited to welcome Antonio Wint to the show.

Listen in to this thoughtful conversation for tips on encouraging age-appropriate conversation, respect, and tolerance for all.

Show Highlights:

Antonio describes how he has had age-appropriate conversations about discipline and respecting authority with his son, who is now 10, over the years.
As a black male, he is raising his son to respect authority, and respecting authority starts in the home first.
The older his son has gotten, Antonio has been explaining relationships, and how the respect he shows to his parents at home must translate to law officers outside of the home.
Shows that have helped facilitate some of their conversations are “Black-ish” and “Mixed-ish”.
It’s emotional and tough to tell your child that some people will find your very presence threatening.
How to talk about the shooting of Ahmaud Arbery.
Antonio discusses ways for us all to be more mindful of discrimination and teach tolerance.
Antonio describes his experiences with running and what he does to mitigate any potential problems.
Antonio shares how he handled a tense situation with a lurker in his neighborhood.
The differences between growing up in a black neighborhood and choosing to live in a white neighborhood as a black.
How using the COVID-19 event can have a positive impact on the health of the black community going forward.
Let your neighbors know that they are not in this alone.

Resources / Links:

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Antonio’s Company Website: www.GetSimpleIT.com

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59: Mental Health: Finding Meaning During a Time of Crisis with Dr. Sue Varma

Sara and Misasha are pleased to welcome their special guest, Dr. Sue Varma, to the show to discuss the importance of mental health in these very challenging times.

Listen in to this conversation that dives deeply into the psychological and physical effects that we're experiencing from the coronavirus pandemic, from many different perspectives.

Dr. Sue Varma is a board-certified psychiatrist and practicing cognitive-behavioral therapist in New York City. She is a Clinical Assistant Professor of Psychiatry at New York University (NYU) Langone Health and a Distinguished Fellow of the American Psychiatric Association. She is the recipient of the inaugural Sharecare Emmy Award in 2019 and now has been nominated again for her role in CBS This Morning’s ‘Stop the Stigma’ campaign in 2020. Dr. Varma is a keynote speaker and has been a regular national media contributor to all the major networks over the last 13 years (Today Show, CBS This Morning, Dr. Oz show, Tamron Hall etc) and is now a mental health contributor for CBS News. She won a Mayoral Proclamation in 2019 and a public sector award in 2020 from the Indo American Psychiatric Association. She won the “Best in Manhattan” for psychiatry in 2019 and 2020.

Her integrative approach to mental health includes cognitive behavioral therapy, exercise, mindfulness, yoga, and nutrition. She is the former medical director to the 9/11 mental health program at NYU. Through her work in trauma and resilience, she became interested in positive psychiatry and is now studying the role of optimism to not only treat mental health disorders but also to prevent them. She believes that physicians have a duty to not only take their patients from a state of dysfunction to function- but also from functional to optimal.

She is a native New Yorker but considers herself a universal citizen with travels to fifty countries and counting. Sue is a self-proclaimed foodie who also enjoys swimming in oceans around the world and sometimes with sharks!

Show Highlights:

Dr. Sue is fascinated by how the pandemic is affecting different segments of the population.
Dr. Sue shares some of her concerns for the disproportionate number of blacks hospitalized from the coronavirus in Georgia, and the elderly and minority women on the front lines.
We take so many things for granted, when in some parts of the world, there may be one working toilet for 1,400 people in the slums and no running water for washing hands.
There’s trauma when you’re on the frontlines seeing your colleagues getting sick, yet you’re still expected to show up for work.
Medical workers are feeling dispensable and unheard. Feeling like you don’t matter has severe consequences and puts you at a higher risk for trauma.
The US may rank as one of the wealthiest nations in the world but it ranks #14 in happiness.
Unemployment and financial loss, fear, and uncertainty increases the risk of trauma.
Being given access to information that is clear, accurate, scientific, and credible helps in trauma prevention or recovery.
Dr. Sue’s suggestions on how to check on others during this time and how to respond to somebody who says they’re not doing well.
In depression, rumination is what’s going to take you down the deep, dark path.
Some things will return to normal, and other things won’t.
Let’s make meaning out of this time.
Dr. Sue's advice: Be compassionate to yourself, be gentle, be forgiving. Be grateful for anything you’ve accomplished and anything you have. Keep a journal. Be patient. Recognize that what we’re going through is a temporary thing. Accept and understand that what we’re going through is hard and we’re going to have different emotions at different times.
Dr. Sue details the four M’s of mental health: mindfulness, mastery, meaningful engagement, movement.

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61: Period Kits with Geoff Davis

Aunt Flo, shark week, that time of the month, your red-headed friend: whatever you call your period, menstruation is a natural bodily function that happens to 50% of the population.

For the majority of us, we take our monthly supplies for granted. But what happens if you’re homeless, or if you have to choose each month between purchasing groceries or paying for your feminine hygiene supplies?

On today’s show, Sara chats with Geoff Davis, Executive Director of Period Kits, who is helping to solve that dilemma by providing period kits and dignity to that vulnerable segment of our population who need them the most. Misasha joins Sara to discuss ways to get involved on a local level.

Listen in to this inspiring story and learn how you can make a difference!

Have questions, comments, or concerns? Email us at [email protected]

What to listen for:

Geoff provides an overview of the founding of Period Kits.
Each kit contains a 3-month supply of these products:
- 40 tampons
- 20 pads
- 20 liners
- 1 pack of personal wipes
- 6 pairs of underwear
Geoff describes how women deal with menstruation when they can’t afford products.
Each year in January, Denver organizations go out with food and blankets and do a “point in time” survey to capture the number of people who are unstably housed.
These numbers are not exact, but the survey captures about one in two people for various reasons.
Geoff explains how they build the kits and the number of kits they provide each month.
They are not able to keep with the demand from organizations and schools that are requesting Period Kits.
Geoff is using Period Kits as a way to campaign for broader change in our society.
The city of Denver removed menstrual products from the city sales tax because they’re classified as medically necessary, but the state tax still applies because it would cost them to lose about big money out of their budget.
Sara shares the costs of feminine hygiene products over the course of a woman’s life.