Cultivating H.E.R. Space: Uplifting Conversations for the Black Woman

Realistic expectations and radical acceptance. For who? Your parents. Yes. Them. Those people who hurt you that you have been spending all of your adult life trying to understand. Those people who will never see you no matter how many hoops you jump through trying to please them and earn their love. In today’s episode, Terri and Dom are joined by Dr. Ramani Durvasula. The ladies dive into how to identify the traits; the impact it has on you; and how to heal. This is sure to be a conversation you want to give your undivided attention. There are so many quotable gems and “Ah-ha!” moments that will cause you to pause and reflect. Quote of the Day: “The narcissist is like a bucket with a hole in the bottom: No matter how much you put in, you can never fill it up.”- Dr. Ramani Takeaways: 5 Tips to Recover from Being Raised by the Narcissistic Parents: Realistic expectations Radical acceptance Minimize your engagement Stop personalizing Therapy Should I Stay or Should I Go?: Surviving a Relationship with a Narcissist "Don't You Know Who I Am?": How to Stay Sane in an Era of Narcissism, Entitlement, and Incivility TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri H.E.R Space Sanctuary Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/
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Terri shares with us a reader question about leaving a toxic relationship. We’ve all been there or know someone who’s been there. Terri talks about her healing from a toxic relationship- the ups and downs of it all, including having “friends”. What are your options? While there are many, Dom wants us to use the time to focus on healing ourselves- our in the meantime. What does time with ourselves really look like and is it even possible? Dom and Terri share with us some pretty cool ways to spend time with ourselves. They also gives us some important things to consider as we’re healing- with no deadline for completion. Our quote queen shares multiple nuggets that you’ll definitely want to share with your girls. Quote of the Day: ‘...I got to thinking about relationships. There are those that open you up to something new and exotic, those that are old and familiar, those that bring up lots of questions, those that bring you somewhere unexpected, those that bring you far from where you started and those that bring you back. But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you find someone to love the you you love, well, that’s just fabulous.’ - Carrie Bradshaw from Sex and the City Takeaways: Ways to dive into yourself: Journal your thoughts and feelings Invest time in your hobbies Let yourself feel the feelings- but don’t act on them Spend time with friends and family Seek the support of a mental health professional Resources Mentioned: Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected]
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Lady, how are you feeling about your partner? Has the pandemic caused you to reconsider some things? Why are you with this person in the first place? Is your relationship bigger than how you are feeling about your partner at this moment? If the answer is yes, then today’s episode will offer you guidance on how to keep your relationship healthy. Today, Terri and Dom are joined by Teleshia Delmar who goes in depth on her top 5 traits that have kept her marriage going for almost 20 years through the good and bad. Quote of the Day: "Because we didn't quit when times got crazy hard, even when there were no feelings of love and respect for one another, our marriage is stronger than ever!" -Teleshia Delmar Takeaways: Top 5 Traits for a long lasting healthy relationship: Communication Conflict resolution- fix the friction Expectations Intimacy and sex Trust https://loversbond.com/aboutus/ https://loversbond.com/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KE-C7uN56dU TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri H.E.R Space Sanctuary Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/
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It’s the day after Valentine’s Day. How did you spend the day? Were you focused on others or did you take time to care for yourself? Or was it just another day for you? Hopefully, you did something that made you feel good. In this week’s episode, Dom and Terri dive into the importance of self-care...doing the things (whatever they are) that make you feel good. While self-care is a phrase that seems to be tossed around a lot lately, do we know what it really means? How can we engage in it when we have been socialized to believe that doing so is selfish? Per usual, the ladies provide us with real-life examples from their lives and give us practical ways we can apply it to our own. Self-care is not going to look the same for everyone and shout out to all the ladies finding creative ways to pour into themselves! Remember...equate self-care with what they teach us on the plane- put your own oxygen mask on before you assist others. Quote of the Day: “Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.” - Audre Lorde Takeaways: “Taking care of yourself = keeping your cup full. If you don’t do things to keep your cup full, you have nothing left to give or share with others.” – Paige Burkes Self-care is not selfish. Just because everyone else is consuming a certain type of content doesn't mean you have to do it. Self-care is unique to each person. It's your decision to figure out and communicate to those around you. Let's not judge others on the self-care tactics they choose. If you need ideas on how to establish a Self-care plan, take a look at this link here. Resources: Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Rainn.org Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected]
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Hey lady, it’s Friday! You made it. We have a question for you though...are you coasting into the weekend or are you running headfirst to your bed? This week, Terri and Dr. Dom welcome Kelley Bonner, host of the Black Girl Burnout podcast, to discuss a topic we’re sure will resonate with many of you. Kelley drops in and defines burnout and offers tangible tools for you to incorporate into your day to reduce and minimize any burnout you may be experiencing. Good news! This isn’t the typical reduce your stressors spiel you’ve heard. This convo has tips on how you can proactively approach your boss with professional candor, and how the bosses in the room can make space for more empathy while still maintaining the focus on the company’s objectives. If you see the wall in your direct view and you’re afraid you’re about to crash into it, fret not! A few tweaks to your day can have you breathing in joy and self-fulfillment, and you won’t need a month in Bali to do it. We’d love to hear from you! Head to Instagram and let us know your favorite way to avoid burnout!
Quote of the Day:
“But what happens when you work hard at something unfulfilling? It drains your spirit. It robs you of your life force. You end up depleted, depressed, and angry.”
– Oprah Winfrey
Where to find Kelley A. Bonner:
Website: Blackgirlburnout.com
Instagram: @blackgirlburnout
TikTok: @blackgirlburnout
YouTube: Black Girl Burnout
Facebook: Black Girl Burnout
Twitter: @KelleyABonner
LinkedIn: Kelley A. Bonner
Instagram: @kelleyabonner
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Resources:
Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
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Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC
Where to find us:
Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: cultivatingherspace.com