#57 – The Crumbling: What to Do When Your Whole Life Is Falling Apart

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11/01/23 • 40 min

If everything in your life is going wrong or sideways at once, you might be experiencing ... THE CRUMBLING.
It can hurt like hell. It might feel like a personal attack from the universe — or even a spiritual death.
But I want you to know that THE CRUMBLING really is here for your growth and expansion.
When you're preparing to move to a new level, everything unaligned must go. And that includes job, relationships, thoughts, beliefs, and outdated programming.
All that stuff needs burn down in order to make room for what wants to come to you next.
In this week's podcast episode, I'll share:

My own recent crumbling story (welcome to the Great Crumbling of 2023!)
My best guess about why this is all happening and what it means for me in 2024.
Some of the ways I'm handling it well — and not so well. (Vulnerability alert.)
Tips for how to navigate your own crumbling and emerge stronger on the other side.

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My own recent crumbling story (welcome to the Great Crumbling of 2023!)
My best guess about why this is all happening and what it means for me in 2024.
Some of the ways I'm handling it well — and not so well. (Vulnerability alert.)
Tips for how to navigate your own crumbling and emerge stronger on the other side.

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#56 – The People Pleasing Episode (This One's for the Medicine)

My mom will tell you I was an easy, sunny, sweet baby.
What she really means: I never expressed any needs that were inconvenient, embarrassing, or made demands on others.
And if I'm honest, it took me into my 40s to really start taking my own needs seriously. (Better late than never!)
Being direct, setting boundaries, and telling people what I need are still wicked uncomfortable sometimes.
But you know what else is uncomfortable? Constant people pleasing. Making it easy for everyone else. Participating in my own disempowerment.
It's all still a work in progress.
And every once in a while, the universe likes to throw me an opportunity to deepen my mastery in this area.
Like my recent vacation!
In this week's episode, I'll share:

A vacation update (because I know you guys sometimes like hearing what's happening behind the scenes!)
People pleasing tips from two of my favorite podcasts
Some common myths about people pleasing that trip people up on their personal development journeys
A simple, two-part test to help you decide if your urge to please comes from love — or crappy programming
Some of the ways coaching has helped me grow from a people pleaser to a more empowered woman — and some of the areas I'm still working on

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#58 – How to Quit Your Job

Are you feeling unappreciated at work?
Longing for the freedom to set your own schedule?
Or are you a coach who feels pressure to go full time so you can be a "serious" entrepreneur?
If you answered any of the above, this episode is for you!
Today, I'm going to walk through exactly how and when to quit your job.
Spoiler alert: if you're desperate to get out, finding a new job may not solve the problem. You may benefit from doing some thought work and self coaching first.
In this episode, I'll share:

My own story as an entrepreneur who is also still working in my corporate job part time.
Why changing jobs may not actually solve the problem.
Common thoughts about work that sabotage our happiness.
Why our brain focuses so hard on the negative — with work and all areas of life.
How to start thinking new thoughts about work, plus some thoughts that really changed my outlook on my current job.
How to leave your job (or relationship, town, volunteer gig, etc.) from a place of power.

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