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Create Your Now Archive 6 with Kristianne Wargo - 1609 Put the Brakes On

1609 Put the Brakes On

04/10/20 • 18 min

Create Your Now Archive 6 with Kristianne Wargo

When is enough enough? Sometimes we can overdramatize situations or circumstances; overcompensating for our own desires. Put the brakes on.

Why keep stressing out your children when all they are trying to do is become self-sufficient?

Desire to be supported and encourage by other like-minded women? Join us at Women of IMPACT. http://facebook.com/groups/thewomenofimpact

We have a tendency to over direct our children. We want what's best for them, but whose best is it for?

My daughter, son, and I were running errands. My car is in the shop and so we needed her car for transportation.

Long story short, as she was driving, we pulled in the parking lot. She asked me where she should park. I responded, "Anywhere will be fine."

Taking a shortcut through the parking lot, she said she would park here and what did I do?

"Park right here. That'll be great."

"See mom. That's why I asked you. Because you were going to tell me anyway."

We don't realize that as our children grow and mature, they need to spread their wings to fly. They need to find their own way, no matter if we agree or not.

That means making tough decisions.

  • Trying out for a sport in school
  • Continue dancing
  • Parking the car in a parking lot at the box store
  • Quitting their job for a riskier with no guaranteed paycheck amount

We mean well! We don't want to over-exercise our knowledge always. BUT we do.

It's frustrating because you want what's best for them. You desire success for your child. But as challenging as it is, we need to let them fall and put the brakes on.

The K.I.S.S. ~ Put the brakes on!

Life isn't always about doing what seems to be the right way. There are so many different ways to get to the same place. You may have experienced it one way, but that doesn't mean there's not another way that works just as good.

So put the brakes on and gas up on the right stuff!

  1. Empower them to be their best self. They need to be able to succeed and fail without your hands. Instead give them your heart!
  2. Lead with the door open. Provide a safe place for them to share with you. Don't come across judgmental or condemning.
  3. Encourage grit and grace. It's going to be hard work to live out their dreams. Build that stamina, the fortitude, to get through the challenges and pain in life. But still forgiving when you don't get it right the first time.

Tough life lessons we all can utilize and we all need to learn.

When you put the brakes on, you are giving your child (and yourself) space to spread their wings and fly!

It's on their terms, not our dreams.

Our responsibility is about raising our children up to place their own mark on the world to impact in the way they were created.

Now that should put a smile on your heart!

So when you are driving in that parking lot, put the brakes on (at least for your mouth), and give them their wings to soar!

"Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!"

#ConfessionsOfAnUpsetMama #CreateYourNow #TodaysParent

TAKE A.I.M. ~ Action Ignites Motivation - This is a complimentary (FREE) coaching call with me. You will be able to discuss your specific situation and gain tools and strategies to move you forward.

Live. Love. IMPACT! "One step at a time leads to miles of greatness!"

Subscribe to Create Your Now TV on YouTube.

Listen to Create Your Now on Spotify and Pandora.

Listen to Create Your Now on iHeart Radio. Click here.

The Create Your Now Archives are LIVE!! You can subscribe and listen to all the previous episodes here. http://bit.ly/CYNarchive1 and http://bit.ly/CYNarchive2 and http://bit.ly/CYNarchive3 and http://bit.ly/CYNarchive4 and http://bit.ly/CYNarchive5 and http://bit.ly/CYNarchive6

Contact me at [email protected]

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When is enough enough? Sometimes we can overdramatize situations or circumstances; overcompensating for our own desires. Put the brakes on.

Why keep stressing out your children when all they are trying to do is become self-sufficient?

Desire to be supported and encourage by other like-minded women? Join us at Women of IMPACT. http://facebook.com/groups/thewomenofimpact

We have a tendency to over direct our children. We want what's best for them, but whose best is it for?

My daughter, son, and I were running errands. My car is in the shop and so we needed her car for transportation.

Long story short, as she was driving, we pulled in the parking lot. She asked me where she should park. I responded, "Anywhere will be fine."

Taking a shortcut through the parking lot, she said she would park here and what did I do?

"Park right here. That'll be great."

"See mom. That's why I asked you. Because you were going to tell me anyway."

We don't realize that as our children grow and mature, they need to spread their wings to fly. They need to find their own way, no matter if we agree or not.

That means making tough decisions.

  • Trying out for a sport in school
  • Continue dancing
  • Parking the car in a parking lot at the box store
  • Quitting their job for a riskier with no guaranteed paycheck amount

We mean well! We don't want to over-exercise our knowledge always. BUT we do.

It's frustrating because you want what's best for them. You desire success for your child. But as challenging as it is, we need to let them fall and put the brakes on.

The K.I.S.S. ~ Put the brakes on!

Life isn't always about doing what seems to be the right way. There are so many different ways to get to the same place. You may have experienced it one way, but that doesn't mean there's not another way that works just as good.

So put the brakes on and gas up on the right stuff!

  1. Empower them to be their best self. They need to be able to succeed and fail without your hands. Instead give them your heart!
  2. Lead with the door open. Provide a safe place for them to share with you. Don't come across judgmental or condemning.
  3. Encourage grit and grace. It's going to be hard work to live out their dreams. Build that stamina, the fortitude, to get through the challenges and pain in life. But still forgiving when you don't get it right the first time.

Tough life lessons we all can utilize and we all need to learn.

When you put the brakes on, you are giving your child (and yourself) space to spread their wings and fly!

It's on their terms, not our dreams.

Our responsibility is about raising our children up to place their own mark on the world to impact in the way they were created.

Now that should put a smile on your heart!

So when you are driving in that parking lot, put the brakes on (at least for your mouth), and give them their wings to soar!

"Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!"

#ConfessionsOfAnUpsetMama #CreateYourNow #TodaysParent

TAKE A.I.M. ~ Action Ignites Motivation - This is a complimentary (FREE) coaching call with me. You will be able to discuss your specific situation and gain tools and strategies to move you forward.

Live. Love. IMPACT! "One step at a time leads to miles of greatness!"

Subscribe to Create Your Now TV on YouTube.

Listen to Create Your Now on Spotify and Pandora.

Listen to Create Your Now on iHeart Radio. Click here.

The Create Your Now Archives are LIVE!! You can subscribe and listen to all the previous episodes here. http://bit.ly/CYNarchive1 and http://bit.ly/CYNarchive2 and http://bit.ly/CYNarchive3 and http://bit.ly/CYNarchive4 and http://bit.ly/CYNarchive5 and http://bit.ly/CYNarchive6

Contact me at [email protected]

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undefined - 1608 Discipline is the Bridge

1608 Discipline is the Bridge

Success is not accomplished by running in all different directions. As Jim Rohn said, "Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishments."

Nothing worth having comes easy. So why not stay the course, build consistency, and thrive regardless of the circumstances?

Desire to be supported and encourage by other like-minded women? Join us at Women of IMPACT. http://facebook.com/groups/thewomenofimpact

Sometimes there are days where everything doesn't go your way. Discouragement is the only feeling pumping through your veins.

Yet these moments define how your journey will continue. You can relinquish yourself and give in to your emotions.

OR you can choose discipline.

The choice is yours today. Will you make the choice to accept the challenge that will change the direction of your life?

Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishments.

The K.I.S.S. ~ Be disciplined!

Difficult roads lead to beautiful destinations. You don't want to give up on what you want for the lack of discipline.

So stay the course.

Isn't your dream worth it? Or would you rather go to the grave with your dream locked inside?

Build consistency by doing one thing today that moves you closer to your goal.

Your determination and consistency is what has gotten you here. Not luck. Not chance.

Don't give in to the easy way. Cowards can do that. Instead, discipline yourself by committing to one step. And let it be a small step.

Watch your goal become accomplishments. Success is on the horizon. You got this! Today is a beautiful day to...

"Train for life. Love your journey!"

#Inspiration #CreateYourNow #DailyMotivation

TAKE A.I.M. ~ Action Ignites Motivation - This is a complimentary (FREE) coaching call with me. You will be able to discuss your specific situation and gain tools and strategies to move you forward.

Live. Love. IMPACT! "One step at a time leads to miles of greatness!"

Subscribe to Create Your Now TV on YouTube.

Listen to Create Your Now on Spotify and Pandora.

Listen to Create Your Now on iHeart Radio. Click here.

The Create Your Now Archives are LIVE!! You can subscribe and listen to all the previous episodes here. http://bit.ly/CYNarchive1 and http://bit.ly/CYNarchive2 and http://bit.ly/CYNarchive3 and http://bit.ly/CYNarchive4 and http://bit.ly/CYNarchive5 and http://bit.ly/CYNarchive6

Contact me at [email protected]

THE NO FUSS MEAL PLAN

Instagram @CreateYourNow @Kristianne Wargo

Twitter @KristianneWargo @CreateYourNow

Facebook www.facebook.com/TheKISSCoach www.facebook.com/CreateYourNow

PERISCOPE USERS!!!

Click here for ANDROID Users / GOOGLE https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=tv.periscope.android

Click here for APPLE Users https://itunes.apple.com/app/id972909677

Read more from Kristianne, a contributor to The Huffington Post, MindBodyGreen, Thrive Global, Addicted2Succes, and She Owns It.

https://addicted2success.com/success-advice/5-things-to-do-while-waiting-for-success-to-manifest-in-your-life/

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undefined - 1610 Create Momentum in Your Marriage

1610 Create Momentum in Your Marriage

Once upon a time, you fell in love. And then life happened. There is hope for a dynamite marriage. Get the spark back and create momentum in your marriage.

But first you have to answer the question, do you want real change in your marriage?

Desire to be supported and encourage by other like-minded women? Join us at Women of IMPACT. http://facebook.com/groups/thewomenofimpact

We can complain that our marriage isn't what we want. We can blame the other person for all the faults and failures created by them.

We can use reckless words and critical statements to confirm all that we don't want. It's the Fame of Blame!

However, change in marriage begins with one person. Yes, if having both parties participate, it would be much smoother. Yet just because you are ready and your spouse isn't, does not leave you hopeless.

Real change starts with real habits. Habits that add to the heart of the marriage.

So you get to choose.

Are you continuing to claim the fame of blame?

Or are you ready for a dynamite marriage?

If you desire a dynamite marriage, then use some TNT.

The K.I.S.S. ~ Talk and Touch!

In order to have an incredible marriage, your actions and words must connect; a charge to bring together.

It's relational electricity, TNT!

  • TALK - Talk to your spouse with kindness and love. This is a verbal exchange with your spouse. And your spouse doesn't have to interact either. The requirement is the TALK must build up and not tear down; positivity.
  • TOUCH - Touch is a physical gesture given in love. It's a simple action that conveys "you matter to me"!
"Light up your marriage with some TNT!"

#RelationshipBuilders #CreateYourNow #LoveAndMarriage

TAKE A.I.M. ~ Action Ignites Motivation - This is a complimentary (FREE) coaching call with me. You will be able to discuss your specific situation and gain tools and strategies to move you forward.

Live. Love. IMPACT! "One step at a time leads to miles of greatness!"

Subscribe to Create Your Now TV on YouTube.

Listen to Create Your Now on Spotify and Pandora.

Listen to Create Your Now on iHeart Radio. Click here.

The Create Your Now Archives are LIVE!! You can subscribe and listen to all the previous episodes here. http://bit.ly/CYNarchive1 and http://bit.ly/CYNarchive2 and http://bit.ly/CYNarchive3 and http://bit.ly/CYNarchive4 and http://bit.ly/CYNarchive5 and http://bit.ly/CYNarchive6

Contact me at [email protected]

THE NO FUSS MEAL PLAN

Instagram @CreateYourNow @Kristianne Wargo

Twitter @KristianneWargo @CreateYourNow

Facebook www.facebook.com/TheKISSCoach www.facebook.com/CreateYourNow

PERISCOPE USERS!!!

Click here for ANDROID Users / GOOGLE https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=tv.periscope.android

Click here for APPLE Users https://itunes.apple.com/app/id972909677

Read more from Kristianne, a contributor to The Huffington Post, MindBodyGreen, Thrive Global, Addicted2Succes, and She Owns It.

https://addicted2success.com/success-advice/5-things-to-do-w...

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