Episode 26 - Learning how to receive help when you go from 0 to 6 kids in less than 4 years with Dallin & Alyssa McEwen

09/20/21 • 58 min

Show Notes:
What comes to mind when you hear the word freeloader? What about mooch? Parasite? Slacker? Or deadbeat? No matter what came to mind, it likely wasn’t something nice. But at the end of the day we all know what it means: someone who takes advantage of the kindness and charity of others who shouldn’t. And almost universally we wouldn’t want to be described like that. But the problem is that none of us really is a “lone wolf”. We all need each other. So how do we appropriately accept and even at times elicit help from others without becoming that freeloader we all despise?
Well our guests today were given a lesson, or better said six little lessons, in how to give and receive help when in less than four years they went from a young married couple with no kids to parents of six and they had to learn how to be willing to receive help in order to just keep things afloat and, later, the value of returning the favor.
Dallin & Alyssa McEwen’s story began when they were 12 years old leading them to finally be in the same place at the same time in college. They’ve been married for 8 years. The first year spent playing college sports and the next two spent trying to grow their family. After a successful first round of IVF they had twin girls join the crew. 18 months later came what they believed to be the biggest surprise of their life when their little boy was born. But then a year and a half later, they got pregnant with triplets! If you’re still doing the math that’s 6 kids in 3 years. As they say, their life is busy and chaotic and filled with love, giggles and a lot of diapers. They wouldn’t change their circumstance for the world, but instead have jumped two feet in to making the day to day not just manageable but enjoyable. On the show today we discuss the following:

Who are Dallin & Alyssa and what do they do (4:08)
How they have 6 kids ages 4 and under (5:43)
What is life like? (10:17)
How structure helps Dallin & Alyssa thrive (12:51)
Learning how to allow others to serve them (14:35)
Dallin & Alyssa's annual ritual that keeps their lines of communication open (20:57)
How they make time for each other every day (25:53)
How Dallin uses the financial pressure of life with 6 small kids to make him better professionally (29:33)
How Alyssa became an Instagram Influencer (38:16)
How Alyssa handles social media trolls (44:08)
How Alyssa balances being authentic and protecting her children (46:36)
What does it mean to them to be a Contender (51:52)

How to learn more about Dallin & Alyssa:

Dallin's LinkedIn
Alyssa's Instagram (alyssa_mcewen)

Additional Books, Individuals, or Items Discuss in the show:

Marriage Communication Book: For All Eternity by John L. Lund

Contact the Host: [email protected]

Giveaway: If you'd like to learn how to get more time back in your day like we talked about on today's episode, send me an email at [email protected] with the subject line "Time" and I'll send you a free copy of my e-workbook "6 Ways to Get More Time Instantly".

Who are Dallin & Alyssa and what do they do (4:08)
How they have 6 kids ages 4 and under (5:43)
What is life like? (10:17)
How structure helps Dallin & Alyssa thrive (12:51)
Learning how to allow others to serve them (14:35)
Dallin & Alyssa's annual ritual that keeps their lines of communication open (20:57)
How they make time for each other every day (25:53)
How Dallin uses the financial pressure of life with 6 small kids to make him better professionally (29:33)
How Alyssa became an Instagram Influencer (38:16)
How Alyssa handles social media trolls (44:08)
How Alyssa balances being authentic and protecting her children (46:36)
What does it mean to them to be a Contender (51:52)

How to learn more about Dallin & Alyssa:

Dallin's LinkedIn
Alyssa's Instagram (alyssa_mcewen)

Additional Books, Individuals, or Items Discuss in the show:

Marriage Communication Book: For All Eternity by John L. Lund

Contact the Host: [email protected]

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Episode 25 - The Pain of Failure and the Joy of Success with Dave Woodward

Show Notes:

Have you ever been so invested in something it becomes part of your identity? So much so that when it disappears from your life, a part of you seems to disappear with it? Our guest today is Dave Woodward and he did the same thing when he tied a part of his identity to his company that in 2008 went from incredibly successful to hundreds of thousands of dollars in debt almost overnight. But that's just part of his story.
Dave Woodward graduated from Brigham Young University. He became Regional Director of Americo, a local Texas firm which he took national in just 2 years’ time. Dave then founded Monopolize, Inc, a direct response marketing agency focused on financial services and the real estate industry. But he recognized a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity when he met Russell Brunson and Todd Dickerson, the two founders of ClickFunnels back in 2014, when the company was just a startup. Russell and Todd felt immediate kinship to Dave and invited him to come onboard. Dave became a vital part of the team as Chief Revenue Officer. The rest, as they say, is history. And for Dave, it’s never about the ‘title’ of CEO...it’s about RESULTS. In addition to his CEO duties, Dave is the energetic host of the wildly popular podcast,
“ClickFunnels Radio.” Dave has a true gift for making his guests feel right at home. So it’s no wonder he gets some of the savviest business owners and self starters on the planet to share
‘never-before-revealed’ sales and marketing secrets on every show. Dave is first and foremost a devoted husband, family man, and avid adrenaline junkie. On the show today we discuss the following:

Who is Dave Woodward and what does he do (3:33)
Dave's Guinness World Record story (5:04)
Dave's choice to not go to medical school (8:46)
How passion and selfless service showed Dave his path forward (12:42)
The trial of losing his company in 2008 (16:40)
What Dave would do differently if he had to do it again (21:41)
How Dave has included his family in his entrepreneurial journey (26:09)
The legacy that Dave is creating (30:29)
What does it mean to Dave to be a Contender (37:48)

How to learn more about Dave:

Additional Books, Individuals, or Items Discuss in the show:

Contact the Host: [email protected]

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Episode 27 - Equity versus Equality in parenting, business, and life with Prof. Brad Agle

Show Notes:
I think it’s almost a universally understood fact of life that the old kids in a family are the guinea pigs and life tends to be very different when you compare the oldest and youngest children in a family. Part of that is that life circumstances change and part of that is that parents get better with time. Generally though, this is because parents tend to use an equity based parenting system and not an equality based system. But what is the difference between equity and equality and how can we use it to more effectively parent? On the show today we talk about this ethical principle and so many others that we can apply in parenting, business, and in life as we strive to make better decisions and have better long-term outcomes.
Brad Agle is the George W. Romney Endowed Professor, and Professor of Ethics and Leadership in the Marriott School of Business at Brigham Young University (BYU). He is founder, chairman, and chief scientist at Merit Leadership and served as a Fellow and chair of the BYU Wheatley Institution Ethics Initiative from 2008 - 2020. Previous to his appointment at BYU in 2009, he spent 17 years as a professor of Strategy, Organizations, and Environment in the Katz Graduate School of Business at the University of Pittsburgh, where he also served for eight years as the inaugural director of the David Berg Center for Ethics and Leadership. His teaching brought the University of Pittsburgh the distinction of being the #2 ranked executive MBA program in the world in business ethics by Business Week. Dr. Agle received a Ph.D. in Business Management from the University of Washington and a B.S. in Information Management from BYU. In 2014 he published the book “Research Companion to Behavioral Ethics in Organizations: Constructs and Measures.” In 2016 he published the book "The Business Ethics Field Guide." Brad and his wife Kristi are the parents of Erik, Lindsay, Christian, and Amanda. On the show today we discuss the following:

Who is Prof. Agle and what does he do (4:18)
The creation of the ethical field guide for the special forces (5:30)
The 13 Ethical Dilemmas (19:53)
The ethics of loyalty and it's application in Nazi Germany (22:22)
How to apply these principles outside your professional life (31:30)
Consequences for not following ethical principles (37:03)
Equity versus equality in parenting (41:22)
What does it mean to him to be a Contender (45:27)

How to learn more about Professor Brad Agle:

Prof. Agle's full BYU Bio
Prof. Agle's Book: The Business Ethics Field Guide

Additional Books, Individuals, or Items Discuss in the show:

Contact the Host: [email protected]

Giveaway: If you'd like to learn what you need to do to be successful in your own life, we're giving away our free e-workbook called “How to Find Your Path to Your Success”. If you’d like a copy, click the link or email me at [email protected] with "Success" in the subject line.