Ronen Stilman- Attached to Technology: Therapists reflections of relational processes and technology

07/06/20 • 52 min

I'm joined today by a fellow psychotherapist with a passion for understanding technology and how we relate to and with this invention of man.

Ronen and I have riffed about this subject matter at conferences for some time, and even in a sauna at the TA conference in Birmingham in 2019, where we were supposed to be taking care of ourselves and relaxing, yet it turned into an animated conversation about the development of the human next to/with and through this (see the chats I've had about the detox properties of saunas in previous episodes)

We talk attachment, tough, relationships, gaming, and parenting and, much more, A Fabulous conversation and this must be part one...

See the timestamps below for more details:

05: 30 Covid and Technology, the ambivalence of therapists

07:20 The infancy of understanding

10:50 Relating, what is this, and how does the threat response impact us?

13:50 Touch, Attachment (strokes & strokes) and tech

16:40 Attachment and regulation

20:10 Cars and technology, what's the link?

23:00 Addiction, or replacement. Is this relating?

26:00 How Ronen noticed childhood play and his own experience

30:20 Polyglot and language; are you talking about me?

33:30 The vehicle of socialisation, disconnection, and connection

37:30 Boredom, self-connection, and regulation

42:10 Pack warfare or team cohesion?

45:45 Parenting and gaming, power dynamics!!

48:10 Closing the circle

Ronen can be. found on his Facebook page: Ronen Stilman Psychotherapy

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I'm joined today by a fellow psychotherapist with a passion for understanding technology and how we relate to and with this invention of man.

We talk attachment, tough, relationships, gaming, and parenting and, much more, A Fabulous conversation and this must be part one...

See the timestamps below for more details:

05: 30 Covid and Technology, the ambivalence of therapists

07:20 The infancy of understanding

10:50 Relating, what is this, and how does the threat response impact us?

13:50 Touch, Attachment (strokes & strokes) and tech

16:40 Attachment and regulation

20:10 Cars and technology, what's the link?

23:00 Addiction, or replacement. Is this relating?

26:00 How Ronen noticed childhood play and his own experience

30:20 Polyglot and language; are you talking about me?

33:30 The vehicle of socialisation, disconnection, and connection

37:30 Boredom, self-connection, and regulation

42:10 Pack warfare or team cohesion?

45:45 Parenting and gaming, power dynamics!!

48:10 Closing the circle

Ronen can be. found on his Facebook page: Ronen Stilman Psychotherapy

As always you can stay up to date with my news by heading to my website and signing up for the newsletter. www.catherineknibbs.co.uk

Please subscribe and if you have two minutes rate/comment and share this episode!!

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