028 - Circuit Breakers and Calming Techniques: Mastering Self-Control - With Torrin Minutillo

09/19/23 • 72 min

A Seasoned Business Veteran, Proven Under Fire
Torrin’s 34-year business journey started in a time before mobile phones and internet instant communication.
This journey was riddled with many highs and lows in the first 20 years before he cracked the code and now enjoys a business life that seemed impossible at one point.
The turning point was driven by getting a deep understanding of the human experience and applying it to the business experience.
That real life education has prepared him well for what he is passionate about doing now...that is helping other business owners on their journey to conquer their dreams.
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De-Escalation Conversations - 028 - Circuit Breakers and Calming Techniques: Mastering Self-Control - With Torrin Minutillo

Transcript

Torrin Minutillo00:00:07.589

Courage is the one that we require when our values are tested. So when our values are tested when someone's testing you about your integrity it requires courage to push through that often when we're facing challenges in our life and we're not feeling good about where we're at whatever it is we're trying to achieve it's it's likely that one of your values is being tested which is the reason why you potentially not getting what you're lookin