The Spiritual Side of Divorce and Evolution with Tamara Rowles

05/01/25 • 34 min

Coparenting Beyond Conflict: Strategies for High-Conflict Divorce and Custody

In this conversation, Tamara Rowles shares her transformative journey from litigation to mediation and divorce consulting. She emphasizes the opportunity for personal growth and healing that divorce can provide, framing it as a hero's journey. Tamara discusses the importance of mindset shifts, accountability, and self-reflection in navigating divorce gracefully. She introduces her app, Divorce Wave, designed to support individuals through the emotional challenges of divorce, offering guided mindfulness experiences and tools for managing communication with ex-partners. The conversation highlights the significance of co-parenting, parallel parenting, and allowing children to form their own relationships post-divorce.
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Keywords
divorce, mediation, transformation, mindset, co-parenting, self-growth, Divorce Wave, emotional healing, accountability, spiritual awakening

Key Takeaways

Divorce can be a transformative experience.
Mediation can resolve cases more efficiently than litigation.
Divorce is an opportunity to rebuild one's life intentionally.
Mindset shifts are crucial for handling divorce with grace.
Accountability is key to personal growth during divorce.
Feeling emotions is essential for healing and self-discovery.
Co-parenting requires setting boundaries and maintaining respect.
Parallel parenting can ease the transition post-divorce.
Divorce Wave offers guided support for emotional challenges.
Responding with kindness can change the dynamic with an ex.

Sound Bites
"It's the quintessential hero's journey."
"Set your intention for the journey."
"Keep your side of the street clean."
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Tamara Rowles and Her Journey
02:04 Transforming Divorce: A New Perspective
04:11 The Hero's Journey Through Divorce
05:45 Mindset Shifts for a Civil Divorce
08:29 Doing the Work: Accountability and Growth
10:09 Spiritual Awakening During Divorce
12:20 Rediscovering Identity Post-Divorce
13:39 Navigating High Conflict Situations
18:26 The Importance of Co-Parenting Dynamics
23:01 Introducing Divorce Wave: A Supportive Tool
27:42 Managing Communication Between Co-Parents
30:59 Building Resilience in Children Through Transitions
32:58 Introduction to Co-Parenting Beyond Conflict
32:59 Understanding the Dynamics of Co-Parenting
33:15 Wrap Up
33:17 Disclaimer

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Key Takeaways

Divorce can be a transformative experience.
Mediation can resolve cases more efficiently than litigation.
Divorce is an opportunity to rebuild one's life intentionally.
Mindset shifts are crucial for handling divorce with grace.
Accountability is key to personal growth during divorce.
Feeling emotions is essential for healing and self-discovery.
Co-parenting requires setting boundaries and maintaining respect.
Parallel parenting can ease the transition post-divorce.
Divorce Wave offers guided support for emotional challenges.
Responding with kindness can change the dynamic with an ex.

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Previous Episode

From Legal Nightmares to Parenting Peace: Lessons from a Divorce Pro with Paulette Rigo

In this episode of Co-Parenting Beyond Conflict, host Sol welcomes Paulette Rigo, founder of Better Divorce Academy, who shares her personal journey through divorce and her transition into divorce coaching. Paulette discusses the common challenges faced by co-parents post-judgment, the importance of effective communication, and the emotional complexities involved in navigating new relationships after divorce. She emphasizes the need for self-reflection and learning from past mistakes to foster healthier co-parenting dynamics and personal growth.
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Keywords
co-parenting, divorce, mediation, parenting plans, emotional well-being, family dynamics, communication, divorce coaching, child development, self-reflection

Takeaways

Paulette Rigo's journey into divorce coaching stemmed from her own challenging experience with divorce.
Co-parents often face emotional and logistical challenges after legal judgments are finalized.
Effective communication is crucial for successful co-parenting, especially when dealing with parenting plans.
Children's adaptability to divorce varies; understanding their perspective is essential.
Self-reflection is key to personal growth and avoiding past mistakes in future relationships.
Divorce is a significant change, not a failure, and should be approached with a growth mindset.
The B-I-F-F method can help manage communication with a difficult co-parent.
Maintaining emotional well-being is vital during and after divorce.
Revisiting parenting plans regularly can help accommodate changing circumstances.
Building a support team, including mental health professionals, can aid in co-parenting success.

Sound Bites
"I believe in love. I believe in marriage."
"The emotional part is a huge shift."
"Divorce is not about blame, it's about change."
"Keep your wits about you."
"The best tool I can teach people is B-I-F-F."

Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Co-Parenting Challenges
05:14 Paulette's Journey to Divorce Coaching
10:19 Common Co-Parenting Challenges
16:46 Navigating New Relationships and Change
22:44 Learning from Divorce: The Importance of Self-Reflection

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Disarming the Narcissist: Expert Strategies for Co-Parenting with Wendy Behary

In this conversation, Wendy Behary, an expert in narcissism and schema therapy, discusses the complexities of dealing with narcissistic individuals, particularly in co-parenting situations. She emphasizes the importance of understanding narcissism, setting boundaries, and using empathic confrontation strategies to navigate relationships with narcissists. Wendy also highlights the impact of narcissism on children and the necessity of breaking the cycle of generational narcissism. Throughout the discussion, she offers hope and practical advice for those affected by narcissistic behavior, encouraging self-advocacy and emotional health.

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Keywords

narcissism, co-parenting, schema therapy, emotional health, boundaries, inner critic, empathic confrontation, parenting strategies, healing, self-advocacy

Takeaways

Narcissism often stems from unmet emotional needs in childhood.
Understanding narcissism can help co-parents emancipate themselves from self-doubt.
Empathic confrontation can be an effective strategy in dealing with narcissists.
Children of narcissists need support to navigate their feelings and experiences.
It's important to set boundaries with narcissistic co-parents.
Narcissists may seek therapy when the stakes are high enough.
The inner critic can be a significant barrier to self-advocacy.
Co-parents should focus on providing a stable environment for their children.
Breaking the cycle of narcissism requires awareness and effort.
Healing from narcissistic relationships is possible, but it takes time and patience.

Sound Bites

"Narcissists are impaired people."
"You can change what's going on in here."
"Narcissism is a generational problem."

Chapters

00:00 Wendy Behary's Journey into Narcissism Therapy
03:26 Understanding Narcissism: Myths and Realities
05:50 The Hope for Change: Can Narcissists Seek Help?
08:21 Co-Parenting with a Narcissist: Strategies for Success
10:41 Setting Boundaries with a Narcissistic Co-Parent
12:49 Empowering Children in a Narcissistic Environment
15:03 Breaking the Legacy of Narcissism
17:41 The Inner Critic: Understanding and Overcoming
19:49 Navigating Parenting Styles: Supporting Children
22:01 Finding Your Voice: Assertiveness in Co-Parenting
24:32 The Power of Empathy and Confrontation
27:00 Final Thoughts: Healing and Hope in Parenting

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Coparenting Beyond Conflict: Strategies for High-Conflict Divorce and Custody - The Spiritual Side of Divorce and Evolution with Tamara Rowles

Transcript

Sol (00:00)
On today's episode, I'm welcoming Tamara Rowles, the creator and host of the innovative divorce support app DivorceWave. She's a passionate attorney, mediator and executive divorce consultant, as well as of Truce Resolutions, a mediation and family conflict consulting practice.
In this episode, we dive into the emotional and even spiritual aspects of divorce, how to navigate the pain, reclaim your identity, and build a new filled with intention.
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